This must be healing

Safe selfship imagines for victims. he/him (DNI if proshipper, support aging up F/Os, NSFW, transmed/truscum, or exclus.) 💙Headcanon requests closed💙

[traumafos]

From now on I ask that people don't send in messages seeking advice, or venting with heavy subject matter. Whether it's related to trauma, CSA, neurodivergence, or otherwise. I've answered a few because I wanted to give those people the best help that I could give, but the responses really take it out of me. I'm not trained to handle serious cognitive issues, and I don't think I'm mentally able to expend that energy all the time either. I'm also dealing with my own trauma.

I want this blog to help people, but this blog is also for me. I want to keep the focus on self shipping, healing, and positivity. 💙

[birdofprey1234]

Could you imagine watching your own child sick, suffering, even dieing in a hospital bed--and not being able to do anything?

Maram is a 26 year old woman living in Gaza, currently caring for her destitute family, who all experienced a violent bombing attack on May 22nd by the Isreali occupation. During this attack, her middle son Ibrahim was horribly impacted and requires IMMEDIATE surgery for his injuries. As of June 2nd, Maram needs $2,000 to pay for Ibrahim's emergency surgeries, that he could possibly die without. (Donation page linked here)

Ibrahim is 7 years old. This is the age where kids start elementary school. They learn to jump rope, decide their favorite book, laugh and play in the yard. Imagine the grief and trauma instilled in that young of a mind. He is in constant pain, trapped isolated in a medical tent, facing possible death. How do you reconcile that? How do you explain that even, to someone who's life has barely begun?

Every second in this situation counts. Over the past two months, we've managed to raise over $650 for Maram's son Ziad, and their whole families well-being. I KNOW that we can do more. Maram is moving mountains for her children, but she can only do so much on her own without income. She is begging for our help. As before, with every proof of donation over $1 to Maram's campaign, I will give ANYONE a fully colored sketch commission of anything they would like. Please, even if $1 is all you can give, if you've never given before, or given 10 times; I urge you to do so now. If you can't donate, sharing this post makes all the difference !!

[birdofprey1234]

This post has been incredibly slow going, but since I made it 4 days ago, we have raised $200 out of $2,000 for Maram!! A pretty small amount compared to what we need to get to, but nothing to sneeze at !! Thank you so so much to everyone who is donating. I reiterate again, PLEASE share this post when you can, I only have so many followers and the only way it can reach more people who may have more money to give is by breaking containment from my blog(s).

I have received no requests yet, which is fine, however if you're restraining from donating from fear of overwhelming me, it would not be so ! No matter if you want art from me or not, I urge you to please please keep donating. Ibrahim has now not had the surgery he needs for over 2 weeks, and every day only gets more dangerous for him. We need to show as much help as we can to this family.

[birdofprey1234]

Could you imagine watching your own child sick, suffering, even dieing in a hospital bed--and not being able to do anything?

Maram is a 26 year old woman living in Gaza, currently caring for her destitute family, who all experienced a violent bombing attack on May 22nd by the Isreali occupation. During this attack, her middle son Ibrahim was horribly impacted and requires IMMEDIATE surgery for his injuries. As of June 2nd, Maram needs $2,000 to pay for Ibrahim's emergency surgeries, that he could possibly die without. (Donation page linked here)

Ibrahim is 7 years old. This is the age where kids start elementary school. They learn to jump rope, decide their favorite book, laugh and play in the yard. Imagine the grief and trauma instilled in that young of a mind. He is in constant pain, trapped isolated in a medical tent, facing possible death. How do you reconcile that? How do you explain that even, to someone who's life has barely begun?

Every second in this situation counts. Over the past two months, we've managed to raise over $650 for Maram's son Ziad, and their whole families well-being. I KNOW that we can do more. Maram is moving mountains for her children, but she can only do so much on her own without income. She is begging for our help. As before, with every proof of donation over $1 to Maram's campaign, I will give ANYONE a fully colored sketch commission of anything they would like. Please, even if $1 is all you can give, if you've never given before, or given 10 times; I urge you to do so now. If you can't donate, sharing this post makes all the difference !!

[birdofprey1234]

This post has been incredibly slow going, but since I made it 4 days ago, we have raised $200 out of $2,000 for Maram!! A pretty small amount compared to what we need to get to, but nothing to sneeze at !! Thank you so so much to everyone who is donating. I reiterate again, PLEASE share this post when you can, I only have so many followers and the only way it can reach more people who may have more money to give is by breaking containment from my blog(s).

I have received no requests yet, which is fine, however if you're restraining from donating from fear of overwhelming me, it would not be so ! No matter if you want art from me or not, I urge you to please please keep donating. Ibrahim has now not had the surgery he needs for over 2 weeks, and every day only gets more dangerous for him. We need to show as much help as we can to this family.

[birdofprey1234]

I have a fantastic update about Maram!

If you haven't been following her story, Maram is a 26 year old Palestinian woman currently living with her 3 sons (9, 7, and 4 years) in Gaza, who's lives have been ravaged by the Isreali occupation and bombings, which destroyed their home. Since then, she has been scraping by on donations to her campaign (linked here), scrounging in any way a mother can to provide for her family; without the stable income, housing, food or medicine that they need.

Over the last week, thanks to your donations and reblogs, Maram was able to raise the full $600 for her youngest son Ziad's surgery! She's shared that Ziad has had his procedure, is feeling much better for it; and he's expected to make a full recovery! I cannot overstate how happy and grateful I am to everyone who has helped. The situation in Gaza is an unacceptable standard of living for all, and even surviving is a daily challenge. This one family now has one less element of suffering to bare, and that is no small thing.

At time of writing, Maram is currently $4,657 away from her full campaign goal of $30,000. I thought, if we could raise $600 in a week and a half, think what more we could do for this family in a month, or two months, just by giving what we can or sharing to those who can instead!

For the foreseeable future, I'm going to continue doing free sketch requests for donaters who send me proof of transaction to Maram's campaign. If you donate anything $1 and over, you can request anything you like! I will draw for any fandom, OC's, or even real life friends / family! For a donation of $15+ I will add flat colors, and the higher the donation the more detail / time I will put into your piece. Here's what you can expect from these sketches:

Please, if you have donated before, or never donated to any mutual aid funds--I urge you to donate now. No matter if you want my art or not, it goes to a great cause to support an impoverished family who is struggling to make ends meet in the midst of a genocide. I've spoken to Maram, and she is unendingly kind and humble, grateful for every penny someone has to give, and simply wants a good life for her children. Even $1 can go a long way to help this family's daily struggle!

[birdofprey1234]

Maram needs $154 by May 17th in order to get her son Ziad his completed treatment and medicine's. There has been no donations since I made this post. I urge anyone who sees this to donate, or REBLOG and share!! It costs nothing to help spread a post!

[comfort-character-central-deact]

Imagine your f/o hugging you tightly, rubbing soothing circles along your back or shoulder. Using their voice, embrace, or even just their presence to soothe you, they want nothing more than for you to feel safe, supported, and accepted.

[traumafos]

Hey, long time no see on this blog :)

I know I haven't really posted much for a while, I sort of fell off the habit of updating this quite a bit, so there's been quite a lull in activity. But I still love this blog / the idea of it, and my fos :)

I've actually been doing a lot of therapy work and real tangible healing for myself and my issues, trauma etc. So that's been really good. Maybe in a way that's why I haven't gone back to this blog as much, as I feel like it doesn't serve me as much as it once did. Like I don't need it to support me anymore! Which I think is...really good. That's a good sign anyway.

I have this issue where I just don't really know what to write for posts for this blog. My goal has always been to make posts that don't feel "basic" and stuff everyone has probably already imagined with their f/os before, and I struggle to come up with ideas a lot of the time. The most I would probably do is just...poetry or writing about my relationship with my own f/os, which to be honest I'm not sure how much people would care about. So sorry there's not much to see in way of recent original posts lol

I still do wanna continue to update this blog and will still reblog stuff I find for it, but I guess otherwise I am unsure where to take it! I am also not as active in the selfship community as I once was. I would love to use this blog in some kinda way to bring people more healing or bring people together, though I'm unsure how I would do that. Requires some thought I suppose.

I hope you are all doing well :) I love you and care for you, stay safe and remember that your f/o is there. I hope that you continue to find healing, and I will still be here to hopefully aid in that journey 💙

[wileyshipping]

Your f/o loves you even if you have Trauma

Your f/o doesn’t love you in spite of it, but understands that it’s just as much a part of you as anything else is

Your f/o understands you, and won’t judge you because you’re traumatized

Your f/o will be there if you’re having flashbacks/panic attacks and won’t judge you for them

Your f/o loves you no matter what

[arrows-imagines]

ptsd kings and queens (gender neutral) this one’s 4 u and also 4 me

If something triggering comes up, like in a meeting or a conversation or a movie or whatever, ur f/o instantly reaches for ur hand and holds it and maybe gives it a reassuring squeeze. Just to let you know they’re there and they’re here for you. And then if you need a hug when you’ve left the situation they’ll hold you for a long as you want and make sure you know you’re safe with them

[movedto-bunny-lovers]

Your f/o would help ground you during a panic attack, helping you breathe to the best of their ability. Your f/o would help you calm down and would make sure you were safe with them, too. Your f/o would be worried but caring and would do anything to be there for you.

proship/comship DNI

[ladybluebottle]

You deserve the very best.🩵

[selfshipzombie]

your f/o completely respects your lack of desire to kiss. they understand that there's more to romance and relationships than kissing, and that it wouldn't serve any use to push that boundary and make you uncomfortable for the sake of typical standards of romance. they're fine with whatever you prefer.

[fo-enjoyer]

F/O: *talks about all their trauma in canon*

F/O: but isn't that life tho lol

S/I: ...No. That's not normal. What happened is not ok!

F/O: Oh...

[salsflore-deactivated20251114]

imagine your f/o(s) seeking you in times of need and comfort because you’re their solace.

regardless of whatever it is they may need comfort from [ grief, loneliness, an awful day at work, heartbreak, etc. ] trust that your f/os know they can always seek you for some comfort.

whether it be just sitting in the same room as you as you sing to yourself, or listening to you talk about whatever song may be replaying in your mind at the moment, or hugging you in comfortable silence. maybe they want to talk, or quietly work together on a puzzle.

while it may not instantly cure all their worries, know that they’re soothed whenever they see you. your presence, always a calming warmth in times of chaos. so in love with you, they’re just comforted to know you’re there with them.

if you’re not there, they may or may not have a picture of you. maybe set as their lockscreen, kept in a locket or their wallet, all for the sake of looking at you when they need the extra comfort. serving as a reminder of who they’re doing this for, a reason to keep going. if they have the technology, expect them to browse through tons of videos and pictures of your memories together, or just you.

bonus — if they have some difficulty asking for help [ maybe they’re unused to it, maybe they’re too shy to ask directly or believe they don’t deserve it, etc. ] what are some subtle, or not so subtle, ways they do ask for help? any signs? like random hugs or approaching you just for company?

[mentalhealth-selfshipping]

Imagine helping your f/o after they self harm. You’re not ashamed or disappointed in them, and you make sure to tell them so. You help them clean up and disinfect their wounds, then ask them if they want to talk about what led them to this. If they want to share, you hang onto their every word. You promise to be their support system and help them any time they feel like doing it again.

[freak-loving-geeks]

imagine your f/o taking your hand and looking at you all soft n shit. and they say, “you’ve been so strong, love. its okay to let that go. you don’t have to be strong on your own anymore.”

[traumasurvivorshelpingsurvivors]

It's okay to dislike being touched. It does not matter if they're your parents, siblings, friends, caretakers, family members, or anyone else. You are allowed to uphold your boundaries.

[jackiesbimbo]

rb to give that one horrifically traumatized f/o some comfort