daniel

Daniel / 22 / Canada Testosterone: January 31, 2014 Top surgery (stage 1): December 17, 2015 Top surgery (stage 2): July 7, 2016 Actual top surgery, done properly: July 9th, 2018 by Dr Kenneth Wolf Detroit MI

[trans-daniel]

if you’re a gore blog I block you. no shame, just don’t appreciate my surgery results being looked at that way

[trans-daniel]

nvm day 9 post op is spent going back and forth from the toilet

[trans-daniel]

oh my god I just crapped for the first time in 9 days

[queergraffiti]

Trans Pride

Blacksburg, Virginia, USA

[ordenna-deactivated20181024]

tbh the real advice I’d give to anyone is, do shit alone. go to a museum & go at your own pace & leave the instant you’re done. go somewhere you’ve never been and just wander around, duck into & out of places as it pleases you. linger as long as you’d like.

[themoonandaddiction-deactivated]

Hey uhhhhhh hot take but don’t automatically refer adult transmen as “boys” when you call their cis counterpart “men” (unless that transman you are refering to is absolutely okay with you calling them boy).

It’s really infantilizing.

Same thing with transwomen. Don’t automatically call them “girls” because they’re trans, but refer to all cis adults as “women” (again, unless they’re explicitly okay with it)

[that-trans-man-deactivated20210]

I’m about to be 29.. in no way, shape or form am I a boy. I am a man.

[ethereal-drivel]

[xshyboyx-blog1]

[trans-daniel]

it’s a lot harder to blog excitedly about having had top surgery when it’s your third one lol

and it’s kind of hard to be excited for the reveal. It’s on Saturday and I’ve already had two super disappointing top surgery reveals so I’m afraid

[trans-daniel]

am chillin in the tight af post op binder

[beachdeath]

honestly like. the sheer lack of resources available to lgbt young people about abusive relationships is killing us and abuse educators need to wake the fuck up and start providing specific, targeted resources for people in gay relationships.

[beachdeath]

i mean, i’ve had friends who are struggling in dysfunctional relationships say things to me like, “i don’t understand why we can’t figure out how to communicate, like, we’re both women” and i’ve had friends who are trapped in actively abusive relationships but are unable to think of their experiences as abuse because virtually all the literature on abuse is about the specific ways in which men threaten and terrorize women. 

i think because so many of us go through childhoods and early heterosexual relationships that are so traumatizing and lonely, it’s easy to believe that gay love is this kind of healing panacea, somehow inherently more pure and stable than straight love. and like. while unquestionably the vast majority of domestic abuse is carried out by men against women, gay relationships are not magic. they are made up of flawed people, and they can become dysfunctional, and people can be vulnerable to abuse within them. and we need to stop pretending otherwise and start figuring out how to protect each other.

[beachdeath]

[juxtapoesition]

“Your chromosomes will always be XX,/XY”

1. Like we don’t know that.

2. Unless you’re carrying around a chromosome testing kit, ur not gonna know that for any passing trans person unless they tell you.

[bizarrolord-deactivated20241123]

Transition is not perfect. We fucking know this since we’re dysphoric and not idiots.

[inceloid-deactivated20210822]

way too many people say “gender is fluid” when they mean to say “people are allowed to dress and act outside of their prescribed sex roles”

[trans-daniel]

I just had my third and I’m pretty sure final top surgery with Dr Kenneth Wolf in Detroit, Michigan

(**the first two surgeries were NOT performed by Dr Wolf.)

e was so kind, from the discounted price of $2000 USD to the personal delivery of my pain meds to my hotel room when he forgot to send them with me. He patted me on the back, put his arm around my shoulders and told me, “we’ll get it done right this time.”

[trans-daniel]

two updates: i’ll be 4 years on testosterone on the 31st and i’m going to be having the second revision to my top surgery done by a real professional this time around

long story short, i’m unsatisfied with my results to the point that i don’t believe any surgeon [in Alberta, as it’d be covered as long as the surgeon is here + long wait list] could fix it/do a good enough job. i’ve looked through possible surgeons here in canada who could do it, but the most attractive option i’ve seen is dr. wolf in detroit, michigan.

luckily, my quote with dr. wolf is $2000 USD. i’d also be paying the cost off flying out there, medications (i think?), and the stay at a hotel, though luckily again my parents are willing to cover a portion of the cost.

updates & pics on the 31st [i think]

[trans-daniel]

Just coming on here to update you guys, let you know that I had my second top surgery revision scheduled for July 5th. I was called and told that it’s been postponed because one of the pieces of machinery they’ll be using is unavailable, as in there are none in the province right now and they don’t know when one will be available. Lol. 

It’s alright though. I feel much better about it than I would if this had happened either of the last two surgeries, presumably because I’m so happy with the functionality side of my chest. By that, I mean that I’m happy with it when I have a shirt on. It’s flat enough, which is what I mean by “function”, but I figure one more surgery and it’ll be just about nice enough to feel normal without a shirt on.

As of now, I still have two large dents in both sides of my chest. The coming surgery, they will be taking fat from the belly area and grafting it into the dents. My biggest worry is that my belly will end up looking very alien and I won’t be able to get used to it, as I’m already very insecure about that area.

[00prettyboy]

“not all trans guys want to be called he and you should probably just ask” no you shouldn’t. don’t do this. do not do this. i swear to god if you ask me what “my pronouns” are i will literally just drop dead on the fuckign spot