the resilient survivor.

35 | a Malaysian guy | Jesus follower | an advocator of mental health awareness | motivator | INFJ | currently recovering from relapse

[jspark3000]

Note to self:

Your no needs no explanation.

You don’t have to defend yourself.

You don’t have to have the conversation.

Speak your mind with peace of mind.

The two best pieces of advice I’ve ever gotten:

Pick your battles

and protect your energy.

[jspark3000]

I’ve said it before:

Truth without love

is condescending,

and love without truth

is just pretending.

[jspark3000]

I’m trying very hard

not to be too hard on people

about things I don’t understand.

[jspark3000]

A reminder.

Please know your value is

not contingent on your usefulness, productivity, outcome,

not on being a pillar or example or cornerstone of your community,

not on you being polite or a team player or playing along,

not on you being "excellent" or a "good one."

Your value rests in the permanence of grace.

You are always more.

Stay encouraged. You are doing a good thing.

[jspark3000]

One of the ways that I know someone is safe is that

they don't try to convert my pain into a more palatable expression to soothe their own discomfort,

they don't get offended by my anger at being wounded or at the volume of my grief whether I am sobbing or silent,

they don't connect the dots at me with theology and lectures and lessons,

and they listen, without fixing, to the whole thing, and know when to intervene because all along they've been listening to what I need.

[jspark3000]

I am in awe and will always remain in awe of those who have a faith which really listens, does not double down, does not hastily defend, finds every possibly way to move alongside, is quick to be kind even when it costs, will be justly angry for those wounded, does not wield intellect and power, is not motivated by rightness but only withness. I am inspired by such people and stay close to them, for they keep my faith alive too.

[jspark3000]

I am always frustrated by those who are more offended by the wounded person being hurt than the actual pain that was caused.

To dismiss someone’s pain because their reaction is “too loud” is a deflection from accountability, repair, and real change.

If I am wounded but I must manage your reaction to my reaction, you only add injury to injury. If you are offended by my pain, you have not seen me—only yourself. Spend the energy to see and to repair, not to defend your harm, which only harms.

[akindplace]

maybe it’s hard to see a way out of this mess and things are hard right now and you are just scraping by trying to survive. it might be hard to see a light at the end of the tunnel, but that doesn’t mean it’s not there, it just means you should try to keep going, to keep searching, keep looking for help, for a way to make things a little better. not all hope is lost, though it might seem so when dealing with something so difficult that it starts crushing you. but there is still hope to get this weight off you, and maybe asking for help is the one of the best solutions here. rest, take things at your own pace, but don’t give up just yet.

trying to come out of a rut is not as easy as it seems, but there is still hope. there is always hope. you will find a light at the end of this tunnel.

[hisunfailinglove]

[quotefeeling]

“But darling, in the end you have to be your own hero because everyone else is too busy trying to save themselves.”

— Unknown

[thoughtkick]

“When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. This misinformation will feel unfair, but stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth - just like you did.”

— Unknown

[stay-close]

“Growth is painful. Change is painful.But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.”

— Mandy Hale

[remanence-of-love]

[thoughtkick]

“Your soulmate is not someone that comes into your life peacefully. It is someone who comes to make you question things, who changes your reality, somebody that marks a before and after in your life. It is not the human being everyone has idealized but an ordinary person, who manages to revolutionize your world in a second.”

— Unknown

[ur-daily-inspiration]

[yesthechaos]

[somewordsarebiggerthanothers]