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Hello! Welcome to my blog about fatphobia.

I'll be pointing out fatphobia when and where I see it, and accepting submissions of experiences with fatphobia. You can submit silly/joke posts but please specify so I know it isn't spam being sent by someone being rude.

Any amount of body shaming will not be tolerated on this blog. I mean it. Keep bigotry out of here or get blocked.

Do not censor words, especially with letters and numbers. This makes these posts inaccessible to people with disabilities and also makes filtering triggering posts more difficult for people.

Inspired by blogs such as @this-is-anti-masculinity (who has a huge post compiling a ton of other blogs like this one!)

Blog runs on a queue! Currently set to 5.

I tag ED mentions with #tw ed discussion, weight loss mentions with #tw weightloss

Personal Stuff:

My name is Tael and I go by he/him pronouns. I also run @this-is-solidarity where I share positivity or solidarity posts!

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An overdue update on the state of this blog.

To put it simply, it is going on hiatus. I will be queueing everything from the inbox then unpausing the queue. It will post a lot more a day so it doesn't take literally six months to empty, given asks are so behind already.

My other blog, @this-is-solidarity, has always posted more sporadically due to lower volume, and while I'm going to try to keep up with it, it will not be often.

In my real life, I am working more hours, dealing with a lot of changes in life, and don't have the time to regularly devote my heart and mind to the blog the way I wish I could.

I've barely opened tumblr at all lately, honestly, because I was finding it more draining than anything.

I don't know how long the hiatus will last. I enjoy being a source of comfort and support for people, but as the only person running this blog, the sheer volume of submissions quickly became overwhelming.

I'd like to apologize to everyone who sent an ask and has still not seen it months later. I'm going to go through them. It will take hours to empty my inbox, so I hope it offers some explanation for why this has been a struggle to maintain. For every 50 asks I add to the queue, in a week there are 60 more in their place.

In the meantime, I want to ask that everyone take care of eachother. Be kind, remember that all people, regardless of size, deserve to be treated with respect and dignity.

And if someone wants to step in due to my absence and run a blog allowing for this topic, I encourage you to, as long as you understand the risks and the time it will take to run a blog like this.

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Submissions are entering the queue, a proper update will be posted soon.

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hey, is this blog inactive, on hiatus, or out of asks?

Sorry about the delay in answering this. I have been meaning to update, but my life has gotten busy. I think considering the blog "on hiatus" until I get the inbox cleared and everything queued up may be the correct way to view it.

I have a lot of asks and life offline has gotten unexpectedly very busy, and I'm sorry for the delay in posts.

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fatphobia is my grandmother using my cousin (fat, also perfectly healthy, by the way, eats healthy and exersizes and stuff, not that it matters) as a sort of cautionary tale to keep me (above average, but i don’t consider myself fat) from eating too much. i love my cousin as she is and i hate hearing all the shit our grandmother gives her back

This is fatphobia.

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My partner got clipped for a popular comedian's page and mentioned that they're a spec ed teacher as part of the crowd work. The comments are filled with horrid remarks, such as implying that their kids behave because they threaten to eat them if they don't, whale emojis, some people just flat out saying they wouldn't want someone "like that" teaching their kids. It's heinous and heartbreaking.

(it's the mute comedian Ahren if anyone wants to look for some reason)

This is fatphobia.

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I'm in remission from compulsive eating for more then 3 years already and most of the symptoms of it are gone but I still feel like something's off.

When I was 16, I gained a lot of weight after restrictive dieting and calorie counting and my dad was horrible to me because of it. I think it also triggered my future depression and anxiety. For a long time I desperately tried to lose weight but it didn't help and in the end I just gave up on it because I had other problems to deal with.

After some time I stopped caring about what I'm eating and naturaly, my body started to lose weight. I lost quite a lot actually without making any effort to it and people started to notice. They started making compliments about how good I look when I'm smaller and the worst part is it's like crack to me. Last year I went to the gym to get buffier and gain some muscles because I actually like sport and working out in general and lost more weight through it too. People around me are happy, the say I'm pretty but I can't take that seriously, not anymore.

I like getting muscles but I'm not so sure if I'm completely free from internalized fatphobia, because I'm still addicted to weighing myself at least once a month. I'm still cheking myself for the double chin in the mirror. I still have to pretend that I like photos my friends took of me accidently. I still can't asses myself adequately in the mirror. And I'm still convinced that my personal life is fully dependent only on my body and the reason I don't have a s/o is because I'm fat.

Yes, I maybe healthier now, but something inside me never will be cured. Part of me is in chains forever because when I was 16 my dad called me fat.

Hey. I wanted to give this a proper answer, instead of a simple acknowledgement that there's some internalized fatphobia going on. Healing takes time. Maybe some part of you will always be this way, but trust me when I say that three years is a short time. You've had incredible progress already, but you can't expect perfection from yourself immediately.

There will always be bad days. But there will always be good days, too. There will be days when none of this crosses your mind, where you won't feel the need to check the mirror or the scale. I promise you, there are better days ahead. In three more years, you'll probably be looking back on these days and realizing how far you've come from them.

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I have most symptoms of POTS but whenever I bring it up to a doctor they're blamed on my weight and I'm so. So tired dude.

This is medical fatphobia.

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The stereotypes surrounding polyamory and the comments under fat queer people's posts making shitty jokes about polyamory

This is fatphobia and polyphobia.

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This isn't fatphobia itself but a result of it:

My mother has hEDS there's no doubt about it and it hurts her a lot. She would love to go to the doctor to help her manage her symptoms but she is too afraid they're going to tell her that her pain is actually because she's overweight.

People should not have to avoid the doctors and not get life changing care all because the doctors are fatphobic smegheads.

This is a result of medical fatphobia.

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Being told I should loose weight by my grandma and doctors when just 4ish years ago I was actively so severely malnourished to where my weight wouldn’t show up on bmi charts. I was on a stimulant medication that wouldn’t let me eat and I weighted about 50 pounds at 13. I was incredibly sickly and I have chronic and potentially deadly issues from the malnutrition now, such as very common hypoglycemia episodes and heart issues, plus a bunch of nervous system problems from where it literally didn’t develop right bc it didn’t have enough nutrients. I also am extremely stunted in growth and it has caused a lot of issues, such as micrognathia.

Im chubby/fat now, and I cannot tell you how happy I am in this body. It’s a sign of survival for me, it’s a sign of how far I’ve come. When I tell you I’m surprised I didn’t have to go to the hospital or even have a heart attack back then I’m being so serious. I was deathly skinny, and I’m so happy I’m chubby now. I love my body so much and I was incredibly insecure when I was malnourished, I’d never go back to that.

Most my issues are caused by malnutrition, not being overweight. It’s ridiculous to me how doctors can’t see this. And it’s not my mom’s fault for the malnutrition- see, she wanted me on another med- but my doc just kept increasing it until I was on the absolute highest dose. All he told her to do was just give me vitamins. She did, but obviously it wasn’t a replacement for the proper nutrition I needed through puberty and growing up.

This is a result of ableism and medical fatphobia.

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fatphobia is both sympathy towards fat people being accused of fetishism by the internet AND the internet fetishising hypothetical fat women at the same time

This is fatphobia.

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Reminders for the holiday season:

The only “Bad food” is food you don’t like or food you’re allergic to

All food is guilt free because food has no morality

Eat when you’re hungry, don’t when you’re not no matter how much or little it takes to be full

You know your body better than any judgmental relatives

Healthy doesn’t have a “Look”

Important reminders!

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I have CAH (congenital adrenal hyperplasia) and was diagnosed as an adult. CAH causes hypoglycemia, hypotension, tachycardia, & adrenal insufficiency. Because of this I need to eat a high-carb, high-salt diet in order to stay healthy & not die

The way that strangers stare at me when I eat or acquaintances comment makes me feel so disgusted with myself even though I'm literally doing what I need to survive!! Because there is an expectation that I should be eating the opposite way if I "really" wanted to be "healthy" (thinner) in a fat body. And when I eat veggies, people assume I'm on a diet & that I hate what I'm eating and try to do weight-talk with me?? Like go away

When I lost weight due to my hypoglycemia, everyone complimented me. I felt so exhausted but I had to be happy about it because other people struggled to lose weight

This is fatphobia and ableism.

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All the fat jokes and insults (ham hands for example) thrown at Byakuya in Dangonronpa 2, as well as a certain YouTuber referring to him as "thiccakuya".

This is fatphobia.

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Fat characters pretty much only being "liked" or drawn/writen when it comes to ship art/are seen as only useful if they are *insert skinny character here*'s partner

This is fatphobia.

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I’m chubby, but I wouldn’t call myself fat, though I definitely was in elementary school. Because of this, I used to pretend to be sick during the winter so I didn’t have to go to school—especially recess. As soon as the puddles froze over and ice chunks became plentiful, I got them thrown at me with no mercy.

Their logic was that “she’s too fat to run away, she’s an easy target.”

Being one of the only fat kids in a richy-rich town full of skinny twigs was not fun. Thank everything I switched to a private school for middle school.

This is fatphobia.