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What To Keep In Mind When Looking At Shops

When first looking for a shop, regardless of feeling called to a spirit or not, it can be hard deciding on what shop to choose! Here are some questions I made to keep in mind when looking at any spirit companion shop (last updated 4/2/2019).

​How long they’ve been conjuring and how do they do conjures? How long has their shop been open for?

Are they over 18? Do they allow people under 18 to work in their shop? Do they offer services to minors (and if so, do they have some sort of parental permission form)?

How knowledgeable are they on the species they work with? What info do they provide on the species? Do they have information about the species readily available on their page or website?

How long have they been working with the spirit and/or species? Do they get to know the species first before listing spirits from it?

How long do they vet? What is their vetting process?

What complaints are there against the shop? How have they responded to them?

What are their beliefs around bindings/conjuring/vetting/etc?

How many reviews do they have? Are the reviews reliable? (I made this post on what to look for when reading reviews!)

Do I get along with them? Do I feel like I agree with what they say?

Do they have basic information available to newbies?

Do they market specifically towards newbies? Do they attempt to only offer their spirits as “beginner friendly” in order to profit off those who are starting out?

Do they offer spirits that are from other shops or companions? Did they contact the previous conjuror before listing the spirit? Did they confirm that it was a mutual separation between spirit and companion? Do they still vet the spirits being rehomed?

Do they offer out spirits that have been previously abused?

Do they offer out children spirits? (I would not recommend working with any shop that offers child spirits)

Do they have many spirits listed? Ask them how they are able to vet so many at the same time, and how much time is spent with each individual spirit.

Do they interact with the spirit while waiting for a companion, or do they ignore the spirit until someone applies to the listing?

Do they make outlandish claims, often saying that they are the only ones able to work with deity type spirits or claim to have the most experience?

Do they put down others in attempts to make themselves and their shop sound better?

How do they interact with their potential customers? Are they easy to communicate with? Do they make sure to answer your questions?

How do they interact with their former customers? Are they willing to help out after the binding is done?

What is their pricing system? What is their reasoning behind the prices?

What information do they send to the companion? How long/detailed are their profiles?

Ask them how their practices have changed throughout the years. What is something they feel they can improve upon?

How do they interact with the community and other shops?

What methods do they use for payment? Do they allow payment plans?

How long does it take for them to complete a binding after payment? How long does it take them to ship out vessels or send the spirit’s profile?

How do they respond to questions? How do they deal with people who doubt their services? How do they deal with criticism?

Are they consistent with their information? Do they seem to contradict themselves often?

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Talking To Spirits Via Pendulum

A lot of people seem to have issues using pendulums to get specific answers, to identify a spirits species or to find out things about who they are or how they look so here are some basic questions that can be answered with yes no or maybe. Honestly this is all just like playing that game Guess Who. 

What Are You

Are you a ___? : pretty basic just go down the list of all the things you can think of until you either run out or get a yes.  

EX: Demon, Angel, Vampire, Werewolf, Shapeshifter, Hellhound, Harpy, etc

Are you more animal like? (Dragons, hounds, etc)

Are you more humanoid?

Are you a human spirit?

Are you a Death related spirit ?? (Dullahan, Grim, Reaper, Banshee, etc)

Are you an elemental spirit? (fire, earth, water, air, ice, snow, lightning)

^^this is usually a subcategory. For example if you get water and faerie you are looking for a species of fae connected to water

Are you connected to a specific religion or culture

If yes specify which and then go through the list? religion? Abrahamic? Culture? Irish?? 

This is where shit get touchy so be respectful of other cultures and their spirits okay?

Are you something I already work with?

For spirit workers with a large spirit family this could be helpful

If you get a maybe it likely means that they are but a different type. Say you get a maybe and when you go through the types of spirits you work with you get a maybe for vampire. They are likely a different type of vampire than the one you already work with

Is you’re species one well known / known at all by humans?

Yes this does happen, and yes it complicates things a bit

Do you know what humans call you’re kind?

This happens occasionally usually with demons or subcategories of bigger species labels (angels, demons. etc)

Who Are You

Are you male?

Are you female?

Are you both/ neither male and female?

Do you use She/Her | He/Him | They/Them pronouns

Do you have a sexual orientation? 

Are you more masculine physically ?

Are you more feminine physically?

Do you feel neither human gender fits your physical description?

Do you have a birthday?

Go through all the months until you get a yes then do the same with the days. You will not likely get a year

Are you older than 100?

Ask in large intervals until you start to get more specific. ‘are you over 100?’ YES ‘over 200?’ NO ‘Over 150′ NO ‘Over 130′ Yes ‘over 140′ NO  ‘I31 ‘NO ‘132′ NO ‘133′ YES , boom now you know their age in human years.

Are you taller than 5ft?

Basically the same as the age one but with height ‘are you over 5ft’ Yes ‘Over 6ft’ NO ‘5′5?’ YES

Do you have hair?

Do you have long/short hair?

Is you’re hair Brown/Black/Blonde/etc

Is you’re hair a color humans could have naturally? Green/Purple/Pink/White/Gold

Is you’re hair made of something other than hair? Fire/Feathers/Snakes/Tentacles

Do you have eyes?

One eye? Two? Three?

Do you have pupils?

Are you’re eyes one solid color?

Are you’re eyes more than one color?

Brown? Gold? Blue? Green? Red? Gold?

Are you’re pupils like mine? Like a cats? Like a snakes? Like a goats?

Are you’re sclerae white? Black? Pink? etc

Are you pale?

Is you’re skin dark? 

Is you’re skin a color humans usually have?

Do you have scales/fur? 

Are you’re teeth pointed? 

Are you’re ears like mine? Long/Short and pointed? Like a satyr/fawn (reference)? 

Do you have sharp nails or claws?

Are you’re feet like mine?

Are you’re feet like an animals?

Do you have wings?

Do you have a tail?

Do you have horns?

Do you have more than two arms?

Can you shapeshift / Do you have a more humanoid form

Usually a question for things like hellhounds and hellcats who in most cases can switch between an animals and human form

Other 

Do you want a vessel?

Can you assist me with a specific form of magic/witchcraft

Blood magic? Dream Work? Energy work? Astral travel?

Have I ever known you in a past life? 

be careful with this one, don’t be manipulated. Also even if they did know you in a past life it does not mean they know what is best for you now

Do you have have a preferred type of offering?

Food? Incense? Energy? Blood? Music?

Are there specific ways we can bond?

Movies? Reading? Witchcraft? Art? Music?

Do you feed on energy? Blood? Physical food? Etc 

Do you have a preferred method of communication?

Pendulum, Tarot, Ouija, Runes, Telepathy

Will you be able to help protect me from other spirits?

never really completely on spirits to protect you, protect yourself

Do you have more than one physical form

Do you have certain gemstones you like?

Would you like you’re own space (kinda like an altar but not)

Do you understand my house rules?

Pendulums

Where can I get pendulums?

This shop HERE has some very nice pendulums for very nice prices. You can just look up pendulum on etsy or amazon and get a lot a good options

Pendulum Boards

The board I use

Simple pendulum board

Moon phase pendulum board

Basic pendulum board

**Keep in mind that you do not have to have a fancy pendulum board on a piece of wood or anything like that you can just print one out or draw one  **

How To Use A Pendulum

Pendulum 101

Pendulums: A How To

Pendulum Guide 

Pendulum Divination

Tea Bag Pendulum

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Astral Travel: Clairvoyance

Alright, so, I’ve talked a bit about how clairvoyance isn’t everything in the astral, and I’ve tried to explain to numerous beginners why they need to drop their “gold standard expectations.” Still, I can’t help but feel I’m not getting through to some of you behind that iron wall of self-doubt.

I’d like to drive my point home once and for all with a visual reference, which is something I’ve never personally encountered (not saying it doesn’t exist out there). Let me give a quick disclaimer that this is based on my personal experience. I’m pretty confident in putting it out there due to the fact that it matches up with what others describe, but don’t panic if this doesn’t ring true for you in some fashion. As a final note, keep in mind that this post is aimed at aspiring astral travellers who are building their skill from the ground up (in other words, folks who weren’t born with their third eye wide open).

The Gold Standard (AKA “What You’re Expecting”)

Behold, the “HD 1800p Clairvoyance” most beginners dream of, aspire to, and hate themselves for not achieving after a stubborn week of practice. Please, please stop that. Listen to me: what you see above is a level of clarity that isn’t even achievable on the physical plane for some people. Think about that. Just sit down and think about that.

Can you see the photo above with natural 20/20 vision? If you said yes, don’t take that for granted, ‘cause that’s a biological privilege. Even more important, if you said yes, ask yourself this: would your experience on this plane be any less real or important if you couldn’t see perfectly (or at all)? Would you doubt the reality of your experiences here? I’m going to assume you just said “no.” Great! Time to hammer this nail a little deeper.

The Common Reality (AKA “What You’re Doubting”)

Are you squinting? I sure am. Kind of frustrating, isn’t it? But it is what it is. Chances are, if you’re just starting out, you’re going to spend a lot of time looking at, well, that. -points above- Know something though? It’s real. If you can’t accept that as your starting point, well… I hate to tell you, but you’re probably going to waste away waiting for a miracle to move you past the years of practice and determination that are required for most folk to sharpen their “second sight.”

That’s about all I have to say on the matter. Remember, “your mileage may vary.” I’m just putting this out there for the sake of those who share my experience. I know a lot of beginners I’ve talked to idolize those of us who seem to astral travel effortlessly. Take this as a friendly reminder: I, for one, was where you are once. I was not born with perfect clairvoyance. I have not achieved “the gold standard.” I depend on ALL my clair senses to have a rich experience on the astral. I did not develop my skills overnight and you shouldn’t expect to either. Chances are? The only thing standing between you and the astral is that big ol’ iron wall of self-doubt. Kick that thing down. Good luck! <3

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House Rules

So for those of you that are spirit keepers/companions, or are spirit workers of any frequency, you may know a bit about house rules. Now keep in mind, you don’t need to have house rules. Some don’t find that they need them, some prefer not to have them. I choose to have a set of house rules because I find that for me, it helps bring a little peace and harmony to my house, and that if anything did go wrong, I have something to refer to. Anyone in my house, be it astral being, spirit or entity, from white arts to dark arts to black arts, is expected to follow these rules while they are part of my household/in my house.

These are my house rules. Feel free to use them if you like, modify them, add/subtract as you see fit. I have had a lot of success with these so far, and no incidents. Depending on who is in your family/keep/court, you may need to add rules, or subtract them. But these are what work for me & my family. What is in bold is my actual rule, and then I will expand upon the rule if I see fit.

1. Never harm or show disrespect to myself, my significant other, any other member of my family, friends or welcome household guests. This is obvious… I don’t want any of my spirit family hurting each other, nor do I want them hurting any human or animal that is welcome in my house.

2. Never harm any children or pets.

3. Never show yourself to anyone besides myself in your true form, unless your true form is something that would not scare them. (Example: If it is a child, appear as something child friendly.) I have a few not so pleasant looking family members, or some beings that in their true form are pretty terrifying. I wouldn’t want them showing themselves to a child or an adult.

4. Sexual contact is only welcome with me and will not be permitted with anyone else. Basically just don’t go touching my boyfriend or anyone else, they don’t appreciate it. 

5. No physical manifestations at work in front of anyone but myself. Patients and coworkers are not to know about you. Some of you may not need this, but I work with the public and don’t need a spirit manifestation scaring patients away.

6. Protect yourself at all times. If something comes up and I can do something about it, I will help. 

7. Do not hamper with communication. This covers and includes communication between yourselves, or with me. If I am working specifically with one or with one group, I don’t need anyone else butting in and hampering that communication. Wait until I am done.

8. Do your part for the highest good of the household, including all spirits, entities, astral beings & other. All living people, spirits, entities, astral beings & other shall work at living together peacefully. Bullying wont be tolerated, if you have an issue, contact me.

9. We work as a team, with me being the team leader. If you have suggestions, tell me. If you are unsure to my wishes, ask me or look within. If they have doubts about something, my family is always welcome to “look within” for my wishes, if I am for some reason unavailable to ask. 

10. No twisting my words.

11. No lying. Do not pretend to be something/someone you are not. Do not make anything up to make someone else look bad.

12. Disarm malicious magic that is sent my way by someone else or that is around by circumstance.

13. Keep watch over property & always be ready to act against any pending issue.

14. Help identify any possible conflicts. Help judge the character of people, spirits, entities, astral beings & other around us. This has actually been a useful rule in several situations. Its really two rules condensed into one, as well, but its how I have it written in my notebook.

 Thats it! They are fairly long, but also fairly basic, and cover the essentials. Most rules are pretty obvious, but I would rather state the obvious then regret not stating the obvious later on. Again, this is just what I use for my house rules (its nice to have a digital copy on here as well) - you can use them if you like, add/remove rules as needed. & if you don’t do spirit work, or have spirits in your regular household, you don’t even need to have this.

Enjoy!

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Common Worrying Themes in Spirit Shops

As the title suggests, this is about all of the worrying themes I see in both paid and free spirit shops, more often in free shops. This is not to say that a shop that has one of these is bad, but they can be red flags towards a fraudulent or untrustworthy shop.

• Almost all of the spirits were abused / harmed before coming to the shop.

This is a very common thing to see on Tumblr, but rare in other spirit work circles. A lot of shop owners, especially social ones, try to make themselves out as a saviour and try to have grandeur in the eyes of others. If a spirit was abused, especially by another spirit, what qualifications do they have to be rehabilitating those spirits? What protections do they have to prevent the spirit from being harmed again?

• They claim to have “many spirits waiting” or claim to have upwards of 100 spirits in their realms.

This should be a huge red flag. One, how can someone possibly be a companion, vet, and work with over a hundred spirits on the daily? How did they meet all of these spirits? Do they claim to have a “facility” where they work with them? Be very cautious as this can imply sketchy vetting, keeping, and treatment towards the spirits. Shop owners should treat each spirit as a companion before adopting them out.

• The shop’s vetting process is less than three months.

This ESPECIALLY applies to reverse adoptions and custom conjures. If you are getting a newly conjured companion, they require even more thorough vetting than a spirit they have been working with for even a month. RA and CCs should be a process of at least three months, any less isn’t adequate time to get to know the spirit and make sure they are safe for working with. Even more experienced conjurers should uphold at least a two or three month vetting process. Any less is very sketchy.

• The shop owners are under 18, or adopt out to minors.

This is due to laws. For a shop in the US, there should be a disclaimer somewhere on the website that states their services are for entertainment purposes only. The shop owner should be 18 or older, as unless a parent signs off as the owner, it is illegal to own a business while under 18. Adopting out to minors is a worrisome practice, as US laws are that no one can offer spiritual help or consolation to a minor without parental consent. Even for psychic readings or, even a pendulum reading performed on a minor could result in the parents sueing the shop owner if the parent did not consent to their child having that done. Adopting out a spirit to a minor should, most definately, be done with only written parental consent.

• The conjurers have been caught in lies about their age or practices.

Rather self explanatory, but it’s very sketchy for someone who you’re entrusting with spiritual safety to be lying about their processes, age, or experience level.

• They share a spirit’s name, close held nickname, or a very detailed description of the spirit.

This is worrisome in the fact that sharing a spirit’s real name can result in them being forcefully conjured away from the companion or conjurer. Vividly detailed descriptions, nicknames, as well as even drawn pictures of the spirit can also result in someone being able to pinpoint their energy and potentially harm or forcefully kidnap the spirit. Shops that provide so much detail that you can picture the spirit completely are pause for concern.

• They are listing a spirit that was someone’s companion.

Spirit workers who “raid” astral spaces and kidnap spirits they believe to be abused, or if they simply don’t like the person they stole from, are very dangerous. Often someone like this is the abusive one, and very very few “raids” I’ve heard of were actually justified. Stealing someone else’s companions is pure evil and this should immediately make you turn your back on a shop.

• They seem to cut all contact after you work with them.

A conjurer should be keeping tabs on all of the spirits they’ve adopted out, and checking up on them every once in a while. If they stop contacting and seem to have forgotten about you and your companion, they are likely untrustworthy.

• The spirits all seem to mimic the shop owner and lack emotional, personality, and/or historical depth.

If you notice this, the conjurer is likely not experienced enough to know the difference between a thoughtform and a true spirit. Odds are they have adopted out constructs to many people. While a thought form is not inherently bad, if you are looking for a spirit companion, a thought form, especially a bad one, will provide almost nothing akin to a true spiritual companion.

• Spirits they’ve adopted out seem like a statistic to them, or they seem to only care about listing and adopting out multiple spirits at a time.

Again, rather self explanatory, but this is still important to note. A spirit adoption centre or shop should never have a “quota” that they feel they need to fulfill. If they do, and they say it’s due to the surplus of spirits waiting, see the second bullet point. This raises huge questions and concerns about how the entities are being treated in their hands.

I hope this helps everyone stay safe and alert with the spirits and spirit shops they encounter!

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🎈Quiet Ways To Interact With Spirit Companions🎈

I see lots of posts on how to communicate and interact with spirit companions, and they’re great, but many involve lengthy conversation (or one-sided dialogue) between the human and their companion. Even if the dialogue is all through thought, some people prefer to be quiet inside and out, so here’s some tips for you quiet friends!

🎈Draw something that your spirit companion will like, or that has meaning to you both.

🎈Lie down and just relax with your companion. No words necessary, just feel each other’s presence.

🎈If your companion has a vessel, hold it or touch it and meditate.

🎈Communicate through feeling, instead of talking. Let your companion feel what you feel, and allow yourself to feel what they feel.

🎈Make two cups of tea or coffee and drink with your companion.

🎈Read a book, watch a movie, or play a game, and let your companion watch/read along.

🎈Go on a walk in nature with your companion.

🎈Play Solitaire or other one-person games, and let your companion help/play through you.

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Spirit Communication Tips

Since I just opened my spirit companion shop recently, I wanted to share some tips for you guys! These tips will generally help in connecting with unbound spirits, but can be useful in spirit communication with companions as well!

Things to keep in mind before doing any sort of spirit work:

Believe in yourself, belief holds power

Let go of doubt, stop worrying about accuracy

Your intent holds incredible power, be aware of it

Feel and sense first, analyse last

Release all expectations of what will happen

Release all tension and preconceived notions

Balance your energy, empty your mind

Research personality ties of colours/elements/etc

Don’t rely on divination, especially not at first

As for the communication with a spirit:

Find your intent for spirit communication. Attempt to picture it in your mind, try to perceive it the best way you can. It does not need to be anything specific, but what you think is what you invite, more or less. Understand well what you want to draw to you, and make sure you don’t let your mind wander while you are doing this. If you wish to communicate with a companion, picture them, their energy, and what you want out of the communication with them.

You can also create a visual space in your mind to have your conversation in. This is more along the lines of astral travel, but you will receive the same sort of impressions, it just might appear more fluid. Typically this takes a lot more focus though and you’ll miss out on impressions outside of visual impressions. I don’t suggest this for communicating with a spirit that you are unfamiliar with.

Associate your intent with something physical. If you want to communicate with a spirit that is emotionally forward, you will probably want a spirit of the water element. Having a cup or bowl of water will assist in drawing a spirit of that nature to you by giving them another medium. Be as creative as you wish with this, whatever physically expresses your desire for spirit communication will do. In the case of a spirit companion, this will suffice as an offering or a gift to them!

Contact can come through in small pieces, or large chucks of information, and is often garbled and hard to process. Let the information come to you but don’t process it as it does. Also be patient! When just starting out you might only get the impression of a colour, or a feeling! Do not be discouraged.

Spirit communication can happen by request, but it can also happen quite randomly. Always be aware that a spirit can communicate with you at any time, if for whatever reason they are drawn to the activity you are doing, or your energy.

Some contact may seem insignificant, but don’t dismiss any impressions, even if they are simply of a certain colour or smell, they most always have a deeper meaning

Contact may be visual, audible, or sensory, don’t dismiss the medium of communication either. It can be a combination of all of the above, or even just one of the above. 

Contact might not be triggered when you expect it to! Even a change in the weather, or a song on the radio can pave the path to having an impression or contact from a spirit. If you’re not seeing results, spice things up a bit, try a slightly different approach!

Go with your first thought of belief, don’t second guess or question anything, not yet anyway. Feel and sense first.

Pay attention to patterns and coincidence! Having a good understanding of mathematical probability will help you distinguish when a spirit is influencing your environment and when they are not. This is particularly useful during divination! I always know a spirit isn’t communicating with me, or is not at a good energy level to communicate because the results are random and don’t follow a pattern that makes sense. So I think it is important to keep an eye out for patterns and coincidence in your life, even though it is not directly obvious as communication, it is.

Write it all down, don’t think about it just write down everything that comes to mind, scribble all the impressions that come to you no matter how much sense they make at the time. They’re all puzzle pieces to a puzzle that you’ll process later, might be months later. Do not dismiss anything as not spirit contact if that is the first thing that comes to mind. You do not need to confirm it, just write it down! If it becomes a pattern that is your confirmation.

Hold off on divination until you have experienced impressions from a spirit, and have some understanding of their energy and a pattern of their behaviour. When starting to confirm your spirit communication with divination, ask questions you already know the answer to! It will take time to channel the spirit through a reading, so don’t ask hard questions until you see a pattern of accurate results. I wish it was as simple as just doing a reading with a spirit you don’t know, but it takes familiarity for an extremely accurate reading.

Practice all of this often, even if you don’t get results, results and better accuracy come with time. It takes a considerable amount of energy to receive information from a spirit, which only comes with practice and becoming accustomed to doing so.

I hope this assists at least some of you in your spirit work and with your companions! Don’t forget that my ask box is always open, no matter how silly your question might seem!

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Small Things To Contact Spirits About

…If you want to flex your communication muscles but don’t want to be cutting deals or making things complicated for now. Just little things to try.

Let me hear a love story

Show me a song from your people

Tell me something you did today that you are proud of

Let me draw a portrait of you

Tell me a little about your culture

Ask me any questions you may have about human culture (and I will answer them, if I can.)

Look at this song/story/poem I wrote, tell me what you think.

Tell me my local reputation, if I have one.

Tell me your story (and if desired, I will record it and pass it on for more to see.)

Share a joke.

Let me admire your beauty/grace/powerful appearance/plumage/scales/wings/great personality

Tell me about your friends

What is your one big token of advice?

Teach me how to make my home more welcoming for you (while still being safe for me.)

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There are currently 3 RA spots open and 1 CC spot open! Please feel free to submit applications!

- Mod Miranda

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Welcome to the Bird Haven Spirit Sanctuary and Companion Adoption Center!

We are currently in the process of vetting spirits to post for adoption. In the meantime, feel free to check out our links, learn more about us, or sign up for an available RA/CC while you wait.

- Mod Miranda