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U.S.-based Resources for Women + Girls + People Facing Unplanned Pregnancies

The post I had originally pinned to the top of my blog had mostly broken links, so I’ve made my own :) Feel free to spread it to those who need help, whether that’s by sharing it on your Tumblr or sharing the links with people in your life who need it. This is mostly U.S.-centric since that’s where I’m from.

It’s a long-ish post, so I’m putting it under a Read More.

#pro life #crisis pregnancy #women's organizations #pro life organizations #unplanned pregnancy #my posts

I don't even go on this website anymore, and the world is also kinda falling apart, but I'm just popping on to say my anti-S*brina C*rpenter post aged so well. She's been exposed for talking inappropriately to minors at concerts, blatantly marketing her hypersexual music to underage fans (she was on Kids Choice Awards), writing a song that romanticized/s*xualized teen pregnancy (Juno), and generally pairing sexual/mature themes with juvenile aesthetics. And all the while, she's deflecting her obviously inappropriate behavior with "you guys are just prudes" or "you need to get out more" or "well you guys are the ones listening to the music!!!" So gross.

Also, she just recently did an SNL performance punching an Asian man and generally making a mockery of Karate / Japanese culture. And apparently she idolized and based a lot of photoshoots on Brigitte Bardot, whom I'm just learning was vaguely racist, and more...

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wE nEeD abOrTioN sO baBiEs woNt bE abAndOned

Except even in states where abortion is legal until birth for any reason, neglect of newborns still exists.

Abortion isn’t a solution.

“I’m sorry. It came out of me and I didn’t know what to do.”

A mother in New Mexico is facing attempted murder and child abuse charges after putting her newborn baby in a garbage bag and throwing them

"I just got rid of it," Camille Wasinger-Konrad said of killing her infant child

The New Dorp resident was taken into custody by authorities after giving birth to a boy.

I've officially pivoted this year from "S*brina C*rpenter is really talented and has a few nice, clean songs like 'Fast Times,' so I will ignore her raunchy songs and listen to the clean ones and call myself a fan" to "S*brina C*rpenter's overall image is just too cringe for me to enjoy because almost ALL her new songs and on-stage dance routines (??? if you can call them that) are just based on sex appeal and shock value"

I can't even be a casual fan without exposing my eyes to stuff that makes me want to bleach them lol

She's a great singer but I just can't tolerate all female pop singers being this over-the-top raunchy, and she is the most over-the-top I have seen in a long time. No hate, I just needed to get this off my chest, and I constantly feel alone on this.

As a woman and as someone who felt inundated with sexual imagery in pop music as a teen (and I believe it negatively impacted both my self esteem and my views on sexuality as a young adult), I just feel so bad for the young girls today who are encouraged to see these pop stars as some kind of role models. Heck, I even feel bad for the pop stars themselves, seeing as this hypersexual behavior is just self-destructive as a whole.

Anyway, yeah... I want to consume art, songs, etc. that align with my values, but it's so hard to in this day and age. And I used to use "it's too hard in this day and age" as an excuse to listen to stuff I shouldn't be listening to just because I wanted to be "up-to-date" and listen to what's popular and have something to talk to music fans about, but lately I have been taking genuine steps toward changing my behaviors.

If we keep consuming art that's essentially just a woman twerking or singing openly and graphically about her bedroom habits, then other people (and the heads of the music industry) will keep thinking that's what we want to see and hear. I'm trying to keep reminding myself that there's no excuse for encouraging poor behavior.

#also just deleted my posts of her from my blog :3 #and didn't use her full name bc I don't want the fans to find this and hate on me but yeah you probably know who I'm talking about #also hi Tumblr it's been a while #I basically only hopped back on to make this post bc I vaguely remembered reblogging pics of that pop star this is about #but hi #also like... people are applauding because this 20-something-year-old pop star makes c*m jokes and I'm just like.........#how old are we? 😂 are we really pretending this is clever or groundbreaking?

oak23

Gratitude - Tidying Up With Marie Kondo (2019)

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Additionally, gently used or not worn at all womens clothing is a great donation to a womens shelter, and will be greatly appreciated there! Flip that guilt of throwing stuff away into the tenderness of helping other women.

#I'm doing some (almost) spring cleaning #and getting weirdly nostalgic over that brief period of time where everyone was obsessed with Marie Kondo

femsolid

"I was besieged at once by males who, one after another, asked nearly the same question: "It's good to talk about feminism, but can you talk about the other 'issues'? If you run for President, you'll have to talk about economics, and foreign policy, and issues other than women's rights. Are you aware of that?"

Each time I somehow recovered from these slaps in the face, and answered mildly that of course I knew that Presidential candidates have to talk about those issues. I wanted to talk about them. Fortunately, feminism includes economics, foreign policy, and all the others. Of course, this didn't reassure them at all. And all the while I was carefully noting their condescension.

The women had their chance to reveal their priorities and level of consciousness, too. Several of them descended upon me to bemoan the fact that I had made their men very uncomfortable, and surely the best way to set things right would be by working together. "But the men aren't working," I pointed out, "and they won't work on this problem until they're made distinctly uncomfortable. Discomfort always precedes change, and accompanies it. That's why change is so hard. It won't hurt the men to be uncomfortable, just as it doesn't hurt whites to be made uncomfortable about racism. Don't be so protective of them. They can take care of their own feelings, and should start doing so, the sooner the better."

One woman approached me with tears in her eyes, her lips trembling. Taking hold of my arm, she looked beseechingly at me and pied, "Please, Sonia. Don't polarize men and women!" Though I could hardly bear to begin at the very beginning again, I explained as patiently and briefly as I could that feminists are not polarizing men and women; we are making patriarchy's intentional polarization of the sexes visible, and shining light upon the reasons for it. Some people always assume that if you mention a problem, you caused it.

Sexism prevailed, and as the day wore grimly and predictably on, I went from angry to murderous. No one would have thought to ask a man the questions I had been asked, in the manner in which I had been asked them - as if I were a somewhat dense child. Nor did the women seem to understand their oppression, either in the world or in the party.

I was scheduled to be in Albany for a press conference a few days later, my second in that city. The assistant coordinator told me that since I had done my "woman's stuff'' in Albany the last time I was there, this time I had to be serious. One press conference on inconsequential matters was enough. There are men's issues - the important, serious, military matters such as Central America. Then there is the softer, less "universal," less urgent "women's stuff," such as gang rape totally unconnected to events in Central America, of course with which you don't want to bore and embarrass "sophisticated" press people.

The reporters' first question to me was, "How can you base a national Presidential campaign on a single issue?" It is discouraging enough that the public views as a "single issue" the concern of half the human race about every aspect of our lives, public and private. They squirmed and looked around for a way out. I could almost hear them turning me off with, "I hate it when women get like this. You can't even talk to them!"

The situation was very difficult for all of us, but it rapidly became unbearable for the male assistant coordinator. "There's no role for men in this campaign," he'd storm, though men were working in the campaign all over the country. What he meant was that since there has been only one generally acceptable role for men in relation to women for many millennia - the leader - when he couldn't be leader, there was no other role visible to him as a possibility. Though he was actually playing a very important role in the campaign, since it wasn't that role, he didn't perceive it as a role at all."

- Going Out of Our Minds by Sonia Johnson

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having kinks isnt valid 🥺💕💖💞💗💘💖💝

porn rewired your brain and maybe you should stop consuming it 💓❤️❣️💟💕💖💗💝

bdsm is inherently abusive ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💌

it isn't natural for minors to be in kink and this only happens due to excessive grooming 💝💗❤️💖❣️💓💕

instead of trying to blindly defend your daddy kink read the statistics 🥰💘💟💕💌💓💖

queerfromthemadhouse

Wow, I didn't realize I was actually groomed as a kid and neither me nor anyone around me noticed it. Thanks for telling me, op! And now, can you also tell me who groomed me? Because I can't remember a single person even so much as mentioning kinks around me, and even my regular sex ed only taught anatomy. And still I already had kinks when I was a child. Could it be, maybe, that you're full of shit?

hotchocolatelover

Does OP even know any minors? I was on kinkememe all the time as a minor lmao and no, I was never groomed or abused. Minors do know what sex is, you know. They're not like "Omg birds and bees". Stop shaming minors for being curious about sex. It's completely healthy and natural.

hotchocolatelover

Also this was way before I ever watched porn.

primordialragepriestess

you being on those sites was the grooming. you can’t even admit how influenced you were by being exposed to kink stuff too early - I was on there too and the things I internalized were harmful. enacting abuse even if it’s consensual doesn’t take away the social weight of it being what it is - violence towards another individual for someone else’s pleasure. just because you get off to that doesn’t mean it’s not reprehensible and harmful to you.

bullydyke-deactivated20210902

"Has OP even met any minors? I literally consumed kink content online as a minor and got groomed, as evidenced by my consumption of nsfw content then and my dismissive attitudes now" genius!

eve-made-the-right-choice

Why do porn addicts insist on pretending that porn just appears out of thin air, and isn’t made by real human beings with agendas and biases?

Like, they say that porn hurts no one, as though the victims of abuse in the videos aren’t real.

Then they say that nobody groomed or influenced them, as though the pimps and directors behind the cameras aren’t real.

What’s next: pretending there is no camera? Ignorning the existence of the fourth wall? We know you’re lying, dudes. It’s not clever. We can see right theough you.

fretami

they’re like “can you tell you who groomed me? bc no one ever did! i just interacted with violent porn from a young age consitstantly, talking with others who were into it, reading porn with it in it etc”

like yeah that’s the grooming. society can and does do this

#that or they just lack self awareness and/or truly don't understand that grooming can happen over the internet :(#which imo is sadder #anti kink #anti bdsm #anti porn

thepumpkinqueen53

#autumn #orange #aesthetic

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I'm so sick and tired of people having a double standard when it comes to empathy, and this counts for people on both sides of the political aisle.

Ruth Bader Ginsberg died and conservatives posted videos with them singing 'ding dong the witch is dead'. It's okay because she had policies that were 'pro-murder'

Hamas rapes, murders and kidnaps children and teenagers and people try to make it sound okay because 'they were provoked'

5 people die in a submarine and people make jokes because they were rich and they 'should have known better'

The Supreme Court judges' kids get doxxed and it's okay cause their parents were 'stealing our rights'

Listen. I don't care what you believe. I don't care what your political affiliation is. If you can look at suffering and try to make it sound less bad simply because you disagree with the suffering person you are losing your humanity. Murder is wrong, whether you like the victim or not. Stop making this about your opinions. It's not about you; it's about other people's agony.

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jayroyusa

#autumn #landscapes #nature #orange

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brightlotusmoon

#disability #accessibility #wholesome

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bipolarmango

Wild things I have learnt in therapy:

When a child cries, parents are supposed to comfort them, not punish them

Parents are, in fact, supposed to want to spend time with their children

Children too have a right to privacy, meaning parents are not allowed to read their diaries etc and then punish them for the thoughts they found about

Children are allowed to be upset and cry

Children don't have to earn the love and attention from their parents by performing various things

Children are not supposed to be scared of going home and/or their parents

Children are not supposed to be physically abused and even a little bit of hitting is actually physical abuse

Parents are not supposed to expect that children are mentally as mature as other adults

Children are not supposed to be told that they're an accident, a burden, or something the parents regret

Children are not supposed to be scared and ashamed of themselves or feel like failures because of their parents

#it's scary to realize there are people doing their own version of 'parenting' which involves not treating children like actual people 🙃

radicalfiles

TRAs destroying mural for infant victims of child abuse

Also, them saying a movement that focuses on the rights of female bodied people (if they identify as women or not) is "transphobic" is exactly the same as if one would say people that fight for animal rights are automatically misanthropes and hate all humans. It's just ridiculous and shows their true colors. Male supremacists all around. Sad.

#TRA receipts #seriously what on Earth #is this real?

lsseymiyake

“Listening to the signs”

workitgurl

Apply to that program. Apply for that scholarship/ grant. Update your resume, apply to that high salary job, change your career, get that degree, get that diploma, get those credentials. Apply for that internship, make calls, book meetings and appointments. Anything is attainable with effort and hard work. Not trying because you’re afraid to fail is embarrassing than failing. If you fail you can try again,if you fail you’ll learn something, if you fail you can use that as inspiration, if you fail maybe something better will come along. Don’t give up. Your dreams and goals are waiting ✨💕

glamorousacademiabyimangrace

Your goals are on the other side of your fear!!

maxiemumdamage

Controversial opinion (somehow) but it should be illegal for schools to assign homework on the high holidays.

maxiemumdamage

No but really, I cannot put into words how fundamentally wrong it is that public schools can assign things over incredibly meaningful holidays like Yom Kippur.

Last year was a vivid example, and also one of the worst fasts I’ve ever done. My history teacher assigned us a full paper, insisting that it was reasonable since we had the entire day to do it. As one of the few practicing Jews in my class, I immediately objected because not only was that unfair, it was actually impossible to do without serious harm to my own health.

Because Yom Kippur started that very night with a solid two hours of services. I would go home, eat dinner (at like 4:30 because you have to do it before services), change, and then be at synagogue. Services would go until at least 8 o’clock, which meant I would get home around 9.

See any time for homework in there?

Now, pretend you’re me for a moment here. Services tomorrow morning start at 9, and you usually want to get there earlier unless you’re willing to end up in an overflow room. So staying up late to do it isn’t an option if you want more than four hours of sleep.

Now, it depends on how religious you are, and you can pick and choose, but there’s services more or less throughout the entire day on Yom Kippur. If you want to attend, which should absolutely be an option without compromising yourself academically, then you’ll be there until break the fast comes.

That’s right! You’ve been fasting all day, because that is an absolutely key part of Yom Kippur. (If you are under age thirteen, are pregnant, or are sick you are exempt but otherwise fasting is expected.) There are many reasons—reminding yourself of your mortality, to remember the sufferings of others—but ultimately it’s not an opt-out kind of thing.

But when can you break the fast exactly? It actually varies! Because it’s meant to be done one hour after sundown (25 hours total), but that’s a little different each year. It’s usually around 8 pm, which would be when services end for the day.

Now you can eat! Let’s aim low and give it half an hour to get home from services, and then another hour and a half to actually break the fast.

It’s 10 o’clock. You’ve only just eaten and your stomach probably hurts, because stuffing yourself after a fast can be really bad for your health. You’re back home for the first time all day.

You still have a paper to write.

How is that fair? If I’ve just gotten off of a fast, having spent all day immersed in religion and contemplating my own mortality, I’m not gonna be in a place to do any kind of work, academic or not.

And even if I’d had breaks in services (I can’t stay still all day, so I usually head home for a few hours in the middle), I was still fasting. When I’m hungry I have trouble working, for obvious reasons. And in this case the issue isn’t access, but the fact that I am prohibited from eating anything. Depending on how seriously you take it, you might not even have had water today. I fast with water after nearly passing out from dehydration during a fast for Tisha B’Av, but not everyone does! If you haven’t had anything to eat or drink, it’ll be incredibly difficult to focus on writing anything.

I explained all of this to my teacher, and she instead said I could just turn it in late. She also said I’d still be marked down for late work, so how is that any help?

I did that paper the day after. It was a day late, a few points off, but I held it against my teacher for months. Not because of the grade itself, but because she put me in that situation to begin with.

I should have been allowed to observe Yom Kippur. I should have been able to spend the day thinking and reflecting on my mistakes and contemplating my own life. That’s literally what the holiday is for. But instead I spent the whole time with that stupid grade in the back of my head.

Even on what is arguably the holiest day of the Jewish calendar, I still wasn’t given a break.

Separation of church and state my ass.

dansedan

ALSOOO wanna hop in and mention that orthodox jews literally CANNOT PUT PEN TO PAPER OR USE ELECTRONICS on high holy days. It would literally be 100% impossible for them (me lol) to do any sort of assignment on Yom Kipur regardless of mental health or time allowance. It’s just that simple.

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100% this. I have had to have some very stern, forceful talks with ignorant gym teachers who assigned my Muslim students mandatory rigorous unbroken cardio exercise during Ramadan while they were fasting.

These holidays exist for a reason. If you are actually going to preach religious equity, prove it through practice. Learn about the religions of the students in the room with you. Celebrate with them – and advocate for them when their right to observe holidays near and precious to their hearts and culture is encroached upon by ignorance or a limited cultural perspective.

#so true #holidays don't really mean much if you are still going to make your students work during them

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