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Being ace in fandoms is so awkward sometimes because yeah the allos like the irredeemably evil villain who has murdered countless innocent people and experiments on children because he's conventionally attractive, what's my excuse? I like this guy for his personality. His personality is a burning truck of chemicals without a driver rolling at 220 km/h down the hill towards the daycare.
something they don’t tell you about being autistic is that every character you write WILL end up autistic/autistic-coded whether you like it or not
same goes for being aromantic/asexual. every character WILL come out at least a little aspec
if you reblog this and purposefully remove the second addition i Will block you.
You use "arospec people can still date and feel romantic attraction " as an excuse to ship cannon aro characters , I use it as justification to headcannon characters who canonically feel romantic attraction as arospec , we are not the same
spike is so good about bouncing back from humiliation.
his entire existence is build on that strength.
and maybe that's why he's so good at loving buffy.
because where all her other partners failed, he succeeds. where the men she dates see her strength as a flaw to get over (or subdue), spike sees it as one of her greatest attributes.
where people overall (i'm looking at you empty places scoobies) take her leadership and right to control as hard to swallow -- spike assumes this as the natural order of things.
when she needs someone to take the brunt of her emotional short fallings, her lowest moments, spike puts himself out there knowing that he'll be hit at. but doing it because he loves her and even if it's not the healthiest solution at least it's honest.
he's purely honest. and i think that's the thing buffy needs most. no one else is so unabashedly genuine as he is with her.
He equalizes her. He is the one PERSON in the whole show that actually understands just what and who Buffy is as both a woman and a Slayer. And that’s why his ‘Touched’ speech hits so hard and works so well. Because she knows that he is telling the truth about it. That when he says “You’re a hell of a woman”, he is pointing out what’s always been there in her.
When Spike tells her that she’s a hell of a woman, he doesn’t just mean it the way Riley did. That she was the strongest person he knew. He also meant that strong isn’t something Buffy has to try to be. She just is naturally because her strength comes from her heart, not her brawn. Not just her capableness, but also her compassion. Her ability to put others first. And this is what motivates her to defeat The First. The knowing that she possesses the strength to do so and all Spike did was remind her that she always has done.
Not even the Scoobies have that level of insight of her.
Buffy and the “Not like other girls” Trope
I think one of the most important parts of Buffy is how she’s characterized in a way that is the complete opposite of the “Not like other girls” Trope, she’s is like every other girl and she constantly insists so despite everyone telling her she’s different or Special.
It’s something that’s been apart of her character since even 1992 movie. It’s established in a scene that’s always stuck with me towards the end of the movie during the prom scene, Pike says “You know… Your not like other girls.” Which in any other movie would be a compliment, but Buffy completely rejects it. She replies with a quiet “Yes I am.” And continues slow dancing.
And that’s it! That’s the whole scene, I always thought it was so interesting. Which maybe that’s because I was raised on thousands of 2000s and 2010s Not like other girl movies (which I could write a whole other essay on) but I think it’s because it’s just a quiet little character moment.
It’s a sentiment of her’s that comes back around in the show, and it’s exemplified in a scene in S5 EP22 where a boy tells Buffy that she’s “Just a Girl” and Buffy just says “That’s what I keep saying.” It’s so Bitter and it’s so sad but it perfectly explains what I’m talking about.
Buffy is an every man, an every girl if you will. She’s girly, fashionable and everything you would think of a teenage girl as. There’s no rejection of her femininity or girlhood that makes her a badass, she is exactly like other girls (and is still badass!)
But it’s also essential to her character that she isn’t at the same time, for all the ways she’s just like the every other girl, There’s a thousand other reasons why she isn’t. It’s her curse, she’s just a girl but also she isn’t, and she can never be.
does anyone want to be best friends that also live together and go on adventures together but like mundane adventures like ikea and target and also wants to lay our heads on each others shoulders when sleepy but also have separate bedrooms but also enjoy spending most of our free time together……. just me? ok
Not straight, not gay, but a secret third thing (aroace).
Why did I only just realise that Merida was aroace??? She was the only Disney princess I liked when I was younger, and now I know why ig. She’s an archer as well? It’s so fitting!
Aro culture is knowing love is in the air, but only accepting oxygen.
I've heard that dying a virgin is considered sad / pathetic so taking that into account I have decided to not die
some fucking gowl was shouting out the window at the palestinian solidarity march 'all you gays out there if you lived in palestine they'd kill you' and i was on the megaphone and just started screaming 'queers for palestine' over and over again bc i just needed to say smth but i fucking broke down weeping after we passed her bc it's one thing to see the shit online but another to see someone have the fucking audacity to say it in real life at ppl marching.
how fucking dare you use our oppression as a knife against our siblings being slaughtered. how fucking opportunistic and assimilationist to spit out the homonationalist pinkwashing directly from brand israel who absolutely oppresses their own queer population with no marriage equality but uses 'gay rights' as a cudgel for genocide justification.
queers for palestine 🏳️🌈✊🇵🇸
See them, hold them in your heart. 🇵🇸🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
enemies-to-lovers this, friends-to-lovers that, why do they have to become lovers? can't we do enemies-to-besties??? or they stay enemies?? they stay friends??? why must they always get together.
just because i am aroace doesn’t make me clueless!!! Ok i am clueless but not because i am aroace!!!
thinking about how the world would be better if more people understood the differences between 'the author failed to tell the story they wanted to tell' and 'the author told the story they wanted to tell, but they told it badly' and 'the author told the story they wanted to, and they told it well, but it wasn't the story I wanted to read'
Me, an aromantic, giving dating advice: Maybe just don't date?
fun fact (not fun at all fact actually) :
aromanticism and asexuality are still treated as issues to be fixed in most therapy settings, at least in the western psychiatric institution. i cannot fucking mention my aromanticism or asexuality to a therapist or it’ll immediately become their primary concern and goal to fix. whether or not i have a partner/am trying to have a partner is actively being used as an indicator of my wellness, regardless of if i WANT one. i cannot have access to needed mental health ressources because of fear of conversion therapy. aro and/or ace conversion therapy is the norm in most psychiatric institutions and we are getting told by the rest of the queer community that our oppression isnt real and that there is no link between our struggles and theirs.
