I just opened up to my gf about age regression as a way to process trauma but it’s hard to be in that headspace and be alone. Any advice for a kiddo without a cg/ a gf who hasn’t experienced anything like this?
hm. i don’t have any experience with a situation like this, but i guess i can say some basic stuff.
firstly, start slow. don’t expect your girlfriend to jump right in and start being a carer, or even accept things immediately. she (i’m assuming, i’m sorry if i’m wrong) may not want to be part of it at all, and that’s totally her choice. don’t pressure her into anything.
communication is important, and it needs to be consistent. one conversation is not enough to sort out where you stand. don’t just tell; ask questions, see if she’s comfortable or not, make sure there are no misunderstandings. give her time to process; don’t just keep pressing.
if she’s understanding and supportive, start introducing her to things slowly; don’t overwhelm her with with a bunch of gear and babytalk and all that. start small with maybe coloring while she watches netflix or something, showing her your favorite stuffies, things like that, to see how she reacts. encourage her to let you know how she feels and to establish boundaries.
remember that a relationship of any type is a two way street. it’s not up to her to immediately accept anything you tell her, and it’s not up to you to completely change your personality or coping mechanisms to suit her either. start with communication and acceptance, let everyone get comfortable, and slowly progress like that.
one of the issues i see with carer/regressor relationships a lot is people jumping right into them without taking time for everyone to acclimate and get comfortable with each other and the situation. whether you’re already in a relationship or not, introducing new things takes time and effort. it’s important to be considerate and understanding.
this really turned into a ramble, didn’t it? i don’t actually think i answered your question. feel free to specify if you meant something different, i sort of went one way and ran with it.
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