The Lifestyle

Just some good old fashioned advice from one gentleman to another.

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Life is growth.

Either you grow or you decay.

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Be attractive.

That’s step one.  Step two: Don’t be unattractive.

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Consistency Matters.

If there's one thing in life that trumps all else, it's consistency.  Consistency will get you the nice car.  It will get you the girls.  It will get you the body you want.  It will get you the money.  The greats weren't great because at first they could paint, the greats were great because they painted a lot.

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Emote

The difference between directionless speech and powerful, passionate speakers is emotion.  Learn to emote and you've already won over the room.

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Patience.

There's nothing more attractive than someone who knows how to wait for the right time

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Friendzone Fixing.

I posted this up a while ago, but I really do think this is one of my most important stories:

There was a girl I’d known for years and we’d always been friends with a lot of sexual tension. I was hoping for a relationship and while we’d talk all night and kiss here and there (I think maybe three or four times all together) she was just never “ready”. Then a new guy would come along, sweep her off her feet and I’d be all like dafuq??

Anyway, we were finally both single and I noticed the pattern happening again- she’d blow me off, ect. Here’s what I did to correct it: 1. I completely stopped texting and calling her. result: we went from texting every day to not texting for two weeks straight. 2. When she finally did text with some crap like “hey stranger it’s been a while” I let her know that I had been really busy with work, school and friends and I hadn’t even noticed it had been that long. Not cocky, just matter of fact. result: She asked me to hang out rather than vice versa. 3. She asked to hang out the next day. I told her that I was busy but I’d be available two days after that. I think this was one of the most important parts - I started establishing myself as the one who needed working around rather than her. 4. When we did finally hang out we did our usual thing and she’d try to flirt with me. I shut her down every single time. Not in a harsh way, but I’d just roll over her advances for attention as if they never happened. I also let her know that I had met a nice girl about a week before and I was stoked about our date in a week. result: more aggressive advances. 5. I made sure that while I wasn’t flirting I was touching her a lot. We went for a walk and I’d grab her by the waist if she got close to the edge. I read her palm, ect. result: She started giving me doe eyes. This is something that while we had flirted and made out a few times, I had never seen before from her. 6. I made sure to seal that fucking deal the same night. No hesitation, no “would you like to get in the back seat?”. I picked her up, put her in the back seat and took the role of the man, not the friend. I’m sure if I wouldn’t have acted on it we wouldn’t have dated afterwards. Anyway, the theory is this:  You need to let her know that if you're not together or working towards something, you’re unavailable. She’s not allowed to flirt with you. You’re not a silver medal.

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Hustle.

No one ever became successful by sitting on their ass.

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Treat fair, treat adequate.

I have a cat.  If I feed him more than he needs he's not too affectionate.  If I feed him proper portions every day, he begs for attention whenever he's hungry because he knows who feeds him.  Apply it.

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Slow Your Role.

I was at the bar tonight with my buddy who was picking up girls.  We had a good friend there as well, probably one of the most attractive girl I know.  You know what happened?  My buddy got a couple girls number's by the end of the night and the attractive girl went home with nothing.  Why?

Because we're so programmed to think about stupid shit we don't actually go for the girls that matter. 

Next time you're out, don't think about what will get you results.  Go for the one you really want.  You might just find out that she doesn't get hit on as often as you think.

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Frame Control.

You can't train a woman to jump through your hoops.  She's not an animal.  All these people talking about controlling the frame and testing her complicity level are full of shit.  If you're going to pursue that kinda shit, there's probably a shelter in your area, go buy a dog.

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The World.

If you keep getting the same results and you're unhappy with them, it's time to change how you do things.  The world isn't going to change for you.

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Stumble.

You're human.  You're going to fail.  Make sure you stumble rather than fall.  Stumbling means you get back up and keep going.

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Confidence.

It doesn't come in a bottle.  It doesn't come from a book.  Confidence comes when you finally realize how fucking cool you are.  

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Smile.

There's a reason McDonald's has that slogan and runs the fast food industry.

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Friendzone Fixing.

There was a girl I'd known for years and we'd always been friends with a lot of sexual tension. I was hoping for a relationship and while we'd talk all night and kiss here and there (I think maybe three or four times all together) she was just never "ready". Then a new guy would come along, sweep her off her feet and I'd be all like dafuq??

Anyway, we were finally both single and I noticed the pattern happening again- she'd blow me off, ect. Here's what I did to correct it: 1. I completely stopped texting and calling her. result: we went from texting every day to not texting for two weeks straight. 2. When she finally did text with some crap like "hey stranger it's been a while" I let her know that I had been really busy with work, school and friends and I hadn't even noticed it had been that long. Not cocky, just matter of fact. result: She asked me to hang out rather than vice versa. 3. She asked to hang out the next day. I told her that I was busy but I'd be available two days after that. I think this was one of the most important parts - I started establishing myself as the one who needed working around rather than her. 4. When we did finally hang out we did our usual thing and she'd try to flirt with me. I shut her down every single time. Not in a harsh way, but I'd just roll over her advances for attention as if they never happened. I also let her know that I had met a nice girl about a week before and I was stoked about our date in a week. result: more aggressive advances. 5. I made sure that while I wasn't flirting I was touching her a lot. We went for a walk and I'd grab her by the waist if she got close to the edge. I read her palm, ect. result: She started giving me doe eyes. This is something that while we had flirted and made out a few times, I had never seen before from her. 6. I made sure to seal that fucking deal the same night. No hesitation, no "would you like to get in the back seat?". I picked her up, put her in the back seat and took the role of the man, not the friend. I'm sure if I wouldn't have acted on it we wouldn't have dated afterwards. Anyway, the theory behind this as far as I know is this.  You need to let her know that if she's not with you, you're unavailable. She's not allowed to flirt with you. You're not a silver medal.

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Location.

Everywhere you go demands a different code of conduct. You may be able to pick up a girl in a high end club while wearing a t-shirt but it'll be a hell of a lot easier in a designer jacket.

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Change.

It's going to happen anyway.  Embrace it.  You're going to get knocked down.  You're going to get pushed around.  More importantly, you're going to learn and adapt.