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“So staying locked till Xmas would be 35 days in a row... that makes me a good boy and deserve an unlocked wank as a present, right?

“It might just be the angle, but my poor balls look huge with a load just dying to burst out... 😭 #gay #chastity #gaychastity #malechas

boysobey29-deactivated20181204

thekinkygaynerd

Using this as my profile pic on chatting apps for the month! 😜

Credit to original artist @cbt-asia !!

A few people have asked for my Kik so here it is: thekinkygaynerd

#me

temptingdominance

What are the top 6 traits you desire in your ultimate ideal sub?

1. An interesting human being. Lately I’ve come to a very defined point when it comes to my own interactions with someone I’m attracted to. There has to be something there. It cannot be all physical attraction. The gears must turn. There has to be passion for something Beyond sex. A drive to make the world better. An interest in a vocation. The desire to learn. The unequivocal Wanderlust.

2. Acceptance of what you want. I’m not saying you have to figure it out everything. There’s plenty to explore. But I want you to know that you want something. I don’t want to force you. I don’t want you to fake it. I don’t want you to pretend. I want you to love what I love.

3. An understanding of the line between fantasy and reality. This is perhaps the greatest problem of the internet age. Tumblr. Grindr. Recon. You have to know what is pretend and what is real. Know that someone cannot be submissive 24/7 nor can they be dominant for just as long. Know that there’s a time and a place for everything.

4. Embrace Humanity. A boy is not an object to me. He is a person. He’s a beautiful being. He deserves my respect. I will not dehumanize you. I will still do all the things you desire including humiliation play. But I cannot use you and toss you away. To this end, I say there’s just as much joy and fucking while you’re tied to the bed as there is going to Dairy Queen and getting a Cherry dipped cone.

5. Offer and accept affection. I can’t tell you how many times people have told me that I don’t look the part of a dominant man. I look too sweet. I look too innocent. I have a fire deep in my heart that comes out in the passionate form of restraints and control. But I do like to feel another person. I want to touch you. I want to be close to you. I want to kiss you. I want to embrace you.

6. Have personal Drive. I don’t want to be your sugar daddy. I don’t want you to be lazy. I don’t want you to live an unfulfilled life. I want you to pursue your dreams. I want you to follow a career that makes you happy. I want you to embrace the intellectual abilities that you have and partner them with my own so that we can both attain our joy in our professional lives. Money doesn’t have to be everything. You could want to change the world. And I’ll still hold your hand. I just want you to want something more.

*Prologue*

The most striking part of this list to me is that it still has not been obtained. Perhaps I’m too selective. Perhaps I ask too much. I’m a good man with a good heart and an extensive gear collection. I want to be happy. I hope I can find it.

thekinkygaynerd

Yes!! Too many expect the façade that is our online profile to be all that we are at all times in real life...

slavetrainer77-deactivated20190

The Nine Degrees Of Submission

1) The outright non-submissive masochist or kinky sensualist Not into servitude, humiliation or giving up of control; just pain and/or spiced-up sensuality, on the masochist’s own terms for the masochist’s own pleasure (ie: being turned on solely or mainly by one’s own bodily sensations, rather than being turned on by being “used” to gratify one’s partner’s sadism).

2) Pseudo-submissive non-slave Not into even playing “slave”, but into other “submissive” role-playing, e.g.: schoolteacher scenes, infantilism, “forced” transvestism. Usually into humiliation, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the scene to a large degree.

3) Pseudo-submissive PLAY slave Likes to play at being slave. Likes to *feel* subservient; may in some cases like to *feel* that one is being “used” to gratify one’s partner’s sadism; and may even really serve the dominant in some ways, but only on the “slave’s” own terms. Dictates the scene to a large degree; often fetishistic (e.g. foot worshippers).

4) True submissive non-slave Really gives up control (though only temporarily and within agreed upon limits), but gets his main satisfaction from aspects of submission *other than* serving or being used by the dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up of responsibility. Doesn’t dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seeks mainly his own *direct* pleasure (rather than getting one’s pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant).

5) True submissive PLAY slave Really gives up control (though only temporarily; only during brief “scenes” and within limits) and gets his main satisfaction from serving and being used by the dominant - but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. (May or may not be into pain, but if so, is turned on by pain *indirectly*, ie: enjoys being the objects of one’s partner’s sadism, on which the submissive places few requirements or restrictions.)

6) Uncommitted short-term but more-than-play semi-slave Really gives up control (though usually within limits); wants to serve and be used by the dominant; wants to provide practical, non-erotic as well as fun, erotic services; but only when the “slave” is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for, say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of the agreed upon several days). May or may not have a long-term relationship with one’s Master, but, either way, the “slave” has the final say over when he will serve.

7) Part-time consensual but REAL slave Has ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship, and regards oneself as the Master’s “property” at all times. Wants to obey and please him in all aspects of life - practical/non-erotic as well as fun/erotic. Devotes most of one’s time to other commitments (eg: job) but the Master has first pick of the slave’s free time.

8) Full-time live-in consensual slave Within no more than a few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards himself as existing solely for the Master’s use, pleasure and well- being. The slave in turn expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of the traditional housewife, except that within the S/M world the slave’s position is more likely to be fully consensual, especially if the slave is male (since men certainly aren’t socially pressured into this kind of lifestyle). Within the S/M world, a full-time “slave” arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional marriage.

9) Consensual total slave with no limits A common fantasy ideal which probably doesn’t exist in real life (except in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the “consent” is induced by brainwashing and/or social or economic pressures, and hence isn’t fully consensual). A few S/M purists will insist that you aren’t really a slave unless you’re willing to do absolutely *anything* for your Master, with no limits at all. There are a few who claim to be no-limits slaves, but in all cases it would be reasonable to doubt the claim.

- Diane Vera

thekinkygaynerd

Interesting...

lord-of-cinder-anfelo-deactivat

Bara logic #07 “Unrealistic Bara Sex” Guys you have to be carefull with your bara boyfriends

thekinkygaynerd

Not just bara but I think porn in general also creates unrealistic expectations...

I've been into chastity porn for a while now, and I finally got a metal cage. It's shorter than it probably ought to be (I'm 89mm flacid it's 65 mm). It slides slightly toward my dick tip, especially after erections. I can't pull it off completely, but it doesn't rest against my pelvis. Do I need a longer cage or is a shorter cage fine? (I'd LOVE a microcage!) How do I stop it? Also, pissing is a bit of a challenge would you suggest catheterized cages? I contemplated it but was afraid of a UTI…

Well metal cages don’t typically press against the pelvis in my experience since they pull downwards due to weight, so I’d say if your flaccid cock fits into your current cage without constant pain then there’s no need to adjust the length? I mostly just wear tight briefs to hold the cage up and close to the body, and I’ve also seen some people fashion a kind of jockstrap belt to tie the cage and hold it against the body that way.

I piss sitting down when locked in chastity, and don’t have much issues that way. I have never tried a catheterised cage personally, but have read somewhere before that it doesn’t actually completely prevent piss from flowing through to the other air holes...

Any advice on how to find a keyholder who is taking this keyholding job serious? Too many wankers out there...

Alas, I don’t have a stable long-term keyholder either, so not sure how I can help. The few I’ve played with I met through places like Recon, and don’t usually jump into KH until we’ve chatted for a bit. Two bois locking each other can also be fun~

After reading your review of holy trainer v3 nano, conceding my penis size is between nano and small, my biggest concern is if it is possible that the penis can be pulled out through the hugh gap between the base ring and the tube. After all, the tube seems to protect the head of penis and it may be a security issue.

A lot of people seem to have the same worry. I can only speak from my own experience of being in the HTv3, but essentially its design is such that the cage is angled quite steeply when locked onto the base ring, and so the ‘gap’ is not really accessible unless you have unusually low hanging/bendy balls?

That said, I’ve also heard from some people that after extended wear the resin bends slightly and may become looser...

How do you get your balls through the ring?

Hmm so I’m probably not a good reference because I deviate from the “standard way,” but essentially I (1) pull my right ball through the ring, then (2) squeeze my left ball gently for it to slip through the ring as well, (3) adjust the ring and pull it against the body, and finally (4) bend the soft penis slightly and push it through the ring.

Step (2) may be a bit difficult at first, but gets easier after a few times and the second testicle popping through will eventually become very natural.

The standard way, I believe, goes (4)-(1)-(2)-(3) instead.

imlockedndenied

How to Become a True Locked Bottom Bitch, Second Edition

(Please Note: I made a few updates…)

I’ve had several conversations with locked boiz over the past couple years where we discussed how to truly become a locked bottom bitch.

Now, you may ask, “Isn’t having your cocklette permanently riveted in a cage enough?”

The answer is “No.”

I believe that the point where you no longer focus on your cocklette as a source of pleasure, that it’s simply the thing you piss from, AND when your holes have become your only sources of sexual release - when you learn to have anal orgasms and squirt cum from your soft cocklette from receiving a man’s cock (or dildo) - then and only then have you truly become a locked bottom bitch, a true servant of real men, an acolyte of cock, a disciple of sexual energy.

I’ve been asked how to get to that state of mind, to that place where we want to be. I no longer think of my locked cocklette as anything other than something to piss from. I no longer get erections (though sometimes a bit of swelling) and I haven’t had a real, honest-to-goodness orgasm in 1,813 days (as of 7/15/18). I have gotten to the point of being able to have an anal orgasm while being penetrated nearly every time. For me, the rougher the top, the more vocal we are, the greater my chances of exploding in my cage.

So here’s my theory on how to move from a cock-focused life to a hole-focused life.

1. Get that cock caged! 2. Stay locked’n’denied longer each session. Start at 2 weeks, then 3, then 4 … and just keep going.

3. Now the real trick is to shift your sexual NEED from that locked cocklette to your hole. So, they way I’ve done it is simply by fucking a dildo EVERY TIME I GET HORNY.

Its that simple. Back when I was a top with a free cock, when I cruised porn I’d take my hard cock in my hand and wank one out. Or, when I mad my bottom bitch, Carlos, he would kneel under the desk with a plug in his ass and suck my cock until I told him I was ready to blow. Then I’d put him over the desk and fuck my load into his El Salvadoran ass.

Remember when your cock was free? I bet you stroked that sucker every time you got the slightest bit horny.

Well, now, instead of thinking about your useless cock … go jump on a dildo - the bigger, the longer, the better. NEVER cruise porn without being ready to fuck a dildo the second you get horny. These days, I have an electroplug in my hole, cranking up the charge the longer I cruise tumblr.

You will train yourself to equate “horny” with “penetration.” That’s the key.

4. When you watch porn stop thinking about that real man’s cock, look at that bottom bitch taking it. Hear him moan. Think about your hole and how wonderful and amazing it feels when it is being penetrated. My God! Writing this now I have the urge to grab my Kevin Dean dildo and fuck it into me!

4. Once you’ve gone 6 months locked’n’denied you are ready to go permanent … invest in that stainless steel cage that fits perfectly and rivet the fucker on!

5. NEVER stop training. When you’re horny … fuck a dildo, fuck your man … fuck a stranger. Watch porn? Fuck a dildo. Each and every time!

The chastity cages we all so love to use tackle only one part of the “problem” of being a submissive bottom. We have to change our physical, mental and emotional states.

If you have additional suggestions on how you have learned to become a true bottom bitch … please share!

thekinkygaynerd

1800+ days... DAMN!!

Last week's (no)cum-pilation of daily locked verification. Plus the realisation that the poor dicklet has been locked in chastity 70% of the time this year... 😱

#gay #chastity #male chastity #caged male #teamlocked #cum control #cum denial #me

chastestories-deactivated201904

Chastity Achievements

So, I’ve made a small collection of possible achievments for chastity wearers. Both grayed out goals and colored and unlocked achievements that you’ve managed to achieve. Those up there are just a selection, so you get the idea.

> Here is the link for the full set for anyone that wants to use them for their tumblr page or anywhere else. <

Of course, I couldn’t think of everything and they wont fit everyone but I thought it was a fun idea. If you have one very specific goal that is missing, you can shoot me a message and I can add it if I can find the time. No promises though, I’m quite busy.

Here is my current list: LINK

thekinkygaynerd

Interesting... How many have you [un]locked? ;-)

2secrettumbles-deactivated20181

Exciting news!!!

Exciting news my fellow kinkers and kinkees! Today marks the first day I was able to successfully milk myself (ever), and I was locked in chastity no less! No photos this time around, but maybe some gifs or even videos in the future? (Maybe?) :)

I went at it for about 30 minutes using my Njoy prostate wand. I started out at a slow pace and then increased the speed. Thanks to some helpful advice from Lazy Domme and Female Dominance (link will be posted below), I realized what I had been doing wrong this whole time!

Massage the side of the prostate to achieve a successful milking. Massaging the middle of your prostate is not only uncomfortable (at least for me) but can lead to urethral damage! That little bit of advice made ALL the difference for me. Thank you lazy Domme and Female Supremacy!

Cumming via milking was a totally difference experience. My cum did not shoot out nor dribble out. My cock was soft and didn’t twitch at all. In fact, I didn’t realized I had came until aftrereards when I went to pee and saw a white frothy goop coming gushing out. I think that qualifies as a successful prostate milking (as opposed to prostate massage)! :)

https://lockedtexanboi.tumblr.com/post/168649176460/prostate-milking-guide

thekinkygaynerd

I need more practice...