Nobody really knows what love is. It seems that nearly everybody has experienced that fuzzy feeling when you would saw the girl of your dreams get on your middle school bus. Love is like going to the bar and ordering the entire bottle of Jack Daniels, then chugging it through a funnel. Love is a cocktail of pheromones, oxytocin, and instinct that will send you flying high across the universe, or leave you in the dirt to contemplate your past decisions.
Love at times can be a chore. Being in love with someone is a risk that most are afraid to take anymore, but have taken before. Loving is a spectrum of sharing, sacrifice, learning, and emotion that leaves you vulnerable to deception and heartbreak. Can you imagine how many people are getting hurt and falling in love at this moment?. Sometimes you can fall in love with a person with completely different views than you, but you choose to get with the things they like even when you hate them. When you are a lover you will almost always extend your heart towards a person knowingly risking disappointment.
We love because this gives us a combination of natural chemicals and head rushes that medically is compared to cocaine. Falling in love is truly the greatest feeling ever. Knowing that this person is reciprocating the same time of admirations that I have for her makes me feel like I’m the coolest person in town.
There is nothing like the feeling of new love. New love is like walking into your lucid dream, having a seat on your throne and everything going exactly how you want it to. When two people are in new love there is not a single thing that can stop them from morphing into one Siamese-twin style human because they want to be so close to one another. These feelings are so strong that we will be drunk to any differences for a fair amount of time, especially if one or two people are very compromising.
What destroys love? A ton of things. Every single thing that you have ever done with the greatest of intentions will eventually be turned and twisted, or loopholed into making you either the victim, or the victor. It is best to be completely honest about everything you want and are serious about because when that honeymoon phase wears off you will realize that you were so easy going to the point that you have lost some or all of the very things that made you the person you were when you met your significant other. Ironically, these are often the same traits that helped attract that person to you.
There is a popular phrase that goes ‘You’re damned if you do, You’re damned if you don’t.” using this phrase seems to often be a by-product of something gone wrong, looking back in hindsight. Looking back in hindsight most people do not regret falling in love but in fact usually agree that they have taken home a valuable lesson that they may now begin to apply in their next relationship.
Lets say you are the type of person who doesn’t always do very well in relationships. Have you been cheated on by more than one of your significant others? Repeated negative results with love can leave a person scarred emotionally for sure. If you have never really had good relationship experience it is natural to be defensive, and to make more accusations and so forth. These generations of ‘millennials’ have a combination of OCD, anxiety and a slew of other mental problems and deficiencies that pretty much make their lives ‘too hard’ to function if they are not just absorbing everything they see on television and the internet as fact and leaving it at that.
A true long term relationship will demand every ounce of every bit of character that you possess and even if you satisfy those requirements things might just not work out for any random reason. Some people are not on the same relationship stage as others. This generation has the tendency to take Hollywood movie relationships and try to transcribe our lives to be like that. The truth is if you want to have a real relationship you have to take a huge initial risk, and if that pays off you have to try to mold your relationship in to something you can agree to like you are both spinning a clay pot with slightly different ideas.
Worrying about the other person cheating is pointless. When you think your significant other is cheating on you, you have two options: End it, try to catch them in the act. If you choose the second one than this basically requires you to become 007 and watch for the tiniest details to use the magnitude of your imagination and solve this case of the cheating mate. When you fail to catch them but continue to harass them this is what causes trust issues in the relationship. If you ceep badgering a person about every possibility of them cheating you will eventually try to lock them in a relationship jail cell that you are the warden of and facbook and every other social media site is the prison are that you monitor carefully. In the end you both will get to the point where enough is enough. You are sick of that person cheating on you and that person is sick of you accusing them.
What are you going to do? End it? No because there is no proof that that person did it so you cannot subconsciously establish the moral authority to say that person cheated on you and once again be the victim. If have not caught this person cheating, what good is it to be on their back about everthing they do and everywhere they go? Ironically, being accused of cheating when you are not doing it naturally inclines a person to want to actually do the deed they are being sentenced for, so at least you can hear the truth about yourself every once in a while. If you do not trust a person to make sound decisions even in the worse of conditions, you should strongly reconsider the way you are behaving with this person. The stress of not trusting your mate will only grow increasingly as the relationship goes further. You cannot half trust a person, you either do or you don’t.
So, do you have a better understanding of what love is? Side effects and all, love is something that most people try to do regardless of these risks and statistics. When people are ready to love there are still cornucopias of other potential issues that threaten to destroy the relationship you have been building. Life is absolutely and totally unpredictable, love is the exact same in every way.
What goes up must always come down. The fact that you have made it as far as you have means that you are on the right path to finding that warm cozy place where you want to be in your life. You could win the lottery tonight, you may have your heart broken tomorrow. When things go sour the best scenario is where you both have a clean break with no hard feelings. Every experience you have ever had will help you understand other things better. If nothing else, hopefully the good has outweighed the bad.
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