david and cesar crackship asks? don't mind if I yes!
silly question, who takes the spider out?
not so silly question, what do you all do when one of you feels under the weather or depressed?
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Silly Question: Who takes the spider out.
None of us do. It's not that we're afraid of spiders but we will let it chill in the house especially if its in the winter time. However Cesar may relocate it to somewhere safer say if the little spoder was in the sink or something! David is always amused because I talk to the spiders sometimes as if they're just another person just hanging out-- (No really, I got super excited that Gregory.....yes I name my spiders shh, was actually as "Gregoria" and had babies. I got stupid excited and even congratulated the spider...true story, she is still chilling in the bathroom pffftt) David finds it adorable dfkldkjg
Question: What do you all do when one of you feels under the weather/depressed.
It honestly depends on the person and what is going on. If it's depression, David doesn't like talking that much about what's going on inside his head and that's okay, we never push him to tell us but we will be even more present than we already are. David doesn't like to be treated any differently when his mood shifts. He may distance himself a little and again that's totally fine but Cesar and myself make sure to let him know that we're always here for him so if he ever does want to open up or anything he is in a safe place to do so. We always give him those options.
As for myself when I'm depressed.....hoo boy... it can be...hard. As we all know I struggle with bipolar so my moods are all over the place at any given time. Thankfully though Cesar knows exactly what to do. David does too to an extent but it's usually Cesar who is here to offer support because he knows exactly what I go through. He can pick it up without me having to say anything. Both David and Cesar are great though, they never try and tell me how I should feel or to just "feel better" They're more than happy to listen if I'm venting and they're also fine in silence, the know I like physical touches when I'm like this because it grounds me. They also let me cry when I need too, never telling me I need to calm down or try to compare my struggles with other worse struggles some may have, they're just present, they comfort me, rub my back, hug me, snuggle me, whatever I may need and they tell me to let it out.
Now, when it comes to Cesar. Cesar is really good at masking his pain but if you pay close enough attention, you can tell when things shift. He gets a little more quiet and a little more distant. He works a lot more than usual (which is still a fuck ton because he is a bit of a wokaholic) To anyone else Cesar is just being Cesar but to us? He's not fooling anyone. I would never ever tell him how he's feeling but I would be extra attentive towards him. Usually he catches on that I know he is struggling and just sighs which leads to me wrapping my arms around him and telling him that he never needs to hide anything from us. He's allowed to feel however he's feeling without judgement. Sometimes he needs space and he's learned to communicate that and I've learned to reassure him that him needing space from us is okay and that he's not a bad person for telling us his needs. We're there for him just like how he's here for us. David usually doesn't know quite what to do but he makes Cesar feel better with humor. He knows there is a time and a place for it. He's good at getting Cesar to smile or relax a little more <3
As for under the weather I associate that term with being ill so David turns into a man baby LMAO He's like me, we get extra clingy and whiny and want affection. PFFT which kinda pisses Cesar off because he is totally the opposite. He thinks he needs to Quarantine himself. We're allowed to help him but only if we wear masks when entering the room and sanitize often. You can see how he would get a little irritated with either me or David because If I get sick or David gets sick the other is instantly snuggling up to them and babying the other which in turn....gets us sick too LOL