Do you have any advice for going towards, feeling love?
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” - rumi
i think this quote works as the foundation, tbh. we are love. its already who we are. but sadly, due to experiences, the world, whatever, before we knew about all of this, we built up walls to keep love out, for why we cant have love, etc. really, our only task is to let all of that go. to let go of our reasoning, to let go of everything we hold onto that tells us we cannot feel love, that we cant have it. how can we be denied something that we are?
to give you more actionable steps, i say to just go for it. decide right now, you are love, and therefore, you can feel it now.
if you do that, and feel resistance, listen to what its telling you. those are the identities you must surrender, to let love flow in more deeply and radically. choose love over the fears. and this can take time, i recommend sitting with the uncomfortable feelings in a safe space like mediation.
and if you feel no response at all, then allow that too, just keep deciding youre going to feel more love, youre going to go towards love from now on, and trust in that decision. and see what happens :) so much of this is just learning to trust ourselves! and keep going back to love until it becomes your new normal.
finally, ask how you can BE more loving yourself. how can YOU go towards love right now, without needing any reason to?
and maybe as a last tidbit of advice, get off social media:) i think that some of the ugliest, hateful things can be on there. and they make us feel wrong for wanting to choose love sometimes. so build an environment for yourself where its safe to be loving. <3
some affirmations that can help:
~ all is well in my world/the world is a good place
~ i am beautiful and everyone loves me
~ i am beautiful and i love everyone
~ i am safe (i think sometimes we feel scared to be loving, because it can feel like being vulnerable, so this aff can even be: i am loved even more when i am vulnerable, when i am open, when i am loving, etc.)
ofc i rec affs as ways to remind yourself, not something to robotically chant trying to force a change.
if you feel like reading, i'll get more into depth now about my own experience, but if not, then what i've already said should be enough <3
in my case, i choose love by being the love i want to experience. 1st, this begins with me. how do i treat myself? how do i hold myself when im feeling down or upset or sad? i act as the person who loves me most, and i constantly show up for myself in that way. i wont put myself down, i'll love myself through it all.
2nd, in response to seeming "others"... when someone comes to me in an unlovely way, i surrender those feelings of wanting to be unlovely back. i see them as a part of me thats still hurting, and i want to love them. ive said before, years ago, i used to be so cold, so hurt, i saw myself as an ice queen at some point because of how hardened my heart became. at some point, i got deep satisfaction in seeing others upset, i "liked" keeping people in a dark place in my mind. very ugly to admit, but im not afraid to admit it because i think those ugly feelings are normal to the human experience, and we dont have to be prisoners to them forever. thanks to choosing love for myself, i also can naturally extend this to others, and i want to extend it to others. its a basic: lead by example. i dont want to keep anyone in an unlovely place. you know, back in the day, if someone was mean to me then tried to be nice, or changed their mind, i couldnt accept it. "how DARE you try to be nice to me now?!" but these days, i accept them lovingly. how LOVELY that they have now changed, how lovely i got a glimpse at a part of them that reflects the love i have inside of me, back to me. i love to see people change in the blink of an eye now. i dont want to hold onto any grudge, and so, i let people be themselves freely. i go towards love, by also choosing to identify with the fact that i am love within. its never something i have to try for, its something that simply is. and so i can be, and let others be, and let the world be too.