[espruen]

[milkandheavysugar]

R&B singers Cherrelle and Alexander O'Neal pose for a portrait in circa 1985 in Los Angeles, California

[000inreality000]

[unfortunatesun]

[moderndaywarriorsawyer]

The Money Tubbs only comes around every 5628 seconds. Reblog the Money Tubbs and you’ll find money!

[modelinterrupted]

Bitttchhh the last time I reblogged some bullshit like this I booked a 2k 30minute shoot lmao

[goldpersonified]

I received 2k 2 days after reblogging this 

[secreteofvenus]

[unfortunatesun]

[moderndaywarriorsawyer]

The Money Tubbs only comes around every 5628 seconds. Reblog the Money Tubbs and you’ll find money!

[modelinterrupted]

Bitttchhh the last time I reblogged some bullshit like this I booked a 2k 30minute shoot lmao

[goldpersonified]

I received 2k 2 days after reblogging this 

[weepingwidar]

Luis Xertu (Mexican, 1985) - Tree with Cats (2024)

[1ovemoney]

[achillesinhighheels]

[funstealer]

Parts of Four / Fangophilia / Yohan Serfaty / Vivienne Westwood Jewelry styling by Wisdom Kaye

[achillesinhighheels]

[achillesinhighheels]

Jessica White

[achillesinhighheels]

Beyoncé photographed for InStyle, 2003

[kill4yu]

girls night out vibes. (creds to owner)

[kill4yu]

my tumblr is me manifesting what i want in life.

[2utora]

[pseudomantis]

I miss being 9 years old and watching alien sighting videos on YouTube and getting so scared I felt sick

[lovely-v]

It’s crazy and fucked up that being yourself is actually the solution.

[lovely-v]

It’s like. When I was told to “just be yourself” as a kid I thought it was a passive thing. Like oh easy I just have to sit here and be myself. but the reason so many people think that “being yourself” is bullshit advice is because you actually have to make active choices to do this and it WILL make your life way more fun. You have to wear t-shirts of bands that were popular ten years ago because you like them. You have to do your hair in a way that you find cute or comfortable even if it’s “so nineties”. If your friend says a food you enjoy is gross to them, you can’t be afraid to admit you casually disagree. You have to do hobbies that you’re interested in even if you’re bad at them and you cant feel like you have to get good at something before you tell people it’s an activity you do. You have to read manga and comic books in public and get piercings your relatives think are unattractive. You don’t have to tell people you dislike that you dislike them, but you don’t have to give them your time and attention either. You have to rewatch that kids show you’re nostalgic for even if you’re in your 30s. You have to change your name if you hate it, even if only a few close friends can know. You have to get fun girly drinks at the bar. You have to order hot chocolate when you don’t like coffee and black coffee when you don’t like sweet things. I am still bad at practicing this but it is the only way to make it all tolerable.

[shayminlucario07]

And! And!

You have to figure out what these things are if you do not know them, which means making uncomfortable decisions that may not even have any ultimate benefit! Because that is the path to self-discovery!

[ihaveasolutionbutyouwontlikeit]

In the end, it's all about practicing making personal choices from a young age, and being given the safety, space and resources to practice making them, without interference. Which in turn creates a more solid self worth and self confidence foundation, able to make an individual feel okay within themselves and therefore within the world they inhabit, also leading to better informed choices.

Neurodiverse and Trauma informed practice understands this. People who are lost as adults were funnelled through rigidity and not having the safety, space and/or resources during their formative years to practice making choices for themselves outside of survival and submitting to the contextual status quo behavioural requirements.

[alexseanchai]

this is another place where the "treat yourself like you'd treat a little kid in your care" advice comes into play, isn't it

[elljayvee]

this reminds me i need to go shave my undercut

[embervoices]

If your friend says a food you enjoy is gross to them, you can’t be afraid to admit you casually disagree.

So, this one in particular, my go-to lines are as such:

I like, you don't?

"I promise to save you from all the unexploded bananas!"

You like, I don't?

"You can have all my avocados!"

It's amazing how quickly differences in food tastes go when it becomes a mutual service instead of a source of disgust!

This can apply to other media, but it's most obvious with food. "Don't like Muppets? Cool. If anybody ever gives you Muppet stuff, now you know who to pass it along to! Meanwhile, I will avoid subjecting you to Muppet stuff."

Unless somebody has an environmental allergy, where the need is for them to never, ever be exposed, simply having a difference of taste should not itself be an obstacle to friendship.