This Is Deformimisia

Deformimisia - the oppression of people with deformities. Disfiguremisia - the oppression of people with disfigurements. (Note: Any visible scarring, including SH scars, can be considered disfigurement here.) Please send submissions in plain text (no bold, no italics, no colored text, no enlargened or shrunken text, etc) so that I don't have to transcribe it. Plain text allows people who use screenreaders to be involved. Also please send image IDs if you submit a screenshot - if you don't, I will write one myself, it'll just take a longer time for me to get around to answering that ask.

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Introduction

Blogs like this one [link]

Important posts

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Unnecessary surgeries are being done on children with deformities [link] When should a child undergo surgery for a deformity? [link]

Who owns this blog?

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Hello! I am Kris, the owner of this blog. I am intersex transmasc non-binary and use they/them pronouns. I am part of @dhddmods system, though I tend to function on my own.

I run five other blogs, known as @this-is-varsexism-transphobia (dedicated to oppression of genderqueers & sexqueers), @this-is-amato-heteronormativity (dedicated to oppression based on amatonormativity and heteronormativity), @this-is-anti-masculinity (dedicated to oppression of non-patriarchal masculinity), @androqueer-struggles (focused on the struggles and/or oppression of intersex mascs, peritrans mascs, butches, etc), and @thisisparamisia (focused on the oppression of people with paraphilias, especially paraphilic disorders.)

What is this blog?

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This blog is dedicated to spreading awareness of the oppressive/negative experiences faced by people who have physical deformities and/or disfigurements. These could be congenital (born) or acquired (ie; scars.) You can submit your own experiences, or things you have witnessed happening to other people (so long as you respect their privacy.)

(Note for submissions: Any visible scarring, including self-harm scars, can be considered disfigurement here.)

These deformities and disfigurements could be related to the limbs, torso, and/or craniofacial.

Am I welcome here?

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This blog is safe for people of any religious and spiritual practices, so long as said practices aren't used to excuse bigoted behavior.

This blog is safe for people of all races and ethnic backgrounds.

This blog is safe for people of any weight or body type, and does not tolerate body shaming.

This blog is safe for people with physical/sensory disabilities and neurodivergence of any kind (including cluster b personality disorders, behavioral disorders, paraphilic disorders, addictive/dependent disorders, etc.)

This blog is safe for non-disordered systems/plurals, non-dissociative systems/plurals, and endogenic systems/plurals.

This blog is safe for alterhumans.

This blog is obviously safe for "contradictory" labels (ie; transfems AFAB, transmascs AMAB, lesboys, turigirls, etc.) Being against these identities is deeply exorsexist, intersexist, and pluralphobic at its core.

This blog is safe for sex workers.

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Happy disability pride to disabled trans, gender diverse, and varsex folks!

[PT: Happy disability pride to disabled trans, gender diverse, and varsex folks! /End PT]

This includes all disabilities and all TGD and varsex folks! Happy disability pride, regardless of whether your disability is physical, sensory, neurological, psychological, or a combination!

Happy disability pride to intersex, ersex, and dysex [link] folks whose disability is directly connected to their variation!

Happy disability pride to intersex, ersex, and dysex folks whose disability is unrelated to their variation, or whose connection to their variation is unknown!

Happy disability pride to disabled binary gender diverse folks! To disabled non-binary folks! To disabled culturally gendered folks!

Happy disability pride to disabled trans & gender diverse fem, masc, androgynous, neutral, null, agenrine, xenine, outherine, aporine, multi, and unlabeled folks!

Happy disability pride to disabled trans, cistrans, and other modality folks! To disabled cis enben [link]! To disabled cis genderqueers!

Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with musculoskeletal disabilities, limb disabilities, bodily deformities/disfigurements/differences!

Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with paralysis, seizures, movement disorders!

Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with neurodevelopmental disabilities, learning disabilities, cognitive disorders, neurodegenerative disorders, brain damage!

Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with somatoform disorders, factitious disorder, identity incongruence!

Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex plurals!

Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with dissociative disorders and trauma & stressor disorders!

Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with anxiety disorders, mood disorders! To suicidal TGD & varsex folks!

Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks psychotic disorders, personality disorders, behavioral disorders, addictive & dependent disorders, paraphillic disorders! To TGD & varsex folks whose mental conditions are highly demonized by society, treated as the "crime disorders"!

Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks sexual dysfunction, perinatal disorders, reproductive disabilities, urogenital disabilities, gastrointestinal disabilities!

Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with endocrine & metabolic disabilities, immune disorders, nutritional disabilities, cardiovascular & blood disabilities, respiratory disabilities!

Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with eating/feeding disorders, oral disabilities, voice disorders!

Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with sensory processing disorders, synaesthesias, visual disabilities, hearing disabilities, olfactory (smelling) disabilities, gustatory (tasting) disabilities!

Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with headache disorders, chronic fatigue, chronic illnesses!

Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with sleep disorders!

Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with skin and hair conditions!

Don't forget trans, gender diverse, and varsex (intersex, dysex, ersex, varsex, etc) folks in your disability activism! And don't forget disability in your queer activism!

[PT: Don't forget trans, gender diverse, and varsex (intersex, dysex, ersex, varsex, etc) folks in your disability activism! And don't forget disability in your queer activism!]

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Let's talk about altering deformities on children against their consent.

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Many people ask "at what point should you wait for the child to decide when they're older?" and this is the general consensus that I think should be followed.

Does the deformity impact their physical wellbeing, or is it purely cosmetic?

It affects their physical wellbeing -> Then see next point. It is purely cosmetic -> Then don't do the surgery, it's unnecessary, wait for the child to get older and choose what they want for themself. Stop reinforcing beauty standards.

Can the impact on their physical wellbeing be improved from something other than surgery (ie; mobility aids, assistive tools, etc)?

Yes -> Then don't do the surgery, let the child continue to develop, and decide for themselves what they want when they are older. No -> Then see next point.

Do the risks of the surgery outweigh the risks of the deformities?

The risks of the surgery are less than the risks of the deformity -> Then see next point. The risks of the surgery are more than the risks of the deformity -> then don't do the surgery, let the child decide for themselves what they want when they are older. The risks of the surgery are near-equal to the risks of the deformity -> Then don't do the surgery, let the child decide for themselves what they want when they are older.

Is the impact on their wellbeing actually significant enough to warrant the consideration of surgery?

Have you looked into the experiences of people who were put through this surgery as children? Have you researched how how they felt about it when they grew up?

Are you truly making this choice fully informed, or are you only making a decision based on what a doctor is saying?

I have not looked into the experiences of those who have undergone this surgery -> Then you better start now. I have looked into the experiences of those who have undergone this surgery -> Then you better respect those experiences, and make your decision based on their input on the matter. Remember that the experiences of those who have actually gone through it will reflect your child better than your own personal opinions will.

And, finally.

The most important thing of all.

If, after all is said and done, you decide to go through with the surgery, don't just throw the child into it. Talk to them. Let them know what's happening.

Don't let them go into it uninformed. Explain in a child appropriate way what is going to happen. How long will they be at the hospital for? Where will there be scarring? What part of their body is going to change? How long will it hurt for?

And don't frame it as a "you're defective" talk. Don't demonize their deformity. Just explain to them the risks and benefits of what is happening. Explain to them that all bodies are different, and that sometimes people are born with bodies that might need help, and that's okay.

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I’m sending Nintendo a feedback form of stuff they could add to TL:LTD, would it be okay if I included a screenshot of ur post about it? Or is that not okay? Thanksies :3

Yes, but please include the reblog that discusses disability [link], or just screenshot this ask instead!

Issues with TL:LTD!

1- No option to select "don't fall in love with this person" in the menu. The only wat to prevent people from falling in love is by putting them down as family, but that can make the family trees in the game weird (ie; what if you want Mii A and Mii B to date, but you selected Mii C as the family of them both, so A & B think they're related, and won't date each other? It's just annoying, the players should have the ability to just bar off certain Miis from falling in love with each other without having to turn them into family.)

2- No polyamory.

Solution: in the character creation, make these options

-Closed monogamous (wants a monogamous partner)

-Open monogamous (doesn't mind having a polyamorous partner)

-Ambiamorous (fine with polyamory or monogamy. Add a partner amount or a "no limit" option for the possibility of polyamory occuring.)

-Polyamorous (and then you'd select how many partners the character is interested in having, or a "no limit" option.)

Then, if a character has a partner, and falls for someone else, you have them ask you "I want to pursue [insert character]. Should I talk to [current partners] about it?" and then you can encourage or discourage them, and if you encourage them, then you get a little cutscene of them talking to their current partners about wanting to add a new member to the relationship. The current partner either accepts or declines, based on their personal feelings towards their partners other crush.

"But I like the cutscenes of them fighting over the person!" That could still happen, if the miis dislike each other, or one of them has the "closed monogamy" setting on.

2- All binary characters are default straight & gender conforming. Yes, you can change that in the menu, but there just shouldn't be a default in the first place.

3- Mii babies are always boys or girls, which reinforces negative stereotypes about how nonbinary is something that happens "later in life" rather than something kids can be.

4- No ability to make multigender characters. You cannot make a character female and nonbinary, male and nonbinary, female & male & nonbinary, etc. I get that they probably did this because they wanted an easier time determining what characters would be attracted to who, but I pose that if a character is attracted to women, and another character has "woman" as one of their genders, let them get a crush! (Or if you're so worried about it, have it where only people attracted to both women & enben can get a crush on someone with both those options selected.)

5- No ability to select multiple pronouns and create neopronouns.

6- No wheelchairs, walkers, rollators, canes, crutches, or prosthetics.

7- No ability to customize limbs/make amputees.

8- No ability to make asymmetrical features or customize individual eyes (so no heterochromia, no making one eye bigger than the other, etc.)

9- No ability to make characters mute, blind, or deaf. The mute one would be especially easy, you could just make them play every other game except for no repeats! And you could give options for mute or deaf characters to use AACs or write on notebooks! Like "Would you like this Mii to write, use an AAC, or communicate through gestures?" and you either select one of the options, or all of the options. There should also be semi-verbal options, where they speak sometimes, but not other times!

10- This is more nitpicky, but I actually would like it if you could choose to keep Mii babies...well, babies. Like, if the game asked you "Remain baby mode?" and if you said "no," then it does the classic cutscene. But if you said "yes", then you get to help your Miis raise their baby every day.

11- Why can't you select multiple personality quirks in each segment, and the character rotates between them? For example, if I select a mii to walk like a rodeo rider and walk shyly, it should rotate between both, not have me go into the mii menu to select between them. They already let you select multiple mii quirks in the random set, so why won't they let you do that for the walking set, standing set, etc?

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When a lot of people describe their idea of a "perfect world" it always includes getting rid of disabilities in general, but mainly people that have disfigurements. Why do you view disabled people as non existent in your perfect world? Why can't people that look different exist in your perfect world?

This is ableism.

It's honestly really disgusting. The concept of disabilities being literally eradicated is eugenicist types of thinking.

Treatments and accommodations would be available in a perfect world. Lifesaving treatments would exist for fatal disabilities. But disabilities would not be gone in a perfect world. Disabled people are not a "flaw."

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If there's anyone willing to create sketches or lineart sketches for the intersex visual guide (due by October), please DM or comment! Read more about it here! [link]

If you aren't great at sketching anatomy, no worries, there are prompts that could work for you!

All artstyles are welcome!

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Idk if this is exactly “deform”imisia since i dont think most nose shapes aren’t “deformities” but idk where else to send this… pls redirect if able—

Trying to look up certain nose shapes to get an idea of what they look like for character design and EXCLUSIVELY getting rhinoplasty before/after images of how people “fixed” the nose (usually by getting a button nose of course)

This is lookism (and often built on racism, due to certain nose types being more common in specific races)! @this-is-lookism

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People saying i cant be having back problems just because I am young

I literally am born with my bones at my hips having some issue that gets on my back somehow

This is deformimisia and ageism.

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being ridiculed because our walking is affected by our deformities

literally just yesterday, as of submitting this, my sister yelled at us for "walking sideways" when we naturally drift left while walking because our legs are different lengths. We didn't even bump into her, we just drifted slightly in her direction before she yelled at us (and obviously she knows about our deformity, and how it impacts how we walk).

we're also self-conscious of how we walk because we've been told our gate is strange due to our ankles being turned inwards, the aforementioned difference in length between our legs, and also our hypermobility in our hips, knees, and ankles (doubt the hypermobility counts as a deformity, but it contributes to our "weird" gate regardless). Because of this we avoid walking in front of other people as much as possible.

This is deformimisia.

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I have been acclimating people about me getting top surgery when I reach 18 for years. And the amount of people who are just so insistent about: "but the scars! Are you sure?? You'll have scars!!!"

And it's just so fucking tiring actually omg. Idc about having the scars after. Actually, thinking about having them gives me gender euphoria bcs I now that having them means I won't have tits. But man it's so insane how much people hate scars. I have acne and dermatollomia? "Don't do that! You'll get scars!" It's never about the pain, or infection. It's about the fucking scars. Omg. Please. I'm so tired of everyone being like this.

This is transphobia, exorsexism, varsexism and disfiguremisia.

The way people behave towards TGD (trans & gender diverse) and varsex people who desire specific surgical procedures because "the scars, the scars!!!" is so genuinely ridiculous and pisses me off.

First of all, there is nothing wrong with having scars.

Second of all, these are surgical scars, precisely created to minimize issue as much as possible.

Third of all, I can't be fucked to care about scars if it means I'll have a body that reflects the gender or sex that I feel inside.

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Out of curiousity, what would be the downsides of having a hole in the nose bridge (like a hole that causes the inside to be seen from outside) other than aesthetic

(Not saying there aren't, I'm just curious on what they'd be. Hopefully, this is an ok ask, sorry if not)

Depends on where it's located on the nose bridge, how big the hole is, and where the nose is located on the face (ie; if it's close to the eyes.)

Here are some things I've gathered from a mix of experiences I've read (keep in mind, this all depends on the size and location of the hole, smaller holes may cause less noticeable symptoms):

-Breathing problems (difficulty inhaling or exhaling, shortness of breath, etc). Sometimes there's even an issue of too much air, if the hole is large enough, and the breeze is directly pushing into the hole. I've also seen a few people mention covering their nose hole with a gauze while they sleep, as to avoid their throat drying out, because the air leads directly into their throat from the hole.

-Difficulty around water (ie; showers, baths, pools, etc). People may cover their nose during washes, or angle their head, as to avoid water flooding their nose and drowning them. (Water also tends to give a burning sensation, like when you accidentally inhale water up your nose.)

-Difficulty around sandy beaches or dusty locations. Same as the water reason - don't want to get sand/dust in their nose and throat. There's a lot of factors to consider with this trait. Putting on makeup, for example, might take more preciseness or caution, as to avoid dust getting in the nose. Wearing a gauze while doing makeup might be preferred.

-Sensitivity to the breeze, especially if it's cold. People with holes in their nose might wear a mask or gauze to prevent the air from getting in, because it's uncomfortable, painful, and/or dries out their nose. (Dry noses can also cause nosebleeds.)

-Nasal pain or headaches, feelings of congestion, and lots of crust/grime building up in the nose (which can cause random nosebleeds from irritation, the inside of the nose is very sensitive, so the crust would agitate the walls of the nose.)

-A whistling sound when breathing (not necessarily a downside and moreso just a characteristic.) It might also change how a person sounds when they speak, giving a more nasally voice.

-A partial or complete loss of smell (hyponosmia or anosmia.)

-Dry/irritated eyes (if the hole in the nose is close to the eyes, and is blowing air into them.)

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I’m disabled and have a condition that affects my skin and it’s collagen. Personally, I love all of my scars and enjoy having them, even including them in my art personas as much as possible. I also love my stretch marks and find them very pretty imo. However, all my life I’ve had people tell me to put lotion and cocoa butter on it to make them fade quicker when I really don’t want them to. I actually get disappointed when I notice my scars fading. Everyone makes them out to be these bad things when it’s just a visual tell of your life, of things that have happened. It’s honestly disappointing.

Relating to the other ask about top surgery, I’ve been encouraged to do key hole top surgery to avoid scarring when that’s not what I want. I want the double incisions, I want the scars. They are visible proof that I am choosing to be who I am, who I want to be. There’s nothing wrong with that.

This is disfiguremisia.

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Getting banned from a discord server for refusing to tag my OC with severe facial scarring (which was healed, not like open wounds) as gore.

This is disfiguremisia. Scarring isn't gore. Gore is an unhealed injury.

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In a series I'm writing, I gave beings like gods and shapeshifters a kind of default form, an appearance that feels the most natural and comfortable for them to be in, and for a lot of them that default form includes physical differences and/or scarring. And I try to avoid having them do things that hide these features, so most of them have specific reasons they don't shapeshift things away. And people just. Refuse. To understand why someone wouldn't "fix" their scars or amputation or limb differences or whatever else with shapeshifting. Even when given the in-universe explanation AND the real-world explanation (I don't believe in getting rid of a character's disability,) people keep saying it's unrealistic that they don't "fix" their appearances and arguing that my reasons are illogical or invalid. It's wild how many people argue that I should erase the character's disability for "realism" (we've got shapeshifters, I think the realism boat sailed long ago but apparently not.) I don't get the problem people have with characters being happy in their own skin

This is deformimisia and disfiguremisia.

God forbid a disabled person like being their authentic self, right? The abled, conventionally attractive body is obviously the most desirable way to be, right? It would be absurd for someone to want to be "defective" and "ugly", right? (Sarcasm.)

Your story sounds awesome, by the way.

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I’m going through a lot of older horror movies and novels and I want to know, what’s the deal with there being a pattern of “Deformed characters mutilating other people”? Why is that a thing??

This is deformimisia & disfiguremisia.

It's weird ableist fearmongering bullshit about how people with visible differences are "ugly on the inside, so they become ugly on the outside" or vice versa.

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(Animal death mention)

People in the comments of a post about a dog with severe burn scarring from a housefire it survived (who has a good quality of life and isn’t suffering) that the owners should put it down solely due to its appearance.

This is disfiguremisia and speciesism. @thisis-speciesism

That dog doesn't deserve to die just because it isn't "aesthetically appealing"! There's more to life than appearance!

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I have been acclimating people about me getting top surgery when I reach 18 for years. And the amount of people who are just so insistent about: "but the scars! Are you sure?? You'll have scars!!!"

And it's just so fucking tiring actually omg. Idc about having the scars after. Actually, thinking about having them gives me gender euphoria bcs I now that having them means I won't have tits. But man it's so insane how much people hate scars. I have acne and dermatollomia? "Don't do that! You'll get scars!" It's never about the pain, or infection. It's about the fucking scars. Omg. Please. I'm so tired of everyone being like this.

This is transphobia, exorsexism, varsexism and disfiguremisia.

The way people behave towards TGD (trans & gender diverse) and varsex people who desire specific surgical procedures because "the scars, the scars!!!" is so genuinely ridiculous and pisses me off.

First of all, there is nothing wrong with having scars.

Second of all, these are surgical scars, precisely created to minimize issue as much as possible.

Third of all, I can't be fucked to care about scars if it means I'll have a body that reflects the gender or sex that I feel inside.

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