Okay, so I'm having trouble deciding what I want in my life right now(when do I not?) but okay so the situation is this: All throughout my teen life, some of my cousins have had this thing called a debut(which is like a huge party celebrating a girl's transition into womanhood when she turns 18) and until recently, when all my friends had one leaving me to be the only filipino out of 4 girls in my grade without one, didn't want one because I found it unnecessary because people spend so much money on this big party that only lasts one night. However, I know I've always yearned to have one in the bottom of my heart because I love parties(but not going to parties... I enjoy throwing them). But I also have been thinking of having a debut(but more like a beach party) in the Philippines because it's cheaper there and I love travelling because we would stay there for about 3 weeks. But today I realized the flaws when it comes to my wish of wanting one in the Philippines. If I had a beach party, I wouldn't be able to wear the traditional long, princess gown(I'm obsessed with poofy dresses btw) which is supposed to be my debut dress as it was my grad dress since I spent almost 700$ on it. Also, if I had a debut in the Philippines, and it was at a fancy hotel, my relatives(in which I have MANY so I wouldn't be able to buy all their clothes) wouldn't have anything to wear because they can't afford tuxes and fancy dresses, thus making a fancy debut being thrown out the window. However, i always thought it would be nice just to have a party with my relatives there because it was so much fun the last time I went & I want them to have fun with lots of food and forget about their struggles for once. But looking at all my friends' debuts, they had all their friends there & if I had it in the Philippines none of them family I grew up with in my home city & my friends wouldn't be able to attend, which kinda sucks because then I'm left with relatives that don't know me very well(because we have a traditional ceremony with Candles & Roses and the birthday girl dances with 18 close boys-roses, & 18 close girls-candles make a speech for the birthday girl). Also, I don't wanna say this but I have to think of all perspectives, my relatives can't afford to give me gifts which in an economic point of view, kind of sucks as much as I hate to say it because my family would be spending a bunch of money on this party but getting nothing back which is harsh for a middle class working family to be honest. However if I have one in my home town, it's a little late as I am already of age and there's only a few months left before the year ends, I was hoping on having a debut in November but it's already freezing by then & I would have to act quickly because planning something like this is very hard work. Also, it would cost a lot more and I wouldn't have time to even prepare a special dance(cotillion). Another downside is that, I'm not close with enough boys in my home town to fulfill the 18 roses section but it's a tradition that must be kept(I was thinking of Niall or 5SOS to fill these places but I can't afford them lol). However, my friends would be able to be with me & relatives(except for 1 that is in the Philippines) that are close to me would be able to come too which is nice. And I would be able to wear my grad dress again & I have a few hand me downs for gown changes that I would be able to use from a cousin. So, could I possibly have an opinion on my situation? Please help, I'm desperate! You thoughts are greatly appreciated! Thank you!
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