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|20+| they/he|♠️| i'm just here to reblog stuff about my hyperfixations|

[wrotten]

do u know what pisses me off? a lot of things where do i start

[ravioliet]

"why can't they just be friends?" not in the homophobic sense, but in the "in your need to center romance in everything you are missing the whole point of the media in question" sense

[fruitpunchfrog]

Happy pride month everyone get more aromantic and asexual now

[kitschyfemme]

if i can say something i think it's also bad to immediately absolve a female character of her wrongdoings just because she is a woman

[kitschyfemme]

if i can be so for real this is still doing "refusing to acknowledge her nuance because she's a girl"

[simena]

Anastasia Yarygina

[vetchtibbles]

I wish they made it even marginally possible to get a job like I’m so fucking sorry I don’t have a rare but also highly demanded skillset, an agreeable disposition, and the ability to survive off of three nickels a week I’m soooo sorry

[fairycosmos]

i feel like ive missed out on so much in life. i wish i had been born different. there’s so much grief in this feeling

[bumblebeebats]

The crazy thing is, ninety-nine times out of a hundred, if you asked me on any given day "Would like to see a picture of some genitals?" my answer would be "😰 No, that's... No, thank you. I'm okay, actually." I have nothing but the utmost respect for people who do engage with the penis side of the internet, but personally, I've spent the better part of two decades doing all I can NOT to have pictures of dick and balls or sexy bikini babe buttcheeks blasted onto my retinas constantly. And yet... to be denied the penis? To have a jumped up pile of javascript tell me, a grown adult with an air fryer and an outstanding council tax bill, that I cannot be trusted to withstand the sight of a bare nipple unless I let it scan my drivers' license? I will move heaven and earth to see that fucking nipple, friend. I will walk a thousand miles barefoot on hot coals before I give you big brother bitches my passport number. A thousand miles through the desert with five VPNs just to press my face up against the glass and see the last uncensored picture of two My Little Pony Characters sixty-nining each other, and I don't even want! to look at it! But I will! I must! for the sake of our fucking democracy!

[aroaceenjolras]

the thing is that censorship actively makes it harder for people who don't like porn to avoid it. an uncensored internet will give people freedom to clearly state "there's porn here, don't look if you're not about that" without facing consequences for it and a sex repulsed bitch like me can just say okay and move on with their fucking life.

censorship forces the porn side of the internet to adapt and it's often in ways that make them more visible, not less. like people now refusing to use any of the inbuilt content filtering features on this site including basic tagging functionality because those things are now used to mark people as targets for censorship. so now there's just dicks waggling out in the open and no way to avoid them besides just depriving oneself of online community completely

bring back the uncensored internet and bring back community tagging. the right to post porn and the right to avoid it are the same right

[allosexistnonsense]

accepting aros and aces in the queer community must also mean accepting that the attraction we might feel is different from the allo mainstream, that if we have other orientations like lesbian, pan, het, bi etc., they might be defined by attraction types other than romantic or sexual, or may not specify attraction type at all, that were accepted into bi+/gay communities even if our attraction doesn't follow the allo norm.

accepting aces is more than accepting we feel little to no sexual attraction and "well, they wanna date x gender so they're fine". accepting aros is more than accepting we feel little to no romantic attraction and "well, they wanna fuck x gender, so they're fine".

accepting aros and aces also means accepting us into bi+ and gay communities if we identify as such, even if our attraction isn't about dating or fucking, even if our attraction isn't action-driven, even if our attraction is vague, hypothetical or hard to define, even if sexual and romantic attraction aren't present at all.

aro/ace inclusion is more than just welcoming us into the general queer community, it's also welcoming us into orientation subcommunities we might be part of.

ultimately truly accepting us into the queer community means dismantling allonormativity.

[tuesday-is-a-good-day]

“there’s no platonic explanation for this”

Well there is actually, they’re friends. They’re friends and they love each other and it doesn’t mean any less than if they were dating and they loved each other. They’re friends and that means devotion and affection and loyalty and love, and there is no point in which that love reaches a level that immediately indicates that their relationship must be romantic.

[nonbinary-wrath-month]

The reason why so many of y'all's feminism sucks is because you still believe deep down in your hearts that there are only two kinds of people in the world: precious, ethereal, fragile dollthings called "women", and violent, lustful, rage-fueled apes called "men". Until you throw that idea away, 3rd-grade-tier "girls rule boys drool, girls are princesses and boys are stinky :(" is as feminist as we'll ever get-- and I hope it's obvious that that's lightyears away from the bare minimum of where we need to be.

[nonbinary-wrath-month]

I don't know how I'm supposed to explain to ostensibly trans-friendly feminists that "women are beautiful soft things made of glass, men are obsessed with violence and sex" is exactly what the patriarchy wants you to believe. Patriarchy wants you to believe that being a woman and/or having a vagina (patriarchy generally believes those two things are synonymous) makes one shatter on impact with reality. It makes you easier to control if you are scared shitless of the other half of the population, and it makes you more compliant with your lot in life if you believe it is in the nature of the other half of the population to rape and kill rather than realise those were choices those individual rapists and murderers made. There is no way to make gender essentialism progressive and feminist, because it is one of patriarchy's tools of subjugation. Stop trying to make it progressive.

And I can scream all of that from the rooftops over and over again, and what I hear in reply is "Trans men really are men because no woman would ever decide to become an inherently evil repugnant rapist ape", and "You're so right. Trans women are women because they too are pretty delicate little objects I can fuck", and "You're non-binary? So are you fucktoy non-binary or sexpest non-binary?", and my patience runs ever thinner.

[gratefulturbot]

i DON'T need them to kiss i need them to come to the sobering realisation that their souls are merged and no part of them is extricable from the other anymore

[traumasurvivors]

It can be an uncomfortable topic for people so it isn’t talked about as much, but it should be talked about more because a lot of people feel shame for being hypersexual or sex-repulsed because of trauma.

It is completely okay and valid if your trauma made you hypersexual, even if your trauma was not sexual trauma.

It is completely okay and valid if you are sex-repulsed as a result of your trauma, whether your trauma was sexual or not.

And it is completely okay if you are both and/or you fluctuate.

[casual-haterism]

my body needs to become sexless as of this instant

[lil-gingerbread-queen]

Kind of tired of how other queer and asexual folks keep pushing compulsive sexuality, and moralizing having sex or sexual thoughts.

Like, I'm tired of the "better be a pervert than a prude", the "we all are a little freaky", the "asexuals write the best smut", the "we don't want prudes to be writing hcs"... Like, we have to participate in sexual topics and behaviors to be normal, or we are prudes (can y'all stop judging and insulting people based on their personal experience with sex? Y'all learn that "virgin" was a bad insult and turn to use "prude" instead but you are still doing the same bs)

The fucking "Well, if people call you a puritan, maybe it's because you sound like one" posts being frequently posted in the asexual and sex-repulsed tags, because asexuals need to watch how they talk and complain about sex being forced unto them again, and again, and again, or they will be linked to purity culture (even tho purity culture STILL WANTS PEOPLE TO HAVE SEX, BUT ONLY AFTER MARRIAGE AND IN A HETERO RELATIONSHIP. PURITY CULTURE IS NOT SEXLESS), while queer folks continue again and again to paint it as morally superior to be a pervert (it's morally neutral. You being horny 24/7 doesn't make you morally superior to anyone).

Y'all love to reblog posts that say the basic "asexuals are valids!" but also reblog and post a ton of posts saying that being a "prude" is bad, not being a pervert is bad, every human is a pervert deep inside and people that denies it are bad, not being into kinky sex is bad, not being comfortable with some kinks is bad, not wanting to participate in some sexual acts is bad... So no, I do not feel valid and I do not feel supported, I feel exactly the same as before I discovered asexuality: broken and inhuman.

[saltypuffins]

"i know so many aces who make the best erotic art!!!!!! 😊"

good for them! i'm glad they can express themselves with that kind of art. but do you also support aces who are repulsed by sex? do you support aces who skip past sex scenes because it squicks them out? do you support aces who will express that they dislike certain types of content that you enjoy? do you call repulsed aces "puritans" for simply having a preference?

or do you only support aces who do things that you value? 🤔

and if you are ace yourself.... do you only support aces who are like you? or do you support the entire spectrum?

[convolutedblasphemy]

The best way I can describe to an allo person how you feel about sex as a topic as a sex-repulsed or averse asexual is that it feels like a hype that never ends. As though Despicable Me came out and everyone around you was sending minion facebook memes to each other for years to come. The stores are full of minion themed products; they're in ads and your friends talk about them all the time. And deep in your heart you're like "I'm glad that they're able to enjoy something I personally don't like and am not interested in :3". But there is always this little voice in the back of your head that's like "If I have to see ONE MORE of these little yellow FUCKERS today then God help us all." You make an active choice to communicate only the former.