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You don’t have to justify your weight to anyone. You don’t need to say “but I exercise and eat healthy!” to feel like you deserve respect. You deserve respect no matter what you eat or how much you exercise. You deserve respect even if you have health issues. Don’t let others make you feel differently. You matter.

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Octavia Saint Laurent, Paris is Burning

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A friend of mine who’s been married for 10 years and has 2 children confessed to me yesterday that she’s tired of being a wife and a mother.

This isn’t the first time someone has said this to me. It’s mostly from women who got married and had kids in their early 20’s before they got a chance to realize the woman they really are. And they grow to hate their life and resent their family. And it’s heartbreaking to see how heavy their guilt is.

Marriage and having children is not the ultimate goal for some women. Many do it because they feel it’s the natural order of things and those women usually realize one day that if they had the chance to do it all over again they wouldn’t.

If you have doubts about wanting kids, wait. Don’t pressure yourself to have children because you feel it’s what’s expected of you.

And don’t marry someone either because you feel you must by a certain age or if you feel obligated.

It’s OK if you don’t want to ever get married or have children. It’s OK if you don’t want to become someone’s wife or mother. You’re not less of a woman. Live your life for yourself.

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‘Enjoy your body, use it every way you can. Don’t be afraid of it or what other people think of it. It’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own.’ -Uncle Baz | • #Sunscreen

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Here’s your reminder that relationships are extremely difficult. the delusion that you are going to find that person who you move into a small apartment with and read books all day and cook naked and cuddle with and play footsie under the table with is a gross romanticization of reality.

You’re going to have great times in a relationship. You’re going to go on fun dates and have great sex and hot make out sessions. But you’re also going to fight. You’re going to be in that weird stage where you like them more than they like you or vice versa and that’s going to hurt. You’re going to have to deal with jealousy and insecurity. You will have to deal with boredom in the relationship. You’re going to be too busy for them or accidentally hurt them. And you are going to have to deal with a few break ups before you find that right one.

A relationship is not going to solve all of your problems. It’s not going to suddenly make you happy. It isn’t easy. They are much harder than being single. Relationships are an unbelievable amount of work and effort and compromise and it’s not always going to be perfect. But the effort you put into it is what make it worth it. Because you fought and worked hard for this person and hopefully they did the same for you. So remember that.

#This is why I'm happily single

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NEW YORK, NY - DECEMBER 20: Janelle Monae attends Build Series to discuss the film ‘Hidden Figures’ at AOL HQ on December 20, 2016 in New York City.

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Moonlight (2016)

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ALL THE FEELS.

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Barry Jenkins: (…) what I love about Trevante is he never flinched, man. He never flinched. And I’m not tough as a director. I’m not demanding. But I push. And I was pushing the shit out of his ass. I don’t know if it was the athletics or what.

Trevante Rhodes: It’s the athletics, I promise you. (x)