Winterwhispers

(Hi hi! Welcome to my blog! 🤺✨ Writer,21, any pronouns I don’t rlly care, lover of Studio Ghibli

[k3n999]

idk how to bird... also hiiii~ im back to drawing wife💗

[hysteric-boy]

Do you wanna go beat eachother up in the woods? (Flirting)

[rickyapologist]

you can honestly be having the worst day of your life, open tumblr and there's your long time mutual who has recently gotten really into toy story yaoi just posting away

[dykonicdiva]

(no beers in) what is every thought you’ve ever had about me ever

[stuckinapril]

In every relationship or friendship worth having, there will be inevitable moments of awkwardness, anger, miscommunication, frustration, or impatience. It’s how each person decides to navigate that that determines how much they care about one another. If you internalize those moments as an overarching statement that speaks louder than all the good times you had with this person, you are practically shooting yourself in the foot. If you decide to walk away at natural moments of friction, either that person didn’t matter all that much to you, or you do care but elect to self-sabotage all moments of connection because you fear abandonment or negative reactions from people you care about. Either way this is unsustainable and guarantees a lifetime of loneliness.

[anotherpapercut]

good sky day today

[anotherpapercut]

some more good sky days recently

[anotherpapercut]

the sky was so good at the mall today I took like 20 pictures

[the-haiku-bot]

the sky was so good

at the mall today I took

like 20 pictures

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[winterwhisperz-blog]

I volunteer at a theatre and today this old kind gentleman asked me if I’ve ever performed on stage before and me, as someone who’s always loved theatre and belting in the shower, answered without much thought

“Oh I wish.” And just explained Ive been here a couple times. Thought that was the end of it but then he said

“Why don’t you? There’s a lot of roles I think you could get. You know, if you don’t ever try the answer will always be no.”

Well 🤔 hmmmmmm

[littlestpersimmon]

Doodling an oc.. their name is Fermina (she / he / they).. they are a fossil hunter..

[anxeious]

one thing about me is i’m gonna go lay down

[reactionimagearchive]

[walking-wonders-of-nyeh]

It's dangerous outside...

Pls take them with u 🥺🫴

[paper-wounds]

[toomanyrats]

on shame and yearning (pt.2)

[fakelawyerbug]

I've seen a bunch of "fandom etiquette" posts on my dash today and I'm going to say something that is maybe going to be unpopular but;

The absolutely pervasive mentality that unwanted criticism or critique shouldn't be given and should be ignored is why fans of color don't stay in fan spaces.

And I am not going to mince words here:

A lot of you are racist. A lot of your fan works are racist.

That might have been difficult to hear. And if it was, you should probably reflect on why that was.

"Fandom etiquette" has created a space where fans of color either bite our tongues and eventually leave or say something, get dogged on, and then eventually leave.

So much of "fandom etiquette" seems to be about insulating creatives from Feeling Bad and hostility to any kind of negative feedback is a pretty big contributor to why bigotry festers in these spaces.

[iridescentoracle]

#imo the potluck analogy applies- it would be rude to critique someone's icing technique at a potluck bc it wasn't as good as at the bakery #but if they had decorated their cupcakes w hate symbols it wouldn't be rude to tell them that's gross and gtfo #in fact it would be inappropriate to NOT say anything in that situation #or to complain that another guest who did point it out was 'ruining everyone's potluck' #and pointing out racism in fan works is 100% the second thing not the first! (via destructions-daughter)

[swamp-spirit]

There's also a tendency to conflate anyone who critiques general trends with bad faith randos. Like, there is fandom behavior that is 100% racist and should be talked about, but there are also trends of racist/sexist/ableist preferences.

If I say "I am uncomfortable with fandom's tendency to write trans men as feminine and submissive" I do not mean "I think every person who writes feminine submissive trans men should be chased with pitchforks". I don't even mean "any cis-person who writes feminine or submissive trans men should be chased with pitchforks". I mean "I would like writers to seriously think about why this is so common, why they write that, and if it fairly and genuinely engages with what it means to be a trans man, or if they just think it's hot when submissive people have vaginas and didn't want to write omegaverse of m/f".

Similarly, when people say "fandom is systemically less interested in black characters, less willing to give flat black characters rich fanon than flat white characters, and less interested in black characters in ships", the response is not to explain why you, personally, just happen to like popular white guy in that fanon. Your job is to look at yourself and ask if you tend to "just happen to be more interested" in the popular white guy across fandoms, be honest, and start unpacking that. Sometimes it's easier to love the flat character who's already getting 10,000 fics with headcanons and art and meta.

If somebody says "I wish there were more gluten free options at the potluck. I hate always showing up and not finding anything I can eat*", they are not asking you to throw your cake in the trash and weep. They do not want to hear your long speech about how actually this is your grandmother's recipe, and you've tried it with rice flour actually, but it just didn't work. You think about what you can do, and you listen to how they feel.

*The metaphor here not being that you can't read fic that isn't "good rep". The metaphor here is that it can be isolating to be in spaces where nobody is trying to make sure people like you are welcome.

[bunnygirljesus]

Black ppl deserve to feel safe and welcomed on the internet, on fandoms on whatever community or hobbies they want without having to deal with antiblack racist attacks, microaggressions or enablers of antiblackness . And if u genuinely consider urself to be left leaning or an ally or woke you should do and try to unlearn the colorism, texturism , eurocentrism and antiblackness

[rajieeeee]

[beartrapgirl]

meowing is one of the coolest things that anything can ever do i think