Secrets and Lost Thoughts

This is a personal blog of things that I like. Enjoy.

[aetas-aurea]

So many women have internalized the idea that being difficult makes people think less of them, when in my experience the opposite is almost always true. Every single time I have spoken up, voiced what I actually need and refused to shrink the moment in order to be more comfortable for everyone else in the room, I have been approached afterward by people who wanted to know me better. There is no reward waiting for you on the other side of making yourself smaller. People do not love you more for taking up less space, they simply get used to you taking up less space and adjust their expectations accordingly. Every time I have been exactly as audacious as the moment required, it has opened doors rather than closed them and I have made real connections directly because of it rather than in spite of it.

[mooseyondaloosey]

Like if we take the same woman and put her in, I don't know, the late 1800s in the west she probably has no choice but to get married and have as many kids as her husband wants. So probably several. Let's say 10 kids, and she probably starts having them in her early 20s on average. and probably 3-4 of them die in infancy. And this is normal for all the other people she knows too.

That same woman now will likely wait until she's 30 before having her first child, or potentially closer to 40, and probably only has 1 or 2, but they both survive and are well cared for, and she can contribute to the workforce still.

Which of those two conditions is more "natural"? where do we want to set the barometer for "normal"? I would much rather the second scenario because not only is this woman's quality of life better but so is the quality of life of her children. that is the birth rate i want. that's the birth rate i imagine most women want.

birth rates are falling, but they are also STABILIZING to NORMAL, SUSTAINABLE, HUMAN LEVELS. that's my new argument. the drop only looks so severe because women were having too many children before!

[petewentzisblack1312]

the reason men are getting more conservative is very simply that as a class, as a socioeconomic group, their power is being threatened by womens civil rights. its the same reason for the broad surge in right wing politics. its called a backlash and its also why most civil war monuments are from the era of the black civil rights movement and not actually from the civil war.

[gendiebrainrotreceipts]

Aren’t you the ones who wanted their sex changed on all their documents? This is the result

[crow-carrion]

This is a real issue that's affecting women in healthcare because transmascs are sold the idea that there's 0 downsides to changing sex marker on our files. This causes transmascs and detrans women to face sexual assault in medical settings, improper medical care, and even death. Why do you believe "you asked for it" is ok when women identify as trans?

Besides... Doctors not reading the files hurts and kills women who aren't transmasc too. This is not just a little "gotcha" moment. This is something that affects all women. A little solidarity between transmascs, detrans women, and women who were never trans would be a lot better than "this is what you wanted". No, what they wanted was a doctor who would read their damn file.

[gendiebrainrotreceipts]

I’m not saying they deserve it, I’m saying trans ideology hurts the very women they’re trying to help. Putting ‘m’ on a female person’s file is ofc gonna cause problems and misunderstandings

[niiwa-angel]

I'm saying they kinda deserve it. They were warned multiple times by multiple people and they did it anyway.

[shadows-and-starlight]

It's almost like biology matters in medical settings 🤔 and while yeah the doctors/nurses should be doing a full reading of your charts, it doesn't help that you're actively trying to deceive them and everyone by pretending to be the other sex.

[niiwa-angel]

This also has to do with language. If the chart says "male" or has a male sex marker, when you ask for bathroom assistance, the nurse is going to bring you the male bathroom assistance tools. Hospitals are overwhelmed right now, nurses are overwhelmed. This woman made their job harder and is now shaming them for getting the supplies for the sex marker she changed.

[hexagon-club]

There's something that bothers me about the smug "haha, those stupid nurses didn't realize I am female" energy. Maybe they actually didn't realize it, but maybe they did and treated her like she was male anyway because they didn't want to deal with the HR fallout of not playing pretend.

Every other day there's some smug post on here to the effect of "those stupid cis people don't realize that we literally change sex and are biologically the same as the sex we are currently claiming to be." There's enough people in the trans movement who have made it clear that we are supposed to pretend that we are supposed to pretend they are the opposite sex at all times. But sometimes they stop feeling like they want to be treated that way and then they act like we are the stupid ones for following the rules they set.

[loserdogma]

^ there’s an odd air of deception that they find very satisfying, both by passing and in this case the inverse; being capitulated to first and foremost and then posturing themselves as some sort of higher authority figure with a “gotcha!” moment to own the cis person.

[feminist-furby-freak]

Just to add my two cents:

“Read the chart” is very easy to say if you’ve never read a medical chart.

First of all, you know who probably set up that room and placed the urinal? Environmental services or the CNA/tech. Do you expect every member of your healthcare team, literally dozens of people some of whom never directly interact with you, to pour over your chart to determine your sex and gender and anatomy? It’s possible the person who set up the room literally does not have access to the chart.

Also, medical charts can be incredibly convoluted and if the care/procedure was done at a different facility it is literally not in the chart unless you told whoever admitted you and they copy it over in every note.

[finnishrogue]

That's a really good point that @hexagon-club made though. It's like the whole game is about calling other people stupid for not believing in your lies, and then once they do, call them stupid for not realizing the truth. Like "look at me do I not fucking look like a male to you?" and if they say "I suppose", you respond with "dumbass I am literally a female."

I don't know, I just remember this being the kind of strategy antisocial bullies used back in my school days. Like they genuinely thought this made them appear clever and funny, but. It just made them exhausting to have to deal with.

I wish they would use all that energy to actually get themselves treatment.

[yapoholics-anonymous]

if, for society to continue on, women must be subjugated, then it is not "humanity" that benefits. it's is men.

if women are required/forced to be: pregnant, or subservient to men, to allow for a "family structure" and a birth rate that allows for the continuation of society, then this subjugation does not benefit all of humanity; it benefits men at the direct expense of women.

[drbased]

Every parent should have the right to shield their child from religion. This woman is teaching toddlers ‘about their bodies’ whilst wearing a piece of religious clothing that covers up her hair in order to be ‘modest’. Little girls - especially at such a young, impressionable age - should not be learning about their bodies from a woman who thinks her hair is sexual and would tempt men to rape her.

And I find it funny that she would probably deny this, like she would just say she’s following her religion, she likes being modest or whatever. But that’s literally the entire point of the hair covering and we’re all supposed to pretend it’s not.

Yes that commenter could in all likelihood be a Christian, whose religion is also deeply misogynistic, and is likely a racist hypocrite. But. at the very least, the average(!) Christian woman isn’t openly displaying her adherence to a patriarchal rape-culture through clothing that marks her as a woman; an inherently sinful, sexual being whose hair tempts men to rape.

[capricorn-season]

[capricorn-season]

[meanevilandcruel]

Everyone, especially incel men, love this story about the “ugly guy” who bags a “model gf”.

I want to remind you all that this man, David Martinsson, WAS in a relationship. He cheated on his ex, Lullaby, and left her for his current wife, Juli.

Here is a video exposing him

[Image ID: A video of a man, uploaded on YouTube by a channel called “Never Give Up”. The title of the video is “Being Ugly : My Experience”. The video shows a man with short outgrown hair sitting on a chair. He has glasses and a black hat cap on.” End of Image ID]

Men are rarely ever satisfied. Dare I say, never instead. Lullaby gave him a chance, from discord. She met him. They talked for a while. They had a lot in common. Once Juli commented, it was ALL DONE. As soon as a more attractive woman walked in the room, he discarded Lullaby asap.

[Image ID #1: A comment left on the video by a woman whose name is “Juli Romina M. Her comment states “I actually think you’re cute to be honest. I mean it”. The comment has 360,000 likes, pinned by the channel. End of Image ID]

[Image ID #2: A picture of a Lullaby sitting on the left, and David Martinsson sitting on the right. Lullaby has an orange shirt with black stripes. She has dirty blonde hair, a bit longer than her shoulders. End of Image ID]

One— this dives deep when it comes to how society treats “ugly women” versus ugly men. Even when people found out about this, they basically said it was okay. That “things don’t always work out” or saying that he upgraded severely, gassing him up about the fact he cheated and got with a more attractive girl.

I don’t want to think about how these men (and a few women) would react if the shoe was on the other foot. If Lullaby left her boyfriend at the time, David, for a more attractive man. Everyone would be up in arms.

David manipulated the world. He seeked for pity, and he got it. And the world rewarded him for it. He got the ‘hot wife’, he got the life of fame (as his story gets famous like every year), he got the world supporting him because of how ugly he is, yet he has a ‘successful life’ because of the attractiveness of his wife. He is the incel success story.

And I want to bring up some other things as well… ALLEGEDLY David Martinsson abused his ex girlfriend, Lullaby. He guilt tripped her into having sex, he attempted to guilt trip Lullaby into having bondage sex. When Lullaby did not give him sex, he would be mean to her, argue with her about it. He raped Lullaby when they were both drunk as well.

Even worse, he went live, doxxed her, and claimed that she was mean and abusive. He manipulated her, and once again manipulated the world to believe that he is the victim, again.

[Image ID: A screencap of a conversation between Lullaby and David via Discord. Several words and sentences are high lighted in red. Will post the transcript of the screenshots in the next paragraph. End of Image ID]

Here is a transcript of what was said..

Lullaby 09/10/2022

the ultamatum was just to stop the fighting. I didn't think quitting porn would be some big impossible thing to you. but thanks for accusing me of doing "weird mental gymnastics"... I don't even know what you're talking about at this point, it's like you go for maximum emotional damage every single time you're been unhappy with me literally since before I even came to see you. I was so stupid to think we could work this out, you've never wanted what I want. it's so obvious now, I was such an idiot. from the beginning you've just been cold and pushy and sexually fixated, feeding me lines about how you only care about connection and just want a nice woman to treat you well, how you want to be monogamous and be together forever and you're such a nice guy, you just wanted a horny little bondage freak and when you didn't get that, you got angry and you got mean

because I do have a heart and I do have a soul and 1 care about something more than sex. I have a higher purpose and I can't put any man's worldly desires ahead of God's plan for me

Destru aka David 09/10/2022

I have all along been optimistic, hoping things have worked out, and always been giving things endlessly amount of times, hell ive been sexually unhappy for 5 years with you hoping things will one day improve, and even after all that im still here having faith in it, in us.

And then you Force me to make a choise with only one awnser, then you blame me for not having patience and no faith in us? Like what?..

Quitting porn is not the issue again, our sexlife is. When or rather * if " our sexlife would become good id never need porn again, Thats the goal aint it? Both of us being sexually happy and only needing each other?

And you tell me i go for emotionall damage, yet you never think about the things you say yourself, You dont think that things you say or do hurt me? like im made of stone?.

I never asked for a horny bondage freak what even gives you that idea? Wanting to have bondage sex once or twice every 10 days makes me demand a bondage freak? Like nether way i would not be physically strong enough to have bondage sex every day... I have never demanded or asked that, I just want it to exist in my life.

Never pity any man for any reason.

[capricorn-season]

[sisterofrage]

Men love to view themselves as Truman, men love the Truman show, but they're really the Seahaven actors; the wife smiling and yapping about cocoa when Truman's life is falling apart (insensitive jokes, telling us to lighten up after they say something shitty), the actors purposefully distracting Truman whenever he starts to question (dodging questions, arguing in circles on purpose to exhaust us), and using fear to keep us where we are (I guess we can hit you now, right? I guess if we see you being raped, we won't help anymore. Why should we Protect and Provide now?).

Their obsession with "it's all a lie, man! Escape the matrix, man!" media is beyond ironic.

[mysterypuppys]

U literally cannot save your mother like it cant be done

[capricorn-season]

[helenvaughans]

[helenvaughans]

it's interesting to see some conservatives in the replies of this tweet be like "but not all conservatives!!!!!!!!!!" and like while there may have at one point been a place in the academy for the center right, the conservative movement, at least in the united states, has swung so incredibly far to the right over the last 10+ years that the very precepts upon which academic enquiry and the pursuit of new knowledge are based run directly counter to it.

[sisterofrage]

And fuck it, since I'm already controversial, and we're already on the subject of men of color using racism to deny their role in misogyny--every town is a sundown town for a woman. There is no town on earth where a woman is free, safe, and never at risk of stalking, harassment and death at night. Hell, most cities aren't even totally safe in the day for a woman. Even the whitest women I know hesitate to leave their houses at night, pump their own gas at night, walk alone at night if they can avoid it--anywhere.

[galetops]

this is a foundational text to me i can’t believe it hasn’t even cracked 4k retweets

[never-tell-me-what-to-do]

i just heard someone tell me again how much more they love their male gynecologist. "oh the women were so rough but the men were so nice" Why are you so fucking stupid? Why do you think they decided to work on vaginas when they themselves don't have one? "Because his mother died of cervical cancer so he's passionate about gynecology" stfu. if your dad died of prostate cancer would give prostate exams?