Signs That You're in a Toxic Friendship
1. They brush off your problems.
Friends are supposed to be the people you count on during difficult times; they don’t ignore your troubles and turn their backs. While some genuinely make an effort to turn away their friends in times of need, others don’t realize that their actions are hurtful. Talking to your friend(s) and shedding light on their actions can help then realize that what they’re doing is not cool.
2. They make you feel guilty for discussing your issues.
No one should ever make you feel bad for talking about things that bother you. If this is the case with you and a friend (or multiple friends), perhaps you should reevaluate what this person means to you. Your mental health is more important than someone who squashes your right to communicate how you feel.
3. They are unsupportive.
For people going through recovery, whether from a traumatic event or an addiction, it is crucial that you have people around you who support your journey to a safe and stress-free life. It is extremely unhealthy to surround yourself with “friends” who would rather reject you than encourage you.
4. They belittle you.
Just like with any relationship, whether romantic or familial, it is NOT okay to be in contact with someone who puts you down. That is emotionally abusive behavior. Friends should cheer you on, not tear you down.
5. They alienate you from other friends, family.
If you are on the road to recovery, it’s imperative that you surround yourself with people who are supportive and encouraging. It also helps to have a good balance between alone time (for you to have personal space/relaxation time) and time spent with family and friends. If you find that your friend discourages you from hanging out with other friends/family, please know that this is extremely unhealthy behavior. Friends should respect your space and your need for privacy; they shouldn’t try to keep you all to themselves.
6. Pull you in to bad behavior.
As we’ve said before, if you are on the road to recovery, it’s important to surround yourself with positive people. These people will be the ones to pull you up when you’re feeling down. Be on the look-out for “friends” who would rather take you down the wrong road than to see you grow. These types of friendships are unhealthy and should be terminated quickly. Again, your mental health and overall state of being is more important than someone who wants to see you fail.
In Summary
You are worthy of love and care, you are worthy of friends who care.
You deserve support and encouragement.
Don’t feel guilty for speaking up about what bothers you. Ever.
Don’t feel guilty for cutting a friend loose if they are affecting your mental health.
You are totally awesome, anyone who thinks otherwise sucks.
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