astoldbydre

[vndrea-xo]

I’ve actually been wearing my natural hair out and it feels so freeing. I can’t describe the feeling but it’s very calming. I’m falling in love with it and actually putting in the effort to take care of it.

[fightingthosedemons-deactivated]

[sunsetquotes]

“I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.”

— Oscar Wilde

[vndrea-xo]

Gaining wisdom is such an experience. Very bitter sweet.

[vndrea-xo]

It is seeming like it’s in my best interest to stay single. I’m helping to nurse someone through a heartbreak who initially was trying to court me. Yeah this is a very bizarre situation. There’s a lesson to be learned. My main objective is to keep it light and not try to be a savior. I’ll be kind but keep my guard + boundaries in tact.

Update: I was right.

[vndrea-xo]

Once you make a standard/ boundary for yourself, stick to it.

[vndrea-xo]

The only things keeping me sane right now are anime, my ship date, and the absence from social media platforms.

[vndrea-xo]

Is it self sabotage or is it intuition?

[vndrea-xo]

I feel like my inner child comes out at the most random times. I never thought being silent was a manipulative thing. Usually, due to trauma, I was not allowed to express my emotions. So anytime I’m angry or sad mostly I just go mute. Especially during disagreements or arguments. It’s my way of holding myself back from saying or doing anything irrational. It was usually the only power I had.

As an adult this isn’t effective... at least most times. Once I’m there, the next move is isolation. This will be a hard habit to break.

[vndrea-xo]

Every few months I’m writing about how I should’ve trusted my intuition. This week would qualify as one.

[yearningheart]

might fuck around and stop obsessively yearning for romantic love and direct all that energy and passion into creating and doing things that are meaningful and worthwhile

[prettyvixenavenue]

[vndrea-xo]

Stop putting everyone first and watch how free you become.

[svinto]

the older I get, the more attractive stability becomes……………… i just want some god damn peace of mind and a non-stressful environment

[aidashakur]

I want to be a better person. A better friend. A better lover. A better me. Just better.

[babyphat05-deactivated20250613]

I will never understand why people get so triggered over Lori Harvey. She’s a black women who’s in her early 20’s doing what most 23 year olds do and date. Do I agree with her dating choices? No! But I highly doubt she’s going to marry these men. It makes me believe that the only reason people feel a type of way about her is because she’s a black women who won’t settle. There are plenty of non-black celebrities who does the exact same thing she does.

[vndrea-xo]

Hate when someone is committed to misunderstanding you.