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hello I'm Bia, literal sunflower and this is my blog, feel free to talk to me if you want to!

[escuerzoresucitado]

[i-apologize-in-advance]

oh my god he is BEAUTIFUL

[theoneandonlyuxu]

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[nocturneandbone]

double exposure of the full moon on 35mm film

[anxietyproblem]

[zero-two-ten]

this site has one setting

[jenroses]

I’m laughing, but there’s a super useful corollary, which my husband calls “the Red Balloon.” He was a defense lawyer and had a fair number of drug addicts come through, and there is a thing where if you’re like, on your first offense, they’ll do a thing where you can go to treatment and if you complete it they’ll take the conviction off your record.  And he would tell his clients, “Look, everyone’s going to tell you not to do drugs. They’re going to say it over and over again. And it’s like, if people tell you not to think of a white elephant, you’re going to think of a white elephant. But the trick to not thinking about a white elephant is to think of a red balloon. So you need to find your red balloon. For some people it’s yoga. For others it’s woodworking. For some people it’s scrapbooking or gardening or any of a long list of things to do. They focus on that, it’s a lot easier to succeed in ignoring the white elephant.” So yeah, “watch yourself” is one thing… but the better idea is to watch something else. (Even if it’s fanfic about werewolves fucking.)

It’s a form of productive dissociation, and is super, super helpful. It’s easy for me to get bogged down in how much pain I’m in… but some of the most painful periods of my life have also been the most productive, writing-wise, because writing is one of my red balloons. 

[kittydorkling]

There is a phrase I use A LOT in my parenting and my son gets very sick of it, but it’s true:

The thing you practise is the thing you get good at.

You may not intentionally be practicing “being grumpy” but if you don’t put effort into practicing “not being grumpy” then I’m afraid that’s what you’re doing. It’s hard! It’s really hard! Sometimes, for some things, it’s pretty much impossible and that sucks!

But being carefully aware that you are going to get good at the things you do most of is a good way to be more careful of what those things are. If that makes sense.

[bogleech]

You gotta appreciate sometimes how tumblr works in such a way that everyone who wants to reblog this interesting or useful psychological advice is also forced to reblog the thing about werewolf fucking

[thecollectibles]

Crab in a Cage by 秋刀鱼

[weepingwidar]

Marcelle Reinecke (American, 1989) - PBJ (2025)

[jetix]

Sara Hagale, 2023-09-06

[anxeious]

this is making me emotional

[lonestarflight]

Apollo 17 vs Artemis II

[mementochao]

Despite everything, it's still you.

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That's really cool actually

[jetix]

‘White Cat with Gemstones’ by Joseph Jones Oil and acrylic on linen, 2026

[vickisigh]

calling 🐚

✧ limited edition print ✧

[enchantedbook]

"The Feast of Silenus" by Alfred Philippe Roll, 1871

In Bacchic frenzy, Silenus, companion of Dionysus, rides a donkey.

[night-the-starfish]

He bites <3, mixed media.

[aurora-brn]

year of the horse

[uservik]

You'll die out there, young man. You'll walk out that door and be torn to shreds, and then your hell-bound pride will have them come get the rest of us. Yes, they'll come back for all of us, just like this good lady said. Do you want that to happen, people? No! No, no!

The Mist (2007) dir. Frank Darabont

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Christ’s side wound in illuminated manuscripts