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PLEASE GO ON YOUR TWITTER/FACEBOOK/INSTAGRAM/ANYWHERE AND USE #HISNAMEWASZANDER

PLEASE

ZANDER WAS A TRANSGENDER TEEN WHO’S LIFE WAS CUT SHORT DUE TO THE BLATANT MISTREATMENT OF HIS MOTHER

ZANDER IS BEING BURIED AS A STRANGER, WITH THE WRONG PRONOUNS AND THE WRONG NAME

HERE IS HIS SUICIDE NOTE AND HERE IS A POST FROM HIS GIRLFRIEND EXPLAINING THE REST

HE DESERVES TO BE REMEMBERED

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PLEASE GO ON YOUR TWITTER/FACEBOOK/INSTAGRAM/ANYWHERE AND USE #HISNAMEWASZANDER

PLEASE

ZANDER WAS A TRANSGENDER TEEN WHO’S LIFE WAS CUT SHORT DUE TO THE BLATANT MISTREATMENT OF HIS MOTHER

ZANDER IS BEING BURIED AS A STRANGER, WITH THE WRONG PRONOUNS AND THE WRONG NAME

HERE IS HIS SUICIDE NOTE AND HERE IS A POST FROM HIS GIRLFRIEND EXPLAINING THE REST

HE DESERVES TO BE REMEMBERED

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PLEASE GO ON YOUR TWITTER/FACEBOOK/INSTAGRAM/ANYWHERE AND USE #HISNAMEWASZANDER

PLEASE

ZANDER WAS A TRANSGENDER TEEN WHO’S LIFE WAS CUT SHORT DUE TO THE BLATANT MISTREATMENT OF HIS MOTHER

ZANDER IS BEING BURIED AS A STRANGER, WITH THE WRONG PRONOUNS AND THE WRONG NAME

HERE IS HIS SUICIDE NOTE AND HERE IS A POST FROM HIS GIRLFRIEND EXPLAINING THE REST

HE DESERVES TO BE REMEMBERED

[toudeux]

PLEASE GO ON YOUR TWITTER/FACEBOOK/INSTAGRAM/ANYWHERE AND USE #HISNAMEWASZANDER

PLEASE

ZANDER WAS A TRANSGENDER TEEN WHO'S LIFE WAS CUT SHORT DUE TO THE BLATANT MISTREATMENT OF HIS MOTHER

ZANDER IS BEING BURIED AS A STRANGER, WITH THE WRONG PRONOUNS AND THE WRONG NAME

HERE IS HIS SUICIDE NOTE AND HERE IS A POST FROM HIS GIRLFRIEND EXPLAINING THE REST

HE DESERVES TO BE REMEMBERED

[lenasai]

I would like to express my deepest sympathies to your family.  However, I would like to mention that although the name and pronouns given at birth are different, his final wish was to be remembered as your son, Zander Nicholas.  Please respect this. Even if you do end up deleting this post for pointing out the name and pronouns he wanted to be known by, I at least ask you to read this.

Zander was an incredible young man.  I actually first met him through a voice acting group my younger sibling and I put together a couple of years ago.  We were looking to cast someone with a certain kind of laugh for a specific character, and Zander’s was unforgettable.  We didn’t get all that far with our voice acting group, but it doesn’t matter to me because we all made so many wonderful friends.  Zander and I bonded over silly jokes on Skype, and he was always there when one of us was having trouble.  Even if he himself was having trouble with something, he was always open to listening to his friends.

On the night of February 14th, Zander messaged me about how glad he was to have me as a friend.  He seemed so happy!  Of course, since it was Valentine’s Day, I figured he was just in the mood of the holiday.  I messaged him back, saying how glad I was to be his friend, too.  That was the last time he ever messaged me.  Had I known something was wrong, I would have wanted to talk to him longer.  I never got to say goodbye to him, and I regret that, but I’m at least glad the last thing I said to him was “I’m glad we’re friends, too!”  I hope he knows I meant that 100%.

I’m still having trouble accepting the fact that he’s gone.  All of us are.  Zander truly had a heart of gold, and I will always miss him.  Even if I never met him face-to-face, he was still a dear friend to me, and as his friend, all I ask is that you respect his final wishes.

[lenasai]

This was what I wrote in each of two guestbooks in memorial of Zander (Tumblr user hipopatmus).  Both of them intentionally misnamed and misgendered him.  Unfortunately, his mother made it so all comments had to be reviewed before being posted, so it is highly unlikely it will ever be seen by guests.

That doesn’t mean she won’t see them.  Despite her blatant transphobia, I encourage people to write to these guestbooks to protest the intentional misnaming and misgendering of our friend.

I also encourage you to make signs, art, whatever, and use the tag #his name was zander.  We want justice for our friend.  Please, fight back against transphobia and help us.

[manamisaangaku-deactivated20150]

if you want to share the #hisnamewaszander posts ive made on facebook, here are my facebooks. feel free to add me. ive made the post on both blogs.

https://www.facebook.com/ariana.martinez.5680 (my facebook for my school friends)

https://www.facebook.com/ariana.martinez.146 (my facebook for my family)

please share the posts, make posts. i want the world to remember zander and know that he lived.

[kinsushixgyaru-blog]

The newspapers keep erasing my departed friend’s identity.

His name was Zander. Don’t let anyone forget that. He was Zander Nicholas Mahaffey and he was a ray of sunshine in all our friends’ lives. He lit up our dark clouds and was there when we needed him. Zander touched all of us in a positive way, and his passing has impacted us so much.

We love you, Zander. And we miss you. We have your back always.

[lenasai]

Good news - it seems some of our comments are actually getting through on one of the guestbook websites.

Read the top comment.  That’s a parent, not one of us.  There is hope.

[tmki-deactivated20150726]

posted on facebook, and already got 4 shares. people who don’t even know Zander know that this whole thing is bullshit and he should be buried the way he asked to be buried. 

[youresoanal-blog]

i thought id jump this bandwagon

i feel kinda bad because in the end, i did nothing to help him.

we always spoke of plans, i always made promises, yet i could never pull through,

i cant help but blame myself, so i can at least do this-

His Name Is Zander; and people need to know.

well it was also space nerd, but his name was Zander.

[kinsushixgyaru-blog]

On Valentine’s Day, I lost a dear friend, and it is an injustice that all his obituaries list his name as Sandra Nichole Mahaffey. His name was Zander Nicholas Mahaffey. He was trans, but that doesn’t make him any less valid as a person, nor does it give him a less valid identity.

His name was Zander. Don’t forget that.

Rest in peace, buddy. We miss you and we love you.

[kiyumin]

His name was Zander, and so many people were just as in love with him as he was with the stars.

[starleybucks-deactivated2019080]

that was the last time he spoke to me.

zander loved outer space, his girlfriend, vy2, anime, and cosplaying.

he was an excellent voice actor and even more excellent friend.

his name was zander

his name still is zander

i love him and miss him

please do not forget the name zander nicholas mahaffey.

[kiyumin]

I want to get #hisnamewaszander trending on Twitter. Please please please help me do this. It’s already started and it would be so great if it continued. I didn’t know Zander, but so many of my mutuals and close friends are grieving over this tiny space boy. Love him with all of your heart. Don’t let people forget his name.

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