You Are Who You Hangout With.
No I’m not! I’m an individual!!
Alright, before you go attacking the title and claiming your individualism and special personality - let’s take a step back and take a moment to identify the five people you associate with most. Ok, got names?
Now evaluate them. Who are they, what do they do, what are they passionate about? Do they have any negative traits, what about positive ones? How do they make you feel, how do they make others feel? And most importantly, how do they treat people who are not close to them compared to those who are.
Now just by describing your friends, you actually just described an image of yourself. Surely it’s hazy and slightly blurry, but Jim Rohn, one of the most influential author and motivational speaker sums it up pretty well:
You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
In an era where self development is key and we’re always focusing on ourselves, it’s just as important to recognize those in our intimate surroundings. And I say this because I, like many, had or have friends who are toxic. They’re usually the critics, the jealous one, the drama queens, and the negative Nancys. When you hang around them you feel drained, as if they leeched you of your mental capability to stay sane and happy. You are affected by them because they’re in your life. The same way a friend who’s royal, upbeat, ambitious, and compatible will affect you and how you live out your days.
Just think about high school and the stereotypical groups. The cheerleaders hung out with the cheerleaders, the artsy people hung out with the artsy people, the druggies with the druggies, and so on. In adult life, there’s no longer a “stereotypical” group that you hangout with unless you belong to the Housewives of Some Fancy Dramatic Place. But you can categorize people by personality, by thoughts, and by what they do (not in career, but in action).
The arrogant and judgmental person will probably have a few friends who are equally cocky and critical of others. The quirky, always optimistic person will probably be around those who are of equal energy and positivity. And sure there are more dimensions to people and their friends than that, but you can the gist of this.
That’s why people always say befriend those who you aspire to be, and you’ll become them. It’s the same as seeking out a mentor and having them teach you their ways so that you can apply it in your own life. That’s why people always say that to be happy, you have to surround yourself with those who inspires you, supports you, and makes you feel important. Surround yourself with good company, and you’ll find goodness.
You are who are you hangout with, so here’s a reminder to choose wisely, and always for the better.
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