A sex-postive comic based on our experiences and your questions! We enjoy telling you stories and making how-to comics. Don't know what kind of rope to buy for bondage? Wanna know about the safety of a locking collar? You ask, we'll figure it out and make a comic about what we learned! This is the blog mirror of our main website, TRYITCOMIC.COM. Updates weekends. Please note that these are, of course, *our* opinions and *our* experiences, not those of a licensed professional. Please take all advice at your own risk and mostly enjoy this blog for the sexy fun. Probably NSFW, because even if privates are covered I doubt your boss would want you cruising this shit at work. Want to connect with us more? We're on FETLIFE and TWITTER! We get a LOT of help maintaining this site from my cousin Angelica over at My Milkweed. If you like our comics, I bet you'd like hers too. new TWTR.Widget({ version: 2, type: 'profile', rpp: 4, interval: 30000, width: 'auto', height: 300, theme: { shell: { background: '#333333', color: '#ffffff' }, tweets: { background: '#000000', color: '#ffffff', links: '#4aed05' } }, features: { scrollbar: false, loop: false, live: false, behavior: 'all' } }).render().setUser('tryit_valerie').start();
That’s why I’m raising money on Kickstarter to print the first year’s worth of Oh Joy, Sex Toy comics into a beautiful book to hold and cherish and lick and cuddle.
If you would like in on this sweet action, direct your dollars this’a way!
It’s the FINAL 13 HOURS of the Oh Joy, Sex Toy Kickstarter!
Pre-order your copy of the book and help us increase the rate we pay our guest cartoonists. At this moment, we’re up to 65k, which means $95/page for our guest artists! (With typical guest comics running between 3-5 pages long)
TIYLI may be asleep, but everything you guys ever wanted from me is provided tenfold by sweet, sweet Erika. Plus, she let us do a fun guest comic. We love Oh Joy, Sex Toy and you should back this kickstarter in the final hours before it's too late!
We did a guest strip for Oh Joy, Sex Toy! You can read it directly at their site and see an additional tiny blurb at ours. If you can get our website to load. This is the second time Erika Moen maxed our bandwidth. ;)
Time for.. da na na na... a big slog of Q&A! We get a lot of questions - too many to make them all into comics. Too many to even answer all of them. Y'all are fucking chatty. What we can do is skim the top of the question pool every once in a while and answer a handful that are common questions or follow up on older comics. A reminder too that while I do most of the typing, Adam is a contributor to this too and is available for penis-centric questions.
anonymous asked: “What's your opinion on ageplay?”
I think it can be totally hot. I’ve got a thing for it, actually! There’s nothing wrong with exploring different parts of your psyche in the hands of a partner you trust, and an ageplay dynamic can create a type of security/feeling of providing security that wraps you up like a warm blanket. I’ve seen some people do it for healing reasons (dealing with old parental issues) with mixed results. It’s easy to turn an emotionally unprepared partner into a therapist when you do kink activities for remedial purposes.
anonymous asked: “wait, how the heck do you guys use sterile needles and that folding knife? that seems especially dangerous.”
Sigh, I have a feeling I am going to be answering this FOREVER. Needles have been addressed here. The folding knife is just for yuks. If we were to actually use it to draw blood, the play kit would be totally different (it would need a lot more safety/sterile supplies and a totally different blade). A knife itself is still really really scary, and I really really like being scared and Adam really really likes to scare me. ╮(─▽─)╭
anonymous asked: “can you talk a little more about the pain from the iud ? how bad was it ?”
I was allergic to the painkillers they prescribed me, so I was all, “nahhh! I’m hardcore, it’ll be FIIINE.” I was wrong. If you get one please agree on a type of painkiller with your doctor before insertion - this is a medical procedure, duh. After was great, before was great, but during the procedure my Gynecologist told me, “You’re gonna be great at giving birth! You've already got the screams down!”
needsmorelow asked: “Opinions on zipties as a restraint?”
Hot hot hot and easily dangerous. Remember that once you lock a ziptie, you cannot loosen it - it must be cut off. Have safety shears on hand and keep an eye on the bottom’s circulation.
anonymous asked: “Did you know coconut oil is also good for yeast infections and bad discharge? So it's really great for everything down there.”
Yummy!
anonymous asked: “Is it weird that I get off from being bitten ? It use to scare me but now I love it every time my boyfriend bites me.”
Nope, it’s super sexy and normal. Congratulations! You found something you enjoy!
loverofgoodstories asked: “Have you ever tried having sex through your clothes (i.e. a dress/skirt and an open fly? What was it like?”
Don’t wear black pants. You’ll have a nice white crusty halo around the crotch. Heh heh heh.................
anonymous asked: “Hi, do you have any BDSM-related book recommendations? Love you're blog btw, really informative! :)”
Thanks! <3 I’ll put together a reading list eventually. Right now I’m about to start Sacred Kink by Lee Harrington, who is one of my favorite BDSM educators. His lectures make my heart beat fast. I can’t wait to get my hands on a copy of his latest with Mollena Williams (also suuuch a great educator), Playing Well with Others.
anonymous asked: “Have you ever had to deal with 'orgasm headaches' (Coital cephalalgia)? I've had it several times, all after overexerting myself or 'trying too hard to come'. I hardly ever hear about it from others though, and I was interested to see if you or anyone you knew had experienced it.”
I have not! Though I could see pushing myself hard enough that I got a headache similar to one like working out without eating enough beforehand. A quick google search has some people on Scarletteen with the same problem, and Mayo Clinic has this to say, but I’d talk to your doctor/gyno -- or whatever medical professional you feel comfortable with -- about this.
oh my gahd oh my GAAHHHD look at the lovely coloring job Liz Green did on our strapado picture! Weep! We're so beautiful!
No comics this weekend because I'm out of town, learning a little rope and hanging out with a few of my favorite perverts. To make up for it I'll post up a big Q&A to deal with some asks in our inbox later. Ciao, babes!
Why the needles? This feels like sort of an invasive question, so of course I won't be bothered if you don't answer it, but I just sort of don't have any venn diagram overlap for sex and sterile needles.
**trigger warning for those who do not like anything medical/pokey/sharp/blood related!**
Adam is really into medical play. We have a separate play bag dedicated to just our med toys. This isn't the same as a medical fetish - I'm not dressing up in nurse's uniforms (well, I do sometimes because it's FUN, not because we fetishize it that much) and Adam isn't putting a thermometer up my butt. Those are great, but for us, medical play usually involves blood. Surgical staples, poking needles through a "pinch" of skin to create temporary piercing, sutures, et cetera. Since we only use our toys on each other (well, on me) we feel comfortable mixing play piercing/blood with rope bondage, spanking or whatever else is in store that night.
Y'know what? I don't like the pixel-y little preview graphic for this comic we posted on Friday, so Tumblr, please enjoy the full big booty version. Everyone who wants to know why we have needles - we answered that HERE. Also the knife is not for cutting, just for scare tactics. ;D
um, i'd like to apologize. i'm the anon who decided to add in his own two cents about the 'who needs safewords/ssc guidelines' guy who liked barbed wire whippings and jugular piercing, and i'm very, very sorry if i was jumping down your throat for not immediately decrying him. i'm sorry for being a jerk to you, and i hope i didn't leave too bad of an impression.
Oh anon, I am personally wounded. Because we know each other so well. I have fond memories, growing up with anon, we never used to fight…
Everyone - I don’t answer every question in our inbox, because we have a LOT of them. I also don’t want this blog to turn into a forum, because there are tons of other places online to do that! It's not that I don't want to foster discussion, but entering every person's thought/ask/response as a blog post will make TIYLI's tumblr clogged. I may publicly post an ask/response or two re: questions that have been asked if I feel it contributes to the topic, but we usually answer them privately when we have time. If you want to start a dialogue about one of our comics you are more than welcome to do so in the comments section on our main website which is set up better than tumblr's comment section anyway. If you submit a tumblr ask anonymously I obviously cannot respond to you. There ya go.
You see a beautiful woman at the bar, drinking alone. She has waist-length jet black hair, a small fitted dress and a tight body to match. You approach and offer to buy her a drink. She turns to you, gives a wide smile, and... oh, it's your mom. She looks just like your mom.
I know that this question is more subjective q and you don't usually answer those but: You seem to both have a very healthy sexual appetite. I know it's normal to sometimes not be in the mood for sex and it could have nothing to do with the status of your relationship but I feel like i have frequent & and somewhat long periods where I don't want anything to do with it (but i do have times where I'm a fiend). Do you ever experience this? Just curious if maybe i'm just built differently.
Sure! We're regular folks who get stressed, tired, sick, etc. Remember when I had bronchitis and didn't make any comics or tweet about any sexy things for a few months? Yeah.
If someone is having trouble remembering a safe word I would suggest making the safe word "stop." In fact there is a line of thought in the BDSM community that safe words should generally be avoided in favor of clear language.
Yeah, it really just comes down to making sure you communicate. The no-safeword train tends to favor Plain Old English and some people like the "red/yellow/green" color system to indicate tolerance. My best friend's safe word used to be "waffle," I think, because who the fuck is going to say that in the middle of a scene? We use a lot of POE but whenever I call "safe word!" Adam knows it's time to check in. This is helpful cos I yell "nooOOOooooOOO STOP STOP" a lot in the heat of the moment, haha.
You said you like "deep, thuddy, punchy pains". That sounds about like what I'm interested in! Other than like, fists, what kinds of things give that sort of feeling?
socks with tennis balls, deep mean massages, the sensation after needle play, thick rubber rods, the digging boot of a heel, dildos, elbows, wrestling, nerf bats
