be normal about introjects

diagnosed DID system for 8 years. common DNI criteria apply, endos dni either. body is 22. Introject Advocates. we got a disorder melting pot over here

[wanderlust-sys]

reviving this blog heres my intro

we're wanderlust, collectively we use they/them pronouns and we are bodily 22. our exact gender and sexuality are very muddled due to differing individual identities so we just call ourselves nonbinary and queer

we've been medically recognized as a system for almost 8 years now. we won't be using sign offs regularly but some posts will be if its relevant. we very appreciate asks, whether it's related to who we are, our experiences, or any other questions/comments

common DNI criteria apply. Endos DNI either, we are heavily anti endo and we'd rather not interact at all than argue with you because our stance is not changing.

Fakeclaimers DNI as well. fakeclaiming does not contribute to our community in a positive manner and it only hurts real systems even if you think you're helping. you're not.

we have a LOT of interests, too many to list out here haha. currently we really like genshin, project sekai, and splatoon 3!! i think i went over everything soo if you read this far thank you :)

[the-starry-city]

The yaelokre server aka orches

Ableism and refusal to listen to their community

Now I'm sure you must of heard about yaelokre beforehand however if you're not familiar, it is an artists name, they make songs and videos on tiktok and are well known for their harpy hair song

Now I want to note that I'm not seeking to cancel yaelokre, in fact I am sure that it was only the mods that were being ableist, however don't quote me on that as I'm not 100% sure how involved yaelokre themselves was in the server as they mentioned they were "banned from moderating" whatever the hell that means lmao

With that being said let's talk about it

I first joined the server seeking to learn the lore and make friends, all was well until me and a bunch of other systems started noticing that the community seemed to ignore those who proxied using pk, systems had to beg the mods to add a rule stating what systems were and what pk was so that the community knew we weren't bots, however most singlets did not read the rules

There was multiple times me and my friends saw the difference in how we were treated depending on if we proxied or not

In these images the community started making fun of this acc for using neopronouns, I tried to tell the community that making fun of neopronouns was fucked up, whether or not the acc was satire

You can see the differences between proxying and not proxying, I have many other screenshots like this where I compared with pk to no pk

After stating this I got muted for 24 hours and all the people making fun of neos got to talk on

Me and my friends tried multiple times to tell their modmail bot (a bot for making reports) about things that happened, the most they did was warn people, they barely cared what the members did unless someone complained about it to modmail, they relied on other people to do THEIR job, I watched multiple people break the rules without receiving punishment

After a while most people got blocked from modmail including myself

the mods excuse for all of this was "we have 8 mods and 25k people to watch" while I understand if you were struggling to hire mods however they refused to open mod applications and still complained about how understaffed they were, the community including me tried multiple times to ask them about mod applications but those tickets/requests we're ignored/deleted

Most of the in server drama started out due to singlets and even some fellow systems treating fictives as their source and bringing up source out of nowhere

After a while the mods exposed themselves as "endo neutral" this got many systems myself included very upset as the mods kept stating "we don't want to invalidate anyones trauma" and even after multiple people explained why mods are ableist and you can't invalidate someone's trauma if they dont have any in the first place they still didn't listen

They also allowed IRLS and fictionkins to use pk which is feeding into delusions and ableist

The mods kept saying "we can't validate who's an endo though" but the community kept telling them that most endos will wear the label loud and proud so there's their solution, but they still didn't listen

After the chat got really upset (for good reasons) they ended up straight up deleting the server instead of just simply listening to disabled people and the rest of their community

There were some people who kept kissing the mods feet saying shit like "oh but it's a big server" "oh they didn't have to make the server" and "your lucky the even added pk" as if that's an excuse for the shit they pulled on me and my friends

I'm just tired of singlets thinking that they have any right to speak on system topics, and in tired of watching fellow systems getting treated like shit for just existing

Mods, you never should've made that server if you couldn't handle a large server, you knew how big the fandom was getting and yet you complained about being understaffed when that is your own fault

[starstuff-sys]

Anti-Endo System Terms

[Plain Text: Anti-Endo System Terms]

These terms were made to provide a good alternative to fictive/factive without the clunky-ness of -roject terms.

Ectite - An alter who is not a brainmade

Fictite - An alter whos source is from fiction

Factite - An alter whos source is from real life

Foctite - An alter whos source is both from real life and from fiction

Hymtite - An alter whos source is from a song

Vocite - An alter whos source is a singer/songwriter or the personification of a band

Anitite - An alter whos source is an animal whos species has existed on planet earth

Exite - An alter whos source is of a being that is " other worldly ". This can include aliens, spiritual beings, ghosts, etc

Plutite - An alter whos source is from a stuffed animal

Persite - An alter whos source is someones persona ( could be the systems or someone elses. made with youtuber personas in mind )

Sihtite - An alter whos source is of a pre-existing alter

Duoite - An alter whos source is a group of people mushed into one being ( similar to the second definition of vocite, but not exclusive to bands )

ANTI ENDO SYSTEMS REBLOG!!

[Plain text: ANTI ENDO SYSTEMS REBLOG!!]

[thebigcrow]

Oh btw if you say you support introjects but are weird about factives of bad people you actually don't support introjects thanks for coming to my ted talk. Don't be assholes thanks

[ultism]

I make myself laugh rlly

[elliebunniiee]

you guys are weird about fictives with problematic sources. you guys are weird about fictives with no source separation. you guys are weird about fictives with complete source separation. you guys are weird about fictives with partial source separation. you guys are weird about fictives who’s source is a comfort for them and their system. you guys are weird about fictives. you guys are weird

[yourlocalnpd]

hey systems I would advise you to keep a certain number of things out of your bio because OSDDID inherently says a lot about your past and triggers so there are certain details only your close friends should know, and not just anyone perusing the internet

your age - predators are more than happy to fake their age to match yours. Being young and plural are unfortunately traits prone to manipulation

your headcount - aside from assholes fakeclaiming you, people can take it and use it against you.

who your trauma holders are, and, more generally, the roles of your alters. it's basically telling abusers who to target and who to avoid

any information about your littles whatsoever. For all the world knows, you have none. same with who age regresses.

any system descriptors beyond DID/OSDD1/PDID/etc. the internet does not need to know if you have complex DID or something like that; it's your trauma.

what your triggers are. people will try to trigger you on purpose. this includes front triggers

all your other disorders, particularly personality disorders - abusers can try to make you dependent, "favorite" them, avoid others, etc.

These aren't rules, and there are obviously different situations that call for different levels of privacy. Just use your judgment: who can see this? anyone who came across my blog or people I friended on simply plural? trusted friends on simply plural? Systems are very vulnerable to further abuse because of their fragmentation and trauma mindsets. Don't let anyone take advantage of that.

[collectivewarmth]

one of the most important things about dissociative identity disorder and generally being a system that i wish people would understand is that it truly isn’t as cut and dry as it may seem for member count.

you’ll see people who say they have “six alters” and then immediately assume it’s six fully fleshed out equal individuals with no confusion or fuzziness regarding identity. that’s simply not true in a majority of cases, as i have seen.

most systems still VERY much deal with confusion regarding potential splits, go through dissociative episodes where they’re unsure of who they are, sometimes feel no attachment towards any identities, feel like they might have split and then suddenly that person is gone, unsure if alters they haven’t heard from often have gone dormant, not sure how to react when alters do come out of dormancy, etc.

it’s not a fun feeling and it’s genuinely unfair in certain situations to force systems to list every single alter to you with full certainty, as if it will never change. because it will. for so many different reasons, systems will grow, they will shrink, they will fuse, they will develop. you can’t expect the person with the dissociative disorder and lack of core identity to be able to keep up a perfected list of forever, it’s simply impossible. you may have alters who stick with you, but that doesn’t mean changes won’t happen.

and systems who may be reading this — please don’t feel bad. you are not a hassle, you are not a headache, and you are not an inconvenience for simply coping with something like this. it’s out of your control and the only thing you can do is continue to cope to find ways to help yourself retrain from these reactions. please don’t allow yourself to be harmed by others who don’t understand what you are going through. there are people who will accept and love you for who you are, all of you.

past, present, and future.

[palisadewasp]

Here's a reminder to be fucking nice to fictives even if you don't like their source character. They can't fucking choose that shit and you not giving respect to a fellow person on this planet just because their identity is based off a fictional character you don't like says more about you than it does about them.

[palisadewasp]

We have fictives who are afraid of using their preferred names online because they don't want to piss someone off by just existing. Singlets get a fucking grip.

[thecorvidforest]

can i just say, it’s really gross how so much of the plural community (as well as doctors, therapists, and friends of systems) sincerely recommends hurting persecutors in order to make them stop persecuting. the amount of stories i’ve seen where systems are bragging about how they beat their persecutor/s into submission is disgusting. persecutors deserve to heal and to love and to be loved just as much as anyone.

[thatonepersecutor]

Can't believe the "endo system community" made up a term to demonise traumatised people who are speaking facts.

A system is created due to high levels of dissociation. Dissociation only happens as a trauma/stress response. The high levels of dissociation causes identity alteration, amnesia, derealisation and depersonalisation. This is what causes a system to form.

You CANNOT have a system without trauma. Be as delusional as you wish, but do NOT invade a mental health community because you wanna be quirky and have "multiple personalities".

To those who demonise people who are genuinely traumatised, you're sick and evil and you are not welcome in this space.

[syscultureis]

Plural Culture is getting a bit upset when ppl tell you "I can't believe you let {this alter} front, why would you ever let them out?"

Because first of all; we don't fucking control who fronts. Not even our gatekeepers have real control over that. Our brain throws whoever it thinks it needs to into front

We may have some influence over it, with positive triggers to try and get certain alters to front

But we have zero control of keeping other alters out of front

I have exactly 1 memory that involved an alter being forcibly removed from front (it was me)

And it was because I was fighting to stay in front during an extremely triggering moment, and it took half the fucking system to get me out of front

I was physically removed, and it drained everyone so harshly the body threw up and had to leave work early.

We do not control who fronts

And second! In a majority of systems, controlling front like that isn't healthy!! Most alters are meant to front!! Even the "bad" ones!!! *

Controlling front is so rarely actually a good thing!

Don't shit on systems for "letting" certain alters front, this isn't some fun quirky roleplay that we have control over. It's a fucking disorder

* I say most and majority, but do not mean ALL. I understand that in certain systems, most often ramcoa survivors, certain alters cannot be allowed to front. This post is not referring to cases such as those.

[wanderlust-sys]

can we please stop lumping systems, IRLs, and kinnies together as if theyre the same thing

[wanderlust-sys]

seems like finding system servers that are free of children, drama, and people who have personally wronged you is impossible lol

[wanderlust-sys]

real question does anyone know any good traumagenic only system discord servers that 1. arent filled with kids and 2. arent filled with drama

[vleskia-deactivated20231110]

why do singlets act like systems HAVE to be miserable in order to actually be a "real system"? why do they think we can not experience happiness simply because of our disorder? i don't understand it. singlets are so quick to fakeclaim any system that's happy & not in a constant state of misery over the fact that they are a system.

we are allowed to be happy. we're allowed to live a fulfilled life not tethered by a diagnosis. we are allowed to exist and be positive.

stop treating systems like they need to be miserable constantly in order to be valid.

── vleskia. ❔️

[wanderlust-sys]

idk if this is still an issue in the community but im still mad abt the way persecutors have been/are treated. how do you expect them to heal if you dont treat them well?

like obviously dont be a pushover to them if theyre actively causing harm, hold them accountable for their actions like you would anyone else yknow but also like. just treat them with respect cause theyre hurting too. they deserve kindness

we made that mistake before when we were first learning, just completely isolating and shunning them and it did a lot more harm than good. baffles me that people actively think its okay to treat them like garbage when the results of that make things worse

persecutors are not evil, not all of them are constantly actively harming the system, not all of them are these big bad edgy people, literally one of ours is a 12 year old girl that babysits all the littles. not to say persecutors cant be those things obviously, but theres so many stereotypes surrounding persecutors that create a heavy stigma towards them and robs them of the healing, love, and respect that they need and deserve

idk how to end this ramble anyway love your persecutors and treat them with respect theyre traumatized too