Assorted Eldritch Horrors* Sharing a Disabled Human Body!

Traumagenic System Pro-Endo Otherkin --- Meet the System

[dragongirlteeth]

Some core principles I've been thinking about lately:

There are no ontologically evil people

People generally want to believe they are doing good

Under enough stress, anyone will act irrationally

When someone does something terrible, first try to look back and see "how did we get here"

[a-cipher]

anon I want you to know that I am always thinking about this

[contemptible-scoundrel]

censored for getting too close to the truth... remember this

[ruthimages]

[im-mender]

Smoking on that we'd

[aflo]

Not putting this on the original post bc I don't want to derail but this is how it feels to play magic the gathering after 2020

[fuck-customers]

[fallenfromthedeadstars]

Pride heart buttons are cool, I appreciate seeing a progressive queer / gay / lesbian / bi / pan / asexual / aromantic / transgender / nonbinary / intersex flag when I like a post.

But it would be better if Tumblr stopped deleting black and trans women's accounts and marking any queer content as "mature".

Just saying.

EDIT : I didn't even realise it since the trans and intersex flags have their own animation but the progressive queer flag isn't complete ! It has the brown and black lines for poc but it's missing the trans and intersex colors ! It's just getting worse and worse.

EDIT 2 : They changed it ! They made a two-parts animation : first the rainbow flag, then a mix of the intersex colors + trans colors + brown and black lines (@isuggestrespecttranspeople for spreading the information)

EDIT 3 : I was told only the brown line is for people of color, the black one is for memorial of the dead, I didn't know sorry

[captain-price-returns]

its truly unfortunate but the 4chan “>be me” format is the greatest advancement in comedic storytelling since the invention of the slide show

[rabbitrah]

I think it's important to remember that every single religion can be twisted for violence and oppression and abuse and control. Yes, including the one that you think can't be. But quickly, before anti-theists start saying that religion is an inherently evil violence accelerant, remember that this is true for any ideology, including anti-theism. Violence and oppression and abuse and control happens wherever there are people who think that those things will help them get what they want.

[that-stone-butch]

personalized ads are so funny to me

'hey we've been spying on you and tracking your every move. it's a culmination of state of the art technology and an unprecedented invasion of consumer privacy. a room full of men with made up jobs bent their will toward decades of constructing this system, defending it in court, and tirelessly innovating new ways to aggregate more data about you'

and the end result is

'yeah so uh we saw that you recently bought a car. so here's an ad for that car'

like no i'm good actually. you might be aware that i already have one

[elfwreck]

[pers-books]

Don't you fucking love this awesome Pride flag created by Rachel Lense for NASA? It's specifically made up of NASA images as follows: White is Earth clouds, pink is aurora, blue is the Sun in a specific wavelength, brown is Jupiter clouds, black is the Hubble deep field, red is the top of sprites, orange is a Mars crater, yellow is the surface of Io, green is a lake with algae, blue is Neptune, and purple is the Crab Nebula in a specific wavelength. (c) NASA/Rachel Lense

[bebsi-cola]

you know when i say you don't have control over being disabled and some people are like "nahh you do bruv" and other people are like "sure bc we can control genetics or accidents [eyeroll]." they're making a fair point but it does remind me that "we can't control genetics " is only partially true and people have been trying to control it for hundreds of years and that's eugenics baby. people who believe you can control your way out of being disabled are halfway down the disability eugenics pipeline and that sentiment is incredibly widespread, and that, precisely, is the problem

[moth-grrrl-mavis]

"I don't tip in the US because US tipping culture is ridiculous and exploitative"

Ok but you realize you're not hurting the corporation, right? You know they won't care or notice? Right?

You are, however, screwing over an employee that already makes poverty wages.

Great job, little revolutionary! That waitress can't pay rent! That'll show the capitalist overlords!

[realsocialskills]

Manipulative fake apologies

Some apologies amount to someone asking for permission to keep doing something bad.

These apologies generally shouldn’t be accepted.

(But it can be really hard not to, because who want permission to do bad things tend to lash out when they don’t get it.)

(If you have to accept a bad apology to protect yourself, it’s not your fault.)

Eg:

Moe: “I’m sorry, I know this is my privileged male opinion talking but…”

Or, Moe: “I’m sorry, I know I’m kind of a creeper…” or “I’m sorry, I know I’m standing too close but…”

At this point, Sarah may feel pressured to say “It’s ok.”

If Sarah says, “Actually, it’s not ok. Please back off” or “Yes, you’re mansplaining, please knock it off”, Moe is likely to get angry.

The thing is, it’s not ok, and Moe has no intention of stopping. 

Moe is just apologizing in order to feel ok about doing something he knows is wrong.

Another example:

Sam is a wheelchair user. He’s trying to get through a door.

Mary sees him and decides that he needs help.

Mary rushes to open the door. As she does so, she says “Oh, sorry, I know I’m supposed to ask first”, with an expectant pause. 

At this point, Sam may feel pressured to say “It’s ok”, even if the ‘help’ is unwanted and unhelpful. 

If Sam says, “Yes, you should have asked first. You’re in my way. Please move”, Mary is likely to get angry and say “I was just trying to help!”.

In this situation, Mary wasn’t really apologizing. She was asking Sam to give her permission to do something she knows is wrong.

More generally:

Fake Apologizer: *does something they know the other person will object to*.

Fake Apologizer: “Oh, I’m sorry. I know I’m doing The Bad Thing…” or “I guess you’re going to be mad if I…”

Fake Apologizer: *expectant pause*

The Target is then supposed to feel pressured to say something like “That’s ok”, or “I know you mean well”, or “You’re a good person, so it’s ok for you to do The Bad Thing.”

If the Target doesn’t respond by giving the Fake Apologizer permission/validation, the Fake Apologizer will often lash out. This sometimes escalates in stages, along the lines of:

Fake Apologizer: I *said* I was sorry!

Fake Apologizer: *expectant pause*

The Target is then supposed to feel pressure to be grateful to the Fake Apologizer for apologizing, and then as a reward, give them permission to do The Bad Thing. (Or apologize for not letting them do The Bad Thing.)

If the Target doesn’t respond in the way the Fake Apologizer wants, they will often escalate to intense personal insults, or even overt threats, eg:

Fake Apologizer: I guess you’re just too bitter and broken inside to accept my good intentions. I hope you get the help you need. And/or:

Fake Apologizer: Ok, fine. I’ll never try to do anything for you ever again. And/or

Fake Apologizer: *storms off, and slams the door in a way that causes the person who refused their intrusive help to fall over*.

Tl;dr Sometimes what looks like an apology is really a manipulative demand for validation and permission to do something bad.

[silvermoon424]

“Who is the internet even for anymore?” is such a valid question. Companies are sanitizing the internet and stifling natural human expression in the name of child safety and being family friendly, but the kids such as fuck aren’t benefitting from this. The internet is becoming too childish for adults and yet still too adult for kids.

[cilceon]

Google’s removal of its search function is going great btw

(A reminder that if you have Firefox/ublock origin this won’t be a problem if you don’t wanna switch search engines to DuckDuckGo)

[thethems]

I'm so fucking mature

[nitewrighter]

Got into a conversation yesterday about how I'm not engaging with Harry Potter and the person I was talking with was like "What about published Harry Potter fanfiction with the serial numbers filed off?" And I was like "I'm not a fan of published fanfiction with the serial numbers filed off of anything. There are plenty of original stories and nonfiction I'd read before I read that. One Piece has over 110 volumes and Berserk has 383 chapters." And then they were like "what about Marauders era stuff?" And i blinked because I'm starting to realize HP fans think Marauders era is like, a degree of separation from Harry Potter just because it's largely offscreen backstory speculation and it's like, "No asshole, you're still engaging with this shit and giving JKR your time, energy, as well as continued cultural relevance. It's the same shit whether you're engaging with Harry or his dad."