Tips for being so positive and optimistic all the time! Also you’re absolutely adorable!
Awh, that is super sweet! I will definitely say that some days I am not super positive - but when I have days that I feel down or am feeling self-conscious I usually take a bit of time out. However, here are a few things that I do to try and be positive:
read a ‘the subtle art of not giving a fuck’ by mark manson - I will do a review of this on my YouTube but dude, I loved this book. Total mindset changer. Great for getting rid of worries about unnecessary things and trying to only give a fuck about what truly matters!
acceptance over resistance - I am a very “it is what it is” person, maybe that is cynical but oh well. If something isn’t going how I wanted, I just accept it and see what I can do (if anything) to change it. You’re better off accepting and moving on than putting up an unwinnable fight.
alternate your self-importance and others - I would say I am quite a selfless person? I try to help when I can and do often place other people’s needs over my own. That is all well and good, but I do have to remember that sometimes I do come first. You should try. Always be well mannered, kind and giving but don’t let someone take advantage of that.
make the effort with people - in my personal life, I have let some friends drift in and out because I’m not always the best at staying in touch. However, the people I do really care about do get my efforts (ain’t they lucky). For instance, my best friend from the UK (shout out to Katy, I doubt she’d read this but hey!) and I have kept in touch with messages probably every week or two for the past 7 years since I moved to Australia. I’m incredibly appreciative that I’ve had her in my life and every time we go home I make the effort to see her. Similarly, after I moved schools in Australia I didn’t want to lose out of the friendships from my previous school. Whilst I wasn’t seeing them all the time we did keep in touch. I would say now that we’re in university, we have a better relationship because we actually get to hang out more regularly. I am having a few of them over tonight and I’m making some Hogwarts house cupcakes because we’re all a lil into Harry Potter :’-) So, from that! Try to make an effort with people that add something to your life. If they’re negative or draining, slowly ease them out.
think a little bit more about what you’re saying + be kinder - kinda silly sounding but honestly, I feel like we should just all be nice!? One time with the internet is regardless of what you intend something to mean or the tone you share it with, there can be instances when it comes across differently. With any response, I try to make sure it is light-hearted and not giving off an unintentionally bitchy tone :’-)
be grateful - to put it in a context of my blog, I am so grateful I have the community to be a part of. It is honestly something that brings so much joy to my life. I am incredibly appreciative of this and lots of others things in my life and being able to recognise that is important!
look for the positives - definitely sometimes easier said than done but try to find something that can be taken in a positive light. In every failure, there is an opportunity!
lastly, don’t force it - in days when I’m feeling down it is kind of nice to take time out, wallow in self-pity and binge watch a series. Absolutely try to take steps to changing your mindset and improving your mind but if you want to, just let it be. Take a few hours or a day to feel the feelings and learn how to deal with them. You can’t just avoid negative feelings your entire life!
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