Reflections on Mentorship
MJ Alharbi, PhD Candidate in LLSS and Dissertation Coach at the Graduate Resource Center
An important part of the mission of GRC is to improve the quality of graduate students’ academic experience. We understand that faculty mentors can play a critical role in the success of these students. To gain insight into the varied mentorship practices and expectations of faculty and students, we have asked professors and graduate students from different disciplines at UNM to reflect on their mentoring experiences by answering the following questions:
What was one effective mentoring experience you have been through? What made it so?
What was one less effective mentoring experience you have been through? What made it so?
What should graduate students expect from their advisors and vice versa?
Amalia Parra: PhD Candidate, Winrock Doctoral Fellow
What was one effective mentoring experience you have been through? What made it so?
Throughout my undergraduate tenure I worked in a research laboratory. Like starting a new job, I became familiar with the research in the lab and the history and current status of the field. Learning laboratory techniques was the easy part. At the time I didn’t realize that being part of a research group was more than bench work. Prior to this, my only lab experience was from course laboratories (chemistry, physics, biology etc.). Luckily, my advisor was willing to help me become the leader, mentor, and scientist I aspired to be. As such, I mastered the bench work but also learned how to think critically about the work and gained many transferable skills along the way. This took determination and dedication but it was also my advisor’s way of treating me like the person I aspired to be that made this mentoring experience very rewarding. My experience as a graduate student has been just as gratifying.
What was one less effective mentoring experience you have been through? What made it so?
There are lessons to be learned from almost any mentoring experience. Less effective mentoring experiences have been those in which I was viewed as an assistant rather than a protégé. Mentorship happened only during review periods and little to no advice regarding reaching career goals was provided.
What should graduate students expect from their advisors and vice versa?
If and when you get those three coveted letters at the end of your name is completely up to you. However, you can expect that your advisor will help you—but it is ultimately up to you. One important thing is that graduate students should establish good communication with their advisor—early on! Advisors provide mentorship and support throughout the graduate career but it is the responsibility of the student to attain the degree. That is, the student should be fully aware of program requirements and deadlines and be prepared to research their own PhD. Meet with your advisor frequently to present research findings and to interpret findings as well as determine the next steps. Have a well-thought out plan for the next steps and what you will do if something doesn’t work. These meetings should be a discussion rather than your advisor telling you what to do and you going off to do it. Remember, advisors have already been there, done that, so you should take responsibility.
Students should expect that their advisor meet with them to get feedback on work and discuss new ideas. The advisor should also be prepared to help the student formulate research questions and evaluate the progress of the work. For the most part, the advisor should be providing help while the student is the one doing the work.
Leila (pseudonym): PhD Candidate
What was one effective mentoring experience you have been through? What made it so?
To be honest, I don’t see mentoring as coming from a single person. I’d have to say that instead, my effective mentoring actually comes from having a whole network of people. This includes different people in academia or even people outside of it. But regarding just my network within academia, I’ve benefited from having a diverse base of mentors. That is, I like talking to people beyond my field of study, including faculty and other students as well. I like learning about different perspectives. Actually, I’d say that my best mentoring experiences have come from outside my own department. Maybe the fact that it felt like they were doing it from a sincere desire to help (vs. your advisor who supposedly gets paid to be your mentor) made the relationship more real and inspiring. To have faculty in other departments who are willing to take time from their busy schedule to listen to you and guide you is just uplifting. Another important aspect for me in mentoring is to meet people as people. By that I mean to stop labeling people as “students” or “professors” and remember that we are more than that. My best mentors probably don’t even think of themselves as mentors! They were compassionate human beings looking after me. In other words, successful mentoring to me is not (only) about explaining some methodology or theory or technicality, but having a beyond academics connection with someone else. To me, mentoring includes empathy.
What was one less effective mentoring experience you have been through? What made it so?
My less effective mentoring experience in academia has been opposed to what I explained earlier: when someone does not see you as a person but as a producer of knowledge. When your mentor only sees you as a researcher who needs to meet the highest standard in order to gain a title (e.g., PhD) but forgets about the rest of you, that really discourages me. This especially wears me down when it is supposed to be an extended mentoring relationship but it feels like it never grows. For me, to know “everything” in a field is not as important as other experiences. Knowledge and skills themselves do not make someone a great mentor. My worst mentoring experience has been when I am just asked to know and do things in the “right” way. Coming from a less privileged background compared to many Americans, I see that a lack of critical thinking also impacts mentoring. Some mentors didn’t care that I grew up without a dad, just with a mom who couldn’t finish middle school; they didn’t care that I am not a native speaker of English; they didn’t care about me having a son; they didn’t care that I’m a person of color; they didn’t care that I grew up in different culture. These mentors only cared about my skills (specifically, academic writing). They could not see all the lack of privileges that have ultimately impacted who I am or the assets I bring. I don’t know how to swim, I don’t know how to play an instrument (even though I wanted to learn piano as a child, but didn’t have the chance), I didn’t know about the library until middle school. All these little things that some take for granted and think that everyone else has experienced make me who I am. But to be honest these mentors actually didn’t even care about who I am today. They could only see how I write my papers. They didn’t value me for anything else. The feeling of being valued based on a paper is devastating. You question yourself, whether you’re in the right place or doing the right thing. It makes you wonder if academia is reserved only to some closed privileged group of people.
What should graduate students expect from their advisors and vice versa?
After many years of graduate school, I believe that students should not have high expectations of advisors (at least in order to avoid disappointment and heartache). I would not see advisors as mentors, necessarily. Sometimes advisors just act as the gatekeepers of the academic world. So, expect them at least to read your work and to give you feedback. If you’re lucky, maybe they can mentor you as well.
On the other hand, I wish advisors knew their students better. They should expect diversity in their students. They shouldn’t measure them the same way. They shouldn’t expect them to learn the same way. They shouldn’t assume they all have the same interests (even when they are in the same subfield).
Dr. Cristyn L. Elder, Assistant professor of English
What was one effective mentoring experience you have been through? What made it so?
One of the most life-/career-changing experiences I've had with a mentor was actually under the tutelage of two of my professors at Purdue University, Dr. Irwin "Bud" Weiser and Dr. Shirley Rose. They both specialize in WPA (writing program administration) and are a key element as to why I chose Purdue's doctoral program in Rhetoric and Composition. (Note: Dr. Rose is now at Arizona State University.)
Bud and Shirley were my introduction to the field of WPA and reinforced for me through their courses that WPA work is what I wanted to do. However, one event in particular was quite meaningful. I, and 5 of my peers, were taking a WPA seminar course with Shirley. For the final assignment, we as a class completed a group project. We all chose to create the WPA Board Game. Upon Shirley's urging, we then submitted that game to the CWPA (Council of Writing Program Administrators) Graduate Research Awards Committee, winning first prize. (I wouldn't have even known about the prize or the organization had Shirley not introduced me to it.) Along with the prize, we were asked to present our work at the CWPA annual conference, which was my first time attending. That conference presentation then turned into a publication for the group of us, "Praxis and Allies: The WPA Board Game" for the journal WPA: Writing Program Administration, my first scholarly publication.
Since the time of my first CWPA conference, I have gone on to co-found WPA-GO, the CWPA graduate student organization; I am currently serving as an elected member of the CWPA Executive Board; I am also currently chairing the CWPA Graduate Research Awards Committee; and I have gone on to continue publishing in the field of WPA. So the seminar course I took with Shirley and the mentoring I received from both Shirley and Bud have had a lasting impact on my academic career, across my research, teaching, and service.
In case they are of interest to readers, I've included a few links here related to my response above:
Council of Writing Program Administrators: http://wpacouncil.org
WPA-GO (CWPA graduate student organization): http://wpacouncil.org/wpa-go
The WPA Board Game: http://wpacouncil.org/praxis-allies-wpa-game
"Praxis and Allies: The WPA Board Game": http://wpacouncil.org/archives/32n3/32n3sura.pdf
Dr. Holbrook Mahn, Professor of Language, Literacy and Sociocultural Studies
What was one effective mentoring experience you have been through? What made it so?
Rather than focus on one experience, I prefer to discuss, in general, what I feel makes a mentoring session effective. I think that the best mentoring sessions are those in which there is co-thinking between mentor and mentee, because to achieve it both parties have to listen carefully to what the other is saying. Instead of a one-way monologue from mentor to mentee, co-thinking promotes the kind of dialogic exchange in which new knowledge/understanding is created. This, in turn, can empower graduate students as they see that they are part of a partnership in pursuing their studies and that there is a compassionate listener who values their input.
What was one less effective mentoring experience you have been through? What made it so?
Again, in general, less effective mentoring experiences have been those in which co-thinking is not present, because either the mentor is not listening or the mentee’s role is perceived only as a listener. I have found that in those instances the grad student will seem to be listening diligently, with the appropriate head nodding, but in a follow-up session it is clear that not much was assimilated from the session, the fault of which falls to both parties.
What should graduate students expect from their advisors and vice versa?
Graduate students, first and foremost, should expect respect from their advisors, manifest in their ability to listen with empathy and openness. Advisors should respect their advisees and not use the authority flowing from their position to impose their ideas on students, which can devolve into bullying if the student resists these ideas. A scenario less likely to occur if genuine co-thinking is present.
As the reflections from faculty and students show, each person has different expectations for how mentoring occurs. Although the perspectives are different, there are some key takeaways:
Mentoring is the kind of practice that shifts and adapts to the mentor and mentee
Effective mentoring relationships are purpose-driven
Good mentoring relationships are co-created and develop through thoughtful reciprocity
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