Adam Driverâs AppealâŠExplained!
Chances are if youâre reading this, youâre probably a Reylo or at least a rat* and you already find Adam Driver attractive.
But with another Adam Driver Season upon us with not one or two but three movies coming between now and Turkey Day as well as the ad campaign for Burberryâs Hero, again will arise the questionâŠwhy do those people find him hot? You know the drill. âHeâs not good looking.â âHe always plays problematic characters.â âHeâs weird.â
Well, keep this little essay handy to answer the naysayers and the befuddled. These things are always subjective and not everybody appeals to everyone. Weâre all particular creatures. In fact, I did not find Adam hot until his Kylo Ren years and it took until the second film for me to admit it. But thereâs an explanation though for why we just canât resist fantasies of rubbing that fake tummy he has on the set of his new movie or why the internet exploded with those HOT new pics from his fragrance ad.
Marlon Brando had it. Mick Jagger has it. And Adam has it in SPADES. Itâs one of those things you canât manufacture. You either have it or you donât (though it can take time to become comfortable with it). The best way to articulate it is that such a man exudes a bit of danger, a bit of mystery, a bit of vulnerability but can take control whenever you need him or want him to, a whole lot of confidence, and passion. He can break down your guard, cross your boundaries, and get you to do all kinds of things you never would ordinarily. And such men have the ladies in the palm of their hands. In Adamâs case, his big meaty hands. Yet he only has eyes for the missus, at least as far as we know, and a proud dad which paradoxically makes him even more attractive. A sexy man who can have anyone but commits? Yes, please.
It doesnât have anything at all to do with looks. You donât have to be an Adonis. But as long as weâre on the subjectâŠ
2. Heâs actually quite handsome
You know what they sayâŠheâs âweird looking.â But is he? Granted, he seems to have grown into his looks from his mid-20s to the present and as my mom says, money makes you beautiful. Still, he has expressive eyes, kissable full lips, a gorgeous head of hair the envy of men and women alike, an interesting profile, and a great body.
3. Yet his attractiveness is accessible
Look at your typical Hollywood hunk and unless youâre a model or actress, you think, âIâd have no chance with that guy.â But Adam looks and behaves like somebody youâd know, just with a little more polish. Someone who lived your street, went to your school or church, worked with you at your first job. We get a kick out of his goofy pre-fame photos or seeing him wear the same stuff over and over because those things make him relatable. His many freckles and moles show that you donât have to have a plain porcelain skin to be attractive. Other actors might have pinned back their ears or capped their teeth to fit a Hollywood mold of perfection. But not our guy. The ears are cute and we love his toothy smile. The âelitesâ might dig him but he is a sex symbol for the people.
Heâs odd, goofy, and socially awkward but can command a stage or a set like nobodyâs business. He can be just as convincing in comedy as in drama or tragedy. He tells dad jokes and geeks out over medieval art one day, blows cigarette smoke at a camera on live t.v. like a bad boy rock star on another. He can be at home in Star Wars or just as at home singing from an actressâs hoo-hah. Heâs arty and still proud of his service as a Marine. His star grows brighter yet he remains fiercely private, not even having a social media account. Heâll turn into a centaur in a fragrance ad and swim with gators just for a photo shoot. He will also play baseball with little Baby Driver.
He will eat all of the cereal in your home and once feasted upon an entire rotisserie chicken every day for lunch.
His brand is that he has no brand. You canât really figure him out.
5. Heâs great at what he does
Everyone loves talent, skill, determination, and drive. You donât have to like everything heâs in but youâd have to be a dedicated anti to think heâs not one of the best working today and Kylo Ren/Ben Solo wouldnât be as beloved without him. His work ethic and professionalism are undeniable. He sucks at skiing by his own admission but he took it upon himself to learn enough to be able to shoot scenes for House of Gucci without having to use a double. He got a bus license and drove routes for Paterson. He even learned how to bang out morse code for his small role in Lincoln though it was unnecessary. Even for this Burberry ad, he swam like an Olympic champion. He brings his A game every time and delivers ever time and doesnât rest until itâs right. Which leads to my next pointâŠ
6. He plays vulnerable characters who are still recognizably masculine
Someone on a FB group posted a remark her boyfriend made while watching Marriage Story or something about why women like Adam, and that was he plays emotionally available men. Itâs clear he does not like playing two dimensional characters. He always looks for whatâs human about them and regardless of how good, bad, or powerful they are, he exposes their soft underbelly. As one critic put it, he understands the difference between vulnerable and weak. I think this is a big part of why Kylo/Ben became so popular. Old Hollywood might have had a lot of âstrong silentâ types but if you pay close attention, the movies were really about punching through that mystique in a way that was acceptable to audiences at the time. Now audiences are a lot more open to âsensitiveâ guys but it has also kind of swung to characterizing men as wimpy, immature, incompetent, or too much in touch with their âfeminineâ side. Adamâs characters though still behave like men. Â Whether heâs playing a hero, an antihero, a sweet husband, or a total jerk, I never get the impression I have more testosterone than he does.
For all of his famed intensity, he can be very disarming with his sense of humor. Itâs dry without being so dry you donât get heâs being facetious and definitely without being mean. Â He can definitely laugh at himself and thatâs always attractive.
His sex scenes donât hurt either. Â Tumblr wonât let me post them. Â Sorry.
*= Twitter nickname for Adamâs stans/fans/devotees. It either came from âr*tloâ or his Law And Order episode where he flips out over the improper feeding of lab rats, maybe both. Comparable to Lady Gagaâs Little Monsters, Swifties, Rhiannaâs navy, or whatever.
