The Denial Diaries

three denied sluts our horny musings 20s and 30s

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We’re three submissives (#denialsluts) who have come (or not) together to share our horny ramblings (yappings).

Our individual writings will center around our mutual kinks of orgasm control, chastity, edging, degradation, conditioning, and corruption.

Here’s a little bit about each of us.

s - they/them, pansexual, chastity cage wearing, hedonistic, sadomasochistic switch, very into objectification and low autonomy

r - she/her, bisexual, will one day wear a chastity belt, a good girl, anal slut, very into being praised for being such an obedient denied doll

a - she/her, bisexual, milf, chastity belt wearing, anal-only at times, pretty much always horny and very into being treated like a toy

Here is a Master List of all our posts.

Asks are open. DMs are closed. No minors. We prefer if you’re 20+ to follow and interact. If you’re under 20 or over 50 (men only), you will be blocked. If you don’t have your age in your bio, you will also be blocked.

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This is off topic but it’s bothered me enough so I’m going to say it.

Participating in a misogyny kink in today’s political climate is irresponsible. You can’t claim to be a liberal woman and then say things like your vote should be taken away because you think it’s hot. It’s dangerous. Your misogyny kink overlaps with real world dynamics that are actively being debated and, in some places, intensified. With all the gender power politics right now, the margin for misunderstanding and harm is higher.

If your argument is that it’s consensual and purely fantasy, consider this. There are so many men who will interpret it as endorsing real beliefs rather than engaging in consensual fantasy. I’ve clicked through a few profiles of the blogs that repost our content and add misogynistic tags. I can tell you that most of these men are actual misogynists. People who genuinely hold misogynistic views will use kink spaces as cover.

I don’t care if you’re the one doing it or receiving it. It goes for both.

And before anyone says this is kink shaming, I don’t believe in any “kink” that’s based on someone’s genetic predisposition, or their socialized views given to them.

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Respectfully, this post is kinkshaming.

It's actually a really good example of it too, because kinkshaming is often done out of concern or fear of safety. The hallmarks of what make it kinkshaming are that, instead of addressing the problem, someone chooses to single out kink(s) as the problem, instead of recognizing the kink(s) as either a symptom of the problem or unrelated.

One of the reasons why this is problematic is that kinks are highly influenced by cultural and social behavior. Contrary to what tiktok might tell people, kinks aren't genetic; kinks are born out of behavior caused by your physiology and your social and cultural values. If your concern is for the social and cultural implications of practicing this specific kink that originates from our society and culture, it's important to reckon with the fact that trends in kink often correlate with social and cultural trends.

As we have seen a rise in misogynistic behavior in the world we have seen an increase in people roleplaying with that behavior. It is a way to cope with and recontextualize the behavior or stigma, whether you have been traumatized by it or not. Much like how a horror movie recontextualizes something terrifying and disturbing and repackages it as entertainment.

It's important to remember that when you say we should exclude this kink because it could be unsafe, you're also excluding all of the people who do play with it responsibly and safely. And after excluding them, the underlying problem is still there and most importantly, nothing has been done about it by excluding them.

This is as effective as telling someone who is depressed to abstain from intrusive thoughts. You haven't addressed the problem, and now you've shamed them for having symptoms, exacerbating the problem and making the access to information more difficult. It may not personally be your kink, but publicly coming out against it is not a way to protect people or affect social change.

Instead, what is most helpful is an educational approach. Always make sure that posts are accompanied with disclaimers about how this is play and pretend, if you can. Include links on your profile that explain how to do it safely. State clearly in your bio how your values and beliefs are not tied to your kinks. Emphasize consent always and other basic sex and BDSM tenets. Include information on how to fix the societal problems with action steps people can realistically take. And most importantly, call out the bad actors when you see them. Block them and make it widely known that their behavior is unacceptable.

Having that information readily available is like how harm reduction saves lives and gives people a pathway to get access to treatment. Excluding people into that kink is like how sex workers are made less safe when they're excluded from banking and legislative protections.

If you straight up oppose something and exclude people, you are not going to reach the people you want to reach. You are not going to protect anyone. You are not going to stop any bad actors. You are not going to fight back against the culture being pushed by the extreme right. You are not going to educate anyone. You are only going to make it more difficult to get clear information on the subject, increase the stigma people feel, and make it much more dangerous for the people trying to participate.

If you need to block tags or accounts because you don't want to participate in a specific kink, that's always fine. Your preferences and wellbeing are always important. But publicly singling out a kink without offering any actionable solutions in real life or information on how to do it safely or spot bad actors?

That is what kinkshaming looks like.

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I love when men crash out when I call out misogyny.

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Put a binder clamp on your clit for cumming R.

Put a binder clamp on your dick for sending this ask

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Hi there, R here <3 It’s been a minute since any of us have been active. I figured since I’ve got a bit of an update, now would be a good time to pop in.

Today marked one month of self denial. Which is actually the longest I’ve ever gone on my own. I’m incredibly proud of myself!! I didn’t go into this denial period with the goal of making it a month but somehow here I ammmm. The month long streak did end today, I badly needed a reset.

It’s been a pretty hard month, self denial is incredibly rewarding but quite physically challenging. Telling myself no, stopping when I just wanted to keep going, dealing with drops on my own, the ups and downs of emotions etc etc etc. It’s a lot. But I love it. Goddddd, do I love it. Many more denial goals ahead of me, that’s for sure :)

If you’re at all interested, you can check out my personal blog to see some little updates I’ve made throughout my denial. I didn’t feel like cross posting, maybe I’ll do that in the future. But hereeee she is, @nonchalantslvt . All my lil denial posts are under #denial because…well. Denial, ya know?

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Is there a reason you’re not active anymore? Miss your posts

Just enjoying life atm :) Summer time and all that!

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I love that there is a denial challenge during pride month. It's like a little treat for the queers that are into orgasm control + denial~

Idk if y'all do those challenges but I am and I finally got brave enough to include my girlfriend.

I do self directed denial because whenever someone else denies me it makes me feel panicky (unless it's just for a scene)

If I recall correctly S has experience with self directed denial?

But I was wondering if R or A have experience with it too?

Also how's the denial or not denial going for y'all?

20's (she/her)

PS: happy pride month 🥳💖💕

Helllo, hello! r here :) Are you talking about JuNo? Pride and JuNo in the same month is kinda cute. Good for you and your girlfriend, that’s so fun!!

I’m interested in why being denied makes you feel panicky? Lack of control ? No pressure to answer either, just curious.

I do in fact have experience with self directed denial! I can’t remember how long I was able to go on my own, a few weeks at most. I haven’t talked about it on this blog though. You’re more than welcome to ask questions if you have them! I’m on a bit of a kink break atm but have been dipping my toe into self denial. And by dipping, I mean a day or two haha. But once a denial slut, always a denial slut 💗

Happy pride month to you as well!

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A new phase of denial begins when you realize you want to want to cum more than cum.

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Things I’d rather do than have sex

Suffocate you with a bag over your head, blowing in weed and cigarette smoke

Cane you for indulging in substances

Shock you with a cattle prod repeatedly, promising to stop once your behavior improves. Moving the goalposts to shock you again

Waterboard you until you gasp, sputter, and agree to whatever I want

Make you dig a hole in the yard for me to bury you in

Confine you in the basement while I host an elegant dinner party

Deprive you of sleep, barrage you with noise and sound, torment you with your own senses

Bind you as a scarecrow in the garden, regardless of weather

Mummify you to a bed frame and invite my friends to torture you

Promise you a warm bath and hot meal for suffering through all of the above, only to turn the water ice cold and scrub you down with a rough brush

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The thing about denial, and in particular, when my pussy is denied any penetration, is that it's supposed to be fucked. That's literally its purpose.

I have three holes, but only one of them is meant to be filled. Only one holds any biological purpose. Only one was designed to grip and squeeze and pull you deeper. Only one makes me feel good when it's full and desperately empty when it's not.

When you deny me that, when you use my mouth and ass instead, holes that serve you but do so little for me, it really is the ultimate form of denial. I'm being fucked, technically, but the part of me that needs it most is ignored, wet and useless.

It's a reminder that my pleasure isn't the point. That even when I'm being used, I'm still being denied.

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Hey, could you give us some more insights into the safety of playing with numbing cream? (if it wasn't just fantasy)

Which one did you use? Is it safe to use? What about the amount? How long does it last?

Thanks in advance :)

Hey there!

So, two of us have used numbing cream before (an and s). We’ve answered a previous ask here about it that you might find helpful! We’d say definitely do some research before you use any and don’t go all in your first time! Try a little and see how it feels before you use more. Have lots of fun!

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Even though you’ll do awful things to me, I’m not a victim. Even though you’ll make me cry, we both know I’m very willing.

I’ll put the leash on for you.

I’ll enthusiastically offer you my tits to torture.

I’ll put the shock collar on and beg you to shock me. Even when I start to really hate it.

I’ll willingly sleep on the floor because I want to feel inferior to you.

I'll hold my mouth open for the gag, knowing I won't be able to say a word until you decide I've earned it back.

I'll edge myself over and over because you told me to stop, even when I'm crying and desperate and it feels impossible.

How can I be a victim when I want this just as much as you?

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The Party Weekend: Day 2

This will be a long one, so buckle up.

Holy shit. If the first day was intense, this night blew that out of the water.

I arrived a little early, and went to change. By the time I was ready, there were at least 50 people at the party. Normally, these parties lean pretty kink heavy, but this was a full blown orgy/swinger/sex party/call it what you want.

I negotiated an impact scene with GG, but the place was so packed that we had to relocate the spanking bench. These parties tend to go like a school dance, where nobody plays until someone goes first. I love going first.

GG took her time strapping me down to a spanking bench, and thoroughly beat my ass with just her hands. We pulled the spanking bench in front of a mirror, so I could watch my own suffering take place. I was deeply in subspace, eyes glazed over, and mouth open drooling on the bench. I squirmed and whimpered for each hit, my face sliding back and forth on the bench from my drool. She turned up the intensity near the end, with my fighting against my restraints as she kept hitting that one spot, over and over.

She’d occasionally pause to check on me, and also make out with me. The entire time, I heard comments around me of people watching “oh my god, I’m so jealous.” or “I wish someone would do that to me.” Granted, we had a crowd of 20-30 people watching. I genuinely love hearing these comments, I love putting people in a frustrated state of envy, while also inspiring their depravity.

From the previous evening, GG wasn’t as into the attention of the horny men. So, we negotiated that I’d be more “possessive” of her. Lots of her sitting on my lap, arm around her, lots of making out. We went to the couch to relax, and spent quite a while there.

While we made out, two separate couples blew their men on either side of us. GG eventually wanted to try the gas mask again, so I helped her put one of mine on. The deal was that I’d occasionally suffocate her, but she’d also do it herself, while I bit her body. I absolutely covered her in marks and bruises, relishing in the muffled gasps from the mask. The couples told us that we were a joy to watch during their fun, which… fine lol.

After our fun, we heard big talk of a fisting scene. As in, one of the rooms had a literal line of spectators. We eventually work our way to the front, and witness a man wielding gigantic hands with both fists deep inside another man. Well past the wrist. We watched for a while, but I wanted more attention so we went back to the couch.

GG later helped me break down my outfit, and we walked to my hotel together. I made sure she made it into her uber, and her teases from this post began. I think I made it in bed by maybe 5am, exhausted, and deeply lost in the surreal experiences of the past two days.

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The Party Weekend: Day 1

Sadly, arriving at the city for the party started off pretty terribly. My bags were extensively searched and I had a fair bit of explaining to do to border police about why I barely had clothes, but so many toys.

After settling into my hotel, I changed for the party and headed over. It was so, so nice catching up with friends I’d not seen in nearly a year, and we spent a while admiring each other’s outfits. I also briefly met GG, but we didn’t chat much right away.

The party turned into a sex party pretty quickly, but it was intimate with 15-20 people in total. Someone tied to a bondage chair being forced to cum, while a forced bi scene was going on next to them, while others showed off a new fuck machine. It still amuses me sometimes how normalized this is. Me hanging out on a couch, talking with friends, and looking over to see a threesome or more on the other end of the couch. I love my life.

GG and I mainly hung out together. I caressed her while multiple men lined up for over an hour to worship her legs and ass. Eventually, a friend and I helped introduce GG to the fun of gas masks, where we played the lovely game of “breathe or cum.”

GG was on a bondage chair, strapped down while I pinned her arms above her, with a vibrator between her legs. My friend controlled the breathing valve for GG, and only allowed her vibrator time when she was suffocating. GG squirmed, gasped, and while she suffocated, I beat her thighs, and our friend made all sorts of comments to GG. Lots of “oooh look at this cute thing, someone clearly likes gas masks!” Or “you don’t need your air yet, go on and cum for us. Cum, cum hard.”

GG had a few orgasms, became absolutely enamored with gas masks, and we spent the rest of the night cuddled up on the couch. All in all, it was a pretty solid ice breaker before the real party.

I’d initially felt nervous for the weekend but my time with GG left me so excited, horny, and looking forward to more. I was elated with her trust and vulnerability during the gas mask scene, making me feel really confident about playing more the next day. I definitely had a bit of the “wait… she likes me?” feelings.

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He told me I’m not allowed to call it my cock anymore. He said that it is insulting to him, to use the same word to describe things that are so immeasurably far apart.

To rectify this, he started by making me watch him masturbate. Not just watch, but study. Inches away from him, gagged and attentive. Studying every vein, the change in color as his cock throbs, the shine at the tip.

Next, he’d masturbate but sit down on a dildo. He’d make me study him stretch over it, make me bask in his groans. I’d watch his fist over his cock, hypnotized by the slick, perverse sounds. He’d remind me that caged things don’t get to just fuck anything. That silicone is an infinitely better replacement to anything I could offer.

He’d smack me in the face with it, over and over. Making me feel the weight and the warmth. Sometimes he’d tap my cage with his foot while he did it, laughing at how the plastic rattles. He told me I should remember how a real cock feels, why mine doesn’t exist.

He said caged things only get to please a cock, not have one of their own. I’m caged because it’ll never have a use.

Why give a name to something useless, after all?

(writing credits to our favorite sadist @sundered-sadist for collaborating again)

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I look up at her pleadingly, my lips wrapped around her cock. I’m gagging and sputtering on it, struggling to throat another inch. But I try because it’s Unlocking Day and I’m desperate to please her and earn my pleasure.

As soon as I’m unlocked from my chastity belt each week, she unceremoniously coats my clit with numbing cream. She then lets me spend the day “edging” for her amusement. Those days are the hardest. I rub and rub and rub but all I can feel is dull pressure. I’m usually dripping and crying by the end. Sometimes though, if I’ve been especially well behaved that week, she’ll fuck me with her strap. Those days are my favourite because even with my clit numb, and though I can’t cum from it, it feels so good. It’s the only pleasure I receive now.

“That’s enough, let’s see how well you’ve lubed me up.”

Her strap pops out of my mouth and I’m hoping my messy blowjob has earned me it in my needier hole. I can feel the numbing cream has taken hold, making my clit useless, but my cunt still aches desperately to be filled.

“This isn’t going to work.”

She’s stroking her cock before my eyes. My mouth instinctively opens around the tip to try again but she pulls away, out of reach.

“Your pathetic blowjob isn’t going to cut it today. I think we need something else.”

I kneel waiting, watching as she walks over to the dresser and pulls out a familiar white tube. My heart sinks. She twists off the cap and squeezes out the cream, spreading it along the length of her strap. She adds more. She’s using the numbing cream as lube.

“That’s better. Nice and wet. Get in position.”

My eyes are already watering from throating her. That makes it easier to pretend I’m not starting to cry. I turn around on my hands and knees, lower my face and lift my hips up.

The cream works fast, but it’s not instant. I feel the first thrust. By the third though, it’s just that same dull pressure again, deep but distant.

“Don’t you feel lucky?”

I sob a little, rubbing my face against the floor, but I nod. Because I did get unlocked. Because I did get almost three thrusts. Because compared to the alternative, lucky is exactly what I am.

And just like that, my only crumb of pleasure is taken away. Now when she fucks me, I feel just as little as her strap does. At least she can get off on my suffering.

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Do y'all have a list / want to suggest some of your favourite horny accounts?

Looking for more orgasm control / denial accounts to follow 😅

No worries if you don't feel comfortable answering this of course 💖💕

There’s a few good ones including those we’ve collaborated with! If anyone has any others, maybe share as a comment so we can get a list going :)

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only recently found your blog but its been a treat reading all of your stories!

denial and chastity was always hit or miss (plus a bad experience really soured it for me early on)

your blog kinda inspired me to get back into it and me and mine started experimenting with it this week

been really fun being in chastity while she studies for her exams

we both still have a lot to learn but its been fun seeing her explore it for the first time and warming back up to it for me ☺️

The exploration phase is so fun. We’re really happy to hear that and hope chastity continues to go well for both of you.