LOVE IS A LUST : tuweeWeeWEEE! says.. (12/05/2014)
LOVE IS A LUST. quite illogical isn't it? describing a word from its, maybe the farthest opposite word? but no, they’re kinda related with each other naman.
UNDERSTANDING LOVE AND LUST IN A SIMPLE DEFINITION. Love, from the Old English word "lufu", has many definitions. its root word means "affection and friendliness." merriam-webster.com defined it as "a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person in a romantic way." in dictionary.com, it is "a feeling of warm personal attachment, a profoundly tender, passionate and deep affection for another person, in or maybe an intensely amorous incident." Wikipedia, with its different and anonymous editors, (just kidding. quite accurate naman. ) stated love as "a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection to pleasure.”
or if you want to know the best definition of love, just read it from the Bible:
"1 Corinthians 13:4-8. 4 Love is patient, Love is kind. it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 it is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. but where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away."
but when it comes to intense sexual passion or desire, sexual intercourse, copulation, na medyo nilagay din nila sa definition of love, medyo iba na yan.
Lust, an Old English word, means and which I paraphrased from those three web references I had used (Wikipedia, dictionary.com, merriam-webster.com), is an intense emotion, feeling of uncontrolled, illicit craving, appetite, or a sexual desire from a physical force of a person or maybe for something.
diffen.com differentiate those two words from different perspectives. here's the link:
http://www.diffen.com/difference/Love_vs_Lust
LOVE VS LUST, SUMMARIZING THE COMPARISON. Lust only comprises of those "temporary feelings" of strong sexual desires, short term pleasure and happiness, passion, or maybe addiction to physical body (not always sexually but of appearances also), etc which can only stay for a very, very short minute of time, and could dissipate at the end (for me this is 80%) that can lead to frustrations. example of this is when it comes to sex na sobrang big issue sa society natin, of course because of virginity. so walang commitment dito, o kung meron man, it's just to fulfill your ‘self-desire’. "nagpapasarap lang" ika nga. "nagpapalipas" lang.
Love, on the bigger take, at sinasabi ko nga lagi na "package" dahil andito na dapat lahat ng mga positibong bagay, consists of much bigger, better, deeper and "permanent feelings" of faithfulness, honestly, loyalty, understanding, confidence with each other, being open, security, selflessness, contentment, and of course commitment. with this things, you can surely find and understand the true meaning of happiness with each other, which could deepen along with your feelings in the passage of time.
ON THE OTHER SIDE, we only talk of Love itself and Lust itself dito. that's the reason why we had defined and compared it with each other a while ago. the point is, we can know better whether we are in a relationship of Love itself or Lust itself only. so kung Love lang, approve! totoo yan. pang-matagalan yan. pero kung Lust yan, mag-isip isip ka na, dahil ppwede kang matake for granted ng buhay sa "temporary" feelings na yan. it is just only of a night of happiness.
pero kung pagsasamahin sila, Love and Lust together in a relationship, masaya. nagmamahalan na nga kayo, nag-aanu pa! 3:))))))
HERE IS MY TAKE. according to the articles that i have read, Love and Lust can work with each other naman. they say that if you start the relationship with Lust, it could dissipate, or on the other hand, it can evolve into Love, but still a Lust until that time. medyo mahirap ano po. XD parang it's irreversible.
so it is preferrable to put up Love first before Lust? still no. coz in that situation, there could be instances that love would dissipate and lust would conquer the relationship. And as for that issue, for me, the percentage is higher of risk. so, ano ba talaga? :D
kesyo ‘Love - Love and Lust’ pa yan or ‘Lust - Love and Lust’, it still depends on you both. when you learn to love each other naman in the end despite of lusting each other first, it will last. some sort of developments na rin sa nararamdaman sa isat isa. the same thing with love first and lust comes. what important is hindi mawala yung love with each other.
CONCLUSION. so, still, Love conquers. Love is love, which is better than a Lust. Love, a word taught to us by our Almighty as one of the righteousness. Love, a group of four letters, that doesn’t know the art of judgment. Love, when you are with someone and you can’t notice the time that passes by. Love, when you learn to accept someone, his/her whole character as a person, his/her flaws and perfections, his/her strengths and weaknesses. Love, that doesn’t look at a person’s physical assets, but rather see his /her heart. Love that enjoys Lust, but doesn’t let it conquer itself. Love that stays forever, until the end of time, Love that is true, Love that is unconditional, Love that is Love, Love that keeps of no records of wrong.
References:
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/love
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/love
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/lust
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/lust
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lust
http://www.diffen.com/difference/Love_vs_Lust
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/emotional-freedom/201108/lust-vs-love-do-you-know-the-difference
http://www.wikihow.com/Know-the-Difference-Between-Love,-Infatuation-and-Lust
http://www.bustle.com/articles/7857-8-signs-youre-in-lust-and-not-in-love