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deeply unserious

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what’s allowed here

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Michaelvo camping via TikTok

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How do I get more cock on my feed 🤔

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[theobscurist]

model: @chrisjadkins photo by @theobscuristclub on Instagram.

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Yum.

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[ukstudentalpha]

The distinction is crucial.

[daddyexploresdomination]

Last night I was speaking with someone who is still struggling with the aftermath of confusing one thing with the other.

[hungryhungrycumdump-deactivated]

Our minds are our most powerful sexual organs, and BDSM allows people to tap into some of the darker undercurrents for an incredibly powerful release. But it needs to be done carefully and safely, and should never be confused with non-consensual abuse. A Dom makes you stronger through your submission. An abuser just wants to break you down. If you feel fear when you think of your partner you need to reach out for help.

Abuse is never acceptable. Full stop.

[breederofbetas]

It’s also totally OK to say “i don’t know how i felt about that.” after an experience. Not every experience you have will be clearly cut. Don’t be afraid to shout out the safe-word in the moment if you asked for something that seemed hot in abstract but in the moment makes you uncomfortable.

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5 quick takeaways from IML39

1. "It's allowed, appreciated, and celebrated." 2. I've come to find leather people are some of the most honest and authentic folk there are. 3. I want to deepen my impact play experience. More flogging! 4. Pup play is very similar to meditation and has a cathartic effect. More of this in 2017. 5. After an event weekend, headspace sticks with you for a bit. I'm accidentally barking and growling at my coworkers today. More to come.

[maxtem19]

I find the whole Alpha and sub dynamic outside of sexual play kinda obnoxious, condescending and downright douchey. You're evidence of that. I get it, its fun and erotic to live out your sexual fantasies of dominance and submission, and frankly I'm into it too. But, bringing it out into the real world, makes it seem like you genuinely believe that you're innately and irrevocably superior to other men and there's nothing sexy or attractive about that .

It’s hard for me to tell where these messages come from. Many times I imagine its someone who hasn’t read much of what I offer in terms of healthy BDSM dialogue. Perhaps he hasn’t looked at my FAQ, or read the many, many, many times I have denounced the idea that I’m “innately superior”, or that anyone I play with is “inherently inferior”.

Personally, I find D/s play that exists only in the bedroom to be fairly superficial. It is the definition of role play. It’s a mask you put on to feel sexy while you’re getting fucked. I think it’s fine for people that want to “play” with power exchange, but don’t want to commit to it. D/s isn’t for everyone, and if you want to dress up in the bedroom and go back to your normal life in the kitchen, I think that’s just fine. 

It is not the right path for me, however. I prefer that the D/s dynamic exist all the time. I know that– with the subs I interact with– they prefer the enduring dynamic as well. To them, submission is something worn permanently, not a cloak they put on when they are horny. 

I’ll reiterate: I am not innately superior. I don’t think that I am intrinsically better, nor more masculine, nor more deserving, nor better equipped, nor inherently worthy of worship than anyone else. However, I do enjoy the feeling of being worshiped and I seek it out from people willing to provide it.

Another thing to remember is that this blog provides two perspectives of me. The real me– who makes art, performs in musical theater, works a normal job, and lives a normal life– and the hyperbolized version of me – which is probably the source of your disdain. This magnified version is the one that embiggens my “Alpha” persona. That Alpha exists, but only in a very specific context (typically in the bedroom, typically with a submissive). This approach is a totally cromulent way to maintain an online persona. 

I think if you had access to all of the discussions I have on Tumblr about power exchange, dynamic value, and honest relationships, you might rethink your critique. I fear perhaps you’ve only seen the hyperbolized self, and you mistakenly think it’s an accurate reflection of how I view myself, rather than the lens by which I present myself to a wider audience.

Subs: how often is the content you create for Tumblr significantly more charged than what you’ve done in real life?

 Doms: how often does what you post represent a fantasy life?

[ukstudentalpha]

What I post represents a Trajectory, not a Fantasy. I don’t post erotica about me as a feudal King fucking a squire behind the stables, because that’s Fantasy. I write about a beautiful musclefag running me a bath when I get home because that’s a believable future for me (personally… in fact, upon reflection, that has already happened).

I understand why people hate it. When I was 17 I thought people who were seriously into being “owned” or being Masters, outside of the bedroom, were weirdos. But what I do makes me happy, and it makes my submissives happy.

I think I project an honest view of myself, with some parts edited out. I leave out the bits I don’t think people are particularly interested in.

As for innate superiority, I think I’m doing quite well on paper, but I disagree with the idea of a Natural Superior. Superiority as a concept misses the point of success; it’s subjective. A good pen and a good book do different things. A good Master and a good submissive are very different. My fags have a kind of innate superiority; their work ethic, their courage, their submissiveness. I have a different kind of superiority. When we stop treating success as a monolith, we’re happier.

[thegayboybible]

Faggot, Omega, Boy

I started writing this blog off the suggestion of a fellow alpha. In thinking back this was really the birth of the gay boy bible. I wrote this post to help define some terms and i want to reblog it here, because this is a more appropriate home for it. Before we get to the definitions let’s talk about identity.

When it comes to identity, recognize that bdsm has an unbelievable spectrum of people within it and identity is often more complicated than a single title. Maybe all of them are part of you but some are more pronounced than others. You don’t need to adopt any of them, but at least you’ll have the language to talk about different approaches to BDSM.

A faggot, omega, or boy could all identify as a title other than the ones i use to describe them. But that’s a great conversational point. You can in conversation use your preferred title, and use that as a launching board to talk about yourself and your kinky interests. In this way you can have a title that’s unique to you, but still lead someone to get to know you in the first few minutes of conversation.

Dominants, as a final word on the subject before getting into definitions. Recognize that behavior and titles are not linked. Not every submissive you meet is a boy. Not every submissive you meet is a faggot. Take a moment to get to know them a little and ask about their preferred title and use it. One of the number one ways people have accidentally pissed off @bredbeta was to refer to him as a faggot. He is a boy and despises the term faggot.

- Beta/Boy: A Beta’s primary motivation is respect. A beta will often say to himself “is this person worthy of my submission?” He takes a great deal of pride in his submission. He prefers that he feel respected and protected by his Alpha/Dom/Sir. That respect is central to who he is. Betas draw confidence from the one they serve and are often personally bettered by serving one they deem fit to serve. Their submission is strength to them because they feel like a better stronger person by giving up control to someone worthy of it. Beta’s often seek out Alphas who exhibit strengths where they have weaknesses or who embody ideals they wish they had.

Beta: “I submit because i am strong, not because i am weak.”

- Omega: An omega’s motivating factor is to be treated as “below” others. An omega wants to be at the bottom of any established pecking order. He desires to be made to feel that he is rarely (if ever) considered. Whether that consideration be his feelings, his well being, or his needs. His NEED is simply to be used and then ignored. He enjoys being used in absolutely any way he can. Note: it is abuse to completely disregard another person’s needs and well being even when they ask for it. Don’t do that. Be a responsible dominant. Establish limits for yourself. Stay within them.

Omega: “I submit because i am weak and you are stronger/superior.”

- Faggot: A Faggot is motivated by dick (and many times cum). They revel in the sensations of being a slut. At the end of the day a faggot is most happy when he has taken all (or given) the dick and/or jizz that he possibly could. If that goal is accomplished, faggots don’t seem to usually mind putting up with insults or disrespect so long as they are allowed to meet their goal.

Faggot: “I’m a bitch huh? This bitch took 30 dicks today. No one fucks better than me.”

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This description of a Beta's motivation resonates with me.

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Be still, my heart.

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Too hood or not to hood?

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Open call for kinky writing

I greatly enjoy reading the stories and perspectives of others and their journey through kink. Tales of new adventures, admissions of curiosity or uncertainty, open questions and wishlists… these are all really awesome to read. They’re helping inform and inspire my own discovery and I find myself craving more and more of these writings. I only have a few on my list that I’ve found that I particularly enjoy. I'd love to add to it folks who post more than hot pics, but also offer insight into BDSM from their own personal experiences. I'm sure there's a lot of wisdom being shared in the Tumblr'sphere and I'd like to be clued into more of it. @mrkristoferweston @dsstud @boyseekscollar @bragierrnot @temptingdominance What are some others out there that I should be following? Ultimately, I'll be sharing a lot more from my own life as well. My SIR has told me he enjoys my writing and would like to see more of it. These posts and more to come.

[rulesandprotocols]

What are some books that You would recommend slaves to read?

Here is a list of books to consider…

… or you can buy the book ‘Rules and Protocols for the Naked House Boy’ once this tumblr is complete. ;-)

(Note: I have no plans to publish a book, but it has been suggested by House Boys and Tumblr Followers).

All of these books are Approved Reading for House Boys during Old Fashioned Reading Time (See below, Rule #44 and Interpretation #32).

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Master’s Recommended Reading List…

Master/slave Relations: Communications 401 by Robert Rubel

Master/slave Relations: Solutions 402, Living in Harmony by Robert Rubel

Protocols: A Variety of Views by Robert Rubel

Real Service by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera

Living M/s: A Book for Masters, slaves and Their Relationships by Dan and Dawn Williams

Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice by Robert Rubel

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Phillp Miller and Molly Devon

SM101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman

The Control Book by Peter Masters

The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren

The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino

This Curious Human Phenomenon: An Exploration of Some Uncommonly Explored Aspects of BDSM by Peter Masters

Where I Am Led: A Service Exploration Workbook by Christina Parker

BDSM: The Naked Truth by Dr Charley Ferrer

Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers About Master/Slave Relationships by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera

Devil in the Details I: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - The Master, The Slave, The Power by LT Morrison

Devil in the Details II: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Mastery Refine: The Issues, The Skills by LT Morrison

Devil in the Details III: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Sustainable Structure and Traning by LT Morrison

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame, Gloria Brame and Jon Jacobs

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Links to related rules…

Old Fashioned Reading Time – ‘Old Fart’ (Rule #44): http://rulesandprotocols.tumblr.com/post/140868491383/education-culture-old-fashioned-reading-time

Old Fashioned Reading Time In Pool (Interpretation #32): http://rulesandprotocols.tumblr.com/post/151279910373/interpretation-reading-time-in-pool-the-house

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