There’s lots of shitty figures on adoption.
1. Children put up for adoption actually don’t have fantastic chances of being adopted. There is definitely a hierarchy of preference; white neurotypical male babies are adopted most frequently, followed by white neurotypical female babies. Black babies of both sexes are actually adopted so infrequently that some foster care systems have *lowered the monetary requirement necessary to adopt*–that’s right, they have the best intentions, but they have literally made black children worth less than white children. So if you’re black or half-black or hell, anything other than white and you put up your oops!child for adoption, you are playing roulette with a child’s entire life and future. Because…
2. Adoptees have a higher rate of abuse. There are a lot of sick people out there who are unfortunately vetted by the foster care system and the adoption agencies, and they end up with kids who then later end up tortured and murdered. They don’t do this to their biological children by the way, just the adopted ones.
3. The children who do not get adopted have crap chances at life in general, due to malnutrition, years of emotional and psychological neglect, and no few of them, having grown up in state care, end up committing crimes and then end back up in state care (re: prison). Obviously this doesn’t happen to every child, but it happens often enough that we have reliable figures on it.
4. I mentioned neurotypical earlier. God help the baby put up for adoption if they have autism, bipolar disorder or schizophrenia (which can occur as early as 6), or seizures (enter Dravet’s Syndrome, which strikes in the first year of life and by age 2, one sufferer was having 100 seizures AN HOUR). And let’s also talk about health; any sort of mitochondrial disease (which is harder to treat and diagnose than motherfucking CANCER), cystic fibrosis or cerebral palsy, or hell, even migraines–yes, children get migraines too! There is little-to-no help for children put up for adoption in these circumstances. Even at the best of times in the best of families, these are huge struggles. But a child with no family…? Go ahead, think about that. Really THINK about that suffering.
I once heard it said that the true tragedy is not an aborted child, but an unloved one. Let’s face it, the aborted child never knows the difference. But the unloved one, the neglected one, that child suffers every day.
I’m not saying that children should never ever be put up for adoption because there are legit cases–physical abuse, unfit parents (drug or sexual abuse, poverty is not an excuse to take kids away)–but I hope this post makes it glaringly obvious that “put the baby up for adoption” is not the blanket answer that pro-lifers say it is.
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