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Adult with DID

[thickramen]

Hi 👋

I'm an adult who happens to have DID.

This blog will be dedicated to syscourse, dispelling misinformation, and sharing my personal experiences with DID.

I don't have a DNI because I think they're useless and performative.

We use "I"/"me" and "us"/"we" interchangeably.

[thickramen]

the ISSTD guidelines stress the importance of recognizing one's alters as parts of the same person for a reason

[notabled-noodle]

normal vs disordered: derealisation edition

normal: feeling like the world is foggy or unreal after stepping out of a cinema, or getting off a plane

not normal: feeling like the world is foggy frequently (sometimes without cause)

normal: feeling like nothing is real after you’ve just heard some big news (positive or negative), or while grieving

not normal: feeling like nothing is real frequently (sometimes without cause or in a broad range of situations)

normal: feeling like the people around you aren’t real when in a crowd or on a busy street

not normal: feeling like the people around you aren’t real frequently — even your friends and family

normal: feeling like the whole world is in 2D when you’re sick or experiencing a fever

not normal: feeling like the whole world is in 2D when there’s nothing else going on in your body

normal: losing touch with reality after reading an amazing book or watching a long film or experiencing some other immersive media

not normal: losing touch with reality frequently, to the point that you can’t keep up with your own life

just like other parts of dissociation, derealisation is on a spectrum. everyone experiences it from time to time. when it becomes a problem is when it gets in the way of your life and completing your daily tasks

[chaos-in-one]

Maybe I should just start tomatoing people who clog up CDD tags with shit about endos.

[anti-endo-spencer]

Guys. "Polyfragmented OSDD" doesn't exist. That is an oxymoron.

Because Polyfragmentation itself is a complex kind of fragmentation and OSDD cannot be that complex by definition, or it would be DID. Sure OSDD can also have some complex patterns, but it cannot be in the "Polyfragmentation" area, that's just not how it works. Polyfragmentation itself is also on a spectrum so could it look like OSDD? Yeah, I'd figure it could, but can it be polyfragmented? Nope.

It's important to me that you know this.

[star-kingdom]

Shout out to CDD systems/pwCDD that don't want to label their experiences as being plural.

[heartbloom-manor]

“DID needs childhood trauma to have formed”

Yes, but also

“What is traumatic to a child may not seem traumatic to an adult”

A kids brain has no logbook comparing their stress to someone else’s. All it knows is that it’s under severe stress.

[thickramen]

OSDD 1 should just be included in DID as a diagnosis. They both inherently involve dissociated identity states.

[pro-willo-keith]

When having discussions in syscourse (and plural spaces as a whole), it's important to remember that many of the people you're talking to have the Notoriously-Bad-Memory-and-Amnesia disorder. And if you have no idea what that feels like, maybe listen to those who do.

[bloodonvalentine]

"endogenic alter" THATS NOT HOW IT WORKS!!!

OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!

"i'm traumaendo because not all of my alters formed because of my initial trauma" NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

people do more than surface level research challenge level fucking impossible apparently

[onewiththerot]

Hot take but I think breaking an internet DNI is not actually that big of an issue and that you all need to take that anger and direct it elsewhere. The internet is a big wide space, curate it yourself, dont yell at others for not doing it for you.

If you don't like someone interacting on your post: block or don't engage. That is how you actually enforce a boundary. By interacting with someone who has "broken your dni" you are also breaking your own boundaries.

[anti-willo-eren]

If you call the way someone's disorder presents "endo vibes" bc it's less typical you're not a cdd ally send post

[jaythelion222]

I feel like being a system is so often represented as being >1 but atleast in my personal experience it feels more like <1. anyone else feel that way?

[sysfreak-official]

fakeclaiming a system because they're "suddenly acting different" after telling you about their CDD is the exact same as fakeclaiming an autistic person because they're trying to unmask around you, btw

the only reason they're "acting different" is because they're allowing you to see what's behind all the masking and pretending to be someone they aren't. they are trusting you with their truest self and you're calling them fake for it. you're a heartless bastard if you do that to anyone with any kind of mental health issue.

[that-television-guy]

It's considerate to let someone know you notice symptoms/traits of something in them, especially if they don't notice it themselves.

It might encourage them to seek out treatment they otherwise might have delayed. Even if it doesn't, it brings awareness to the issue that they will likely appreciate.

This goes for literally everything (except when someone is nearing death). Notice someone might be a system? Tell them. Notice they might have a pd? Tell them. Notice they have a mole that looks a bit like cancer? Fucking tell them.

It's not diagnosis to say "Hey I noticed this, you should see someone/get it checked out."

ADDITIONALLY lots of doctors will take you more seriously if others notice the symptoms in you too. You could be helping someone.

Of course all of these situations have nuance. Be respectful and all that. But I'm firmly on the side of telling them.

I will give a pass if you notice someone is displaying the symptoms of being near death though. That's CRAZY SITUATIONAL.

[thickramen]

telling someone you noticed they have [symptom] and should get it checked out: ☑️🙂‍↕️💯

telling someone you think they have [disorder] which they should get specifically evaluated for: 👎🙅‍♂️🚫

[theetherealpride]

Seeing folks compare polymindence to DID is so ridiculous. Polymind is an identity, DID is a disorder, do you not see how outrageous it is to compare the two? DID is a complex disorder with many symptoms and difficulties, but for some reason all you focus on is alters? DID is not an alter disorder, stop treating it like it is. Do you not realize how harmful that is? How much thats downplaying a real disorder that people struggle with? If you really think polyminds are making fun of DID, what about you stop downplaying DID? I can assure you an identity labelling an experiencing is not doing harm. Unlike treating a debilitating disorder like it only has one symptom, which does cause harm.

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[pro-willo-thorax]

A very big chunk of anti-endo rhetoric gets spread because people use DNIs to prevent anyone from actually correcting misinformation and keeping people in a bubble