this took me far too long to learn, so Iâm going to tell you something that you need to internalise.
you donât have to tell people anything you donât want to tell them. itâs not rude or disrespectful to be private about things. you donât owe anyone that information, so how could it be wrong to withhold it?
queer but donât want to come out? donât!
have a trauma disorder but donât want to tell people what your trauma was? donât!
disabled but donât want to talk about it? thatâs right, simply do not!
practice telling people to go away when they ask invasive questions.
the responses Iâve been using in particular are âthatâs between me and my therapist/doctorâ, and âwhy does it matter to you?â
you donât need a âreasonâ to want to keep things to yourself. you donât need to tell someone your entire history so that they can label you as âvalidâ.
donât tell people information you donât want to share.





















