Level up secret that Elite women keep from the lower class? Appearance >> Reality. Your reality is so useless no one actually cares what your real life is like what actually matters is what your real life appears to look like and will, in relation, make theirs appear to look like. Men do not actually care about your body count they care about what your body count appears to be and on relation, what it says about them. That corporate job does not actually care if you went to Ivy League or not what matters is you look like you did and in relation make it look like you did. Appearance >> Reality.
The no.1 example we all know for this is the Jackie Kennedy vs Marylin Monroe about what looks like a first lady and what just doesn't.
What you look like will always override what you actually are. First thing to level up is your appearance. You see that thing Anna Delvey did? She looked like what you'd expect a heiress to look like. I'm reading this book about a conwoman that has gotten away with it for years and it's all because she had long hair, perfect manicure, table manner and spoke French.
Social media is actually the saving grace for broke girlies because you get to curate your appearance as you see fit. You can decide this is what I need to be percieved as and just create a social media aire to confrim it and act as an extension of your daily life. Since I have graduated from WomenShouldDoWhateverTheyWant to actually I'll just tell you what to do nevermind because why do you people choose to shoot yourself on the foot DAILY?
First things first, you want to have anatural elegance and charm that makes sense. What does it mean to make sense? (online version)
Remember when I said single ladies that are known to be single should NOT wear designer because everyone will take one look and assume it's either a knockoff or you've been humpting a certain dumpty six times your age for a bag? It does NOT make sense for a broke girl that's struggling to get through college to have a Chanel or Bottega you are rolling in those sheets for it. Even if you thrifted it. So what is the rulebook?
- If it is a real, dupe or even knockoff of a well known western designer NOPE. Big huge fat no. I love I love I prefer items that no one else has or generic high quality items. If it has a popular unique design like I an tell a MiuMiu from continents away, don't touch it. Get some generic but classy so like woven or simple leather bags or simple design clothes that I can't actually tell which designer had got your broke little spell snagged but it's simple and classy enough to say you have taste just not the money for it. Go for expensive looking by fabric and craftsmanship. Natual will always mean elegance. Cotton. Linen. Wool. The likes. It can be synthetic just make sure it looks real. And if there's a tag on it cut.it.out. Just in case you did go thrifting and caught a heavy player and now your date is wondering what you did for a 1000$ dress that you thrifted for 5$.
Two, your feed should look wholesome not expensive. A cafe looks. The library. Unique mirror design. Birds. Cats. You at home in simple long -sleeved polo top and linen shorts and socks and slides. Natural face hair that looks like it didn't need to be colonized into submission but it did. Your flower pot. You on your study desk. Abstract street overheads. Silhouettes. Not in five stars with a beat up face because we all know what it's giving. have philosophy quotes on your highlights. Some movie clips that you like. Follow people you want to be associated with or no one. NON political. Joyful and fun and curated but not-so-much. Basically what 2014 tumblr and Instagram were. The Alexa Demie way of having only 3 posts per year is great, and you can do mass posting in the story highlights OR on tumblr on a public account. I like how AugustD does Instagram its so eh whatever.
-> basically you don't want to look like you're humpty dumpting but you don't want to look like you've been through the apocalypse.
Easy easy super easy way to make an aire about yourself is music. linked playlists. A story highlight with spotify screenshots tells a comprehensive story. Don't overload with the Old Money music you're twenty but don't have those raunchy rap songs a bout how women are hoes and sluts and should be mounted horse style. You can throw in some diversity that makes sense and have modern music no one is expecting you to be listening to Michael Jackson but why are you listening to Offset and Post Malone are you okay? You can never go wrong with local songs that fit the calm cool fun charming elegant vibe.
Have an online hobby going on. Writing on Insta? Blogging on Blogger? Photography? Videography? Video Editing? DIY? Drawing? Photo editing? Graphic design?
When it comes to in-real-life curating appearance is about
-> Not talking a lot. Very important you have online anon friends that you're catfishing so you can overshare because oversharing is in fact human nature you actually can't stop, best you can do is re-direct. Go quiet go silent have hobbies and earphones and things to do so you don't feel tempted to fill in the silence and blank space with all that talk.
-> Be outside in places that look like they matter. Go to the library and then hang out in the bougee areas later but if everyone asks you went to the library. Get a job at a flower shop or somewhere that demands you're outside home but does not demand too much of your time and effort and energy. Just either fully be at home IN YOUR ROOM WITH HEADPHONES "STUDYING" so your family does not make a maid househelp out of you or outsideeeee three towns out so no one actually knows what you're doing or up to.
-> WARDROBE because honestly why do people dress like they've been thrpugh both the apocalypse and Jurrasic park what even are you wearing. Women of color have to overcompensate for the stereotypes around us so as boring as it is you have to cosplay princess Diana or Hailey Bieber Kendall Jenner simple elegance. Or if you're in a place where traditional outfits are the norm, like India , go with that because if you don't people will make your life hell for no reason. Youthful elegance. I should make a pinterest board remind meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee to. Simple youthful achievable practical elegance. NOT Nara Smith type elegance I'm begging don't. Don't do the dresses. The tradwife cottagecore- don't. Just don't. I have PTSD from looking at clients instagrams and pictures I'm not sure why y'all dress like that but just don't please.
-> The unfailing I'm Cool cheat code will always be finding a niche most people do not even know exist or care about. Not something stereotypical like Roman History or philosophy I'm talking Astrophysiscs. Seahorses. The history of ink and how it works. Something you're probably the only expert in. Something you actually are a nerd about.
-> Signature. Signature hair style signature scent signature jewelry signature that if I see that I know who it is. Ariana Grande and her ponytail.
-> SIT UPRIGHT fix your posture. It's such an easy appearance trick to simply just not slouch.
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