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[evilfeminist-deactivated2020042]

Me being gender critical doesn’t erase your identity and isn’t a call for trans people to be killed. Women are allowed to structurally analyize social theory, regardless of if you agree with them or not. If you can’t tell the difference between political analysis, and a call for a mass extermination, then you probably shouldn’t be given your own political platform.  

[lorynna]

the way you're reacting to to criticism is so obviously triggered and childish. you're making it a personal fight because you have no ideological defenses. forget about radfemcroatia for a minute and actually try to defend having a boyfriend as a radfem... oh wait, you can't.

you can't defend having a male partner without making the not all men argument, but, dear, it is all men.

"good" men are only "good" in so much as they act better than "bad men". but when bad men rape, abuse, and kill women, the standard for good men are kept intentionally low.

becuase of this, men know they can basically get away with anything. he never does the dishes? well, at least he doesn't beat you. he made a 'joke' that hurt your feelings? well, at least he didn't rape you. this is what is meant when feminists say all men benefit from patriarchy + all men benefit from male violence.

this is radical feminism 101. pick up a book before you call yourself a radfem.

*sigh* this kind of purity policing is exactly what is alienating so many women from radical feminist spaces, even though they would need the resources most.

I wanted to talk about this anyways so here we go:

being a radfem has never required being a separatist.

full stop.

you’re acting like it’s some core tenet when it’s just one strand within the movement. kate millett was married to a man. andrea dworkin was married to a man. firestone dated men. if your version of radical feminism would’ve kicked out the founders, maybe rethink it, because you might be engaging in historical gatekeeping and no true scotsman fallacies. movements are defined by their originators and core texts. now, who gets to define radical feminism? you, or the women who have coined the term?

trying to redefine “radfem” as a label only for women who reject all contact with men is historical revisionism. it strips radical feminism of its political roots and turns it into a lifestyle identity. the original movement wasn’t about personal virtue, it was about collective resistance. rewriting the label erases its history and silences/excludes the women who built it.

you can be a separatist and praise it all you want, more power to you, but don't try to change history or conflate radfem with female seperatist. and before you try to say "those women had to have male partners, it wasn't a choice back then because of different times!" - this argument rewrites history to force separatism into the definition of radical feminism, instead of acknowledging it as one of many strategies. the claim that early radical feminists "couldn't" be separatists ignores the fact that some were, even in the 1960s and 70s (like the radicalesbians or the furies collective).

my point is: even when separatism was possible, not all radical feminists chose it. firestone, the redstockings, dworkin, they had access to separatism and still didn’t adopt it as a core of their politics. that proves it's optional, not essential. separatism is an individual and personal choice a woman makes in order to minimize all male harm to the best extent possible, it is a path some take, but it’s not the definition of the road.

a lot of blackpillers argue that the patriarchy is so all-encompassing that true resistance must involve separation but this stance is a philosophical standpoint, not a historical or definitional truth and also easily disproven by the actual diversity of thought and practice in radical feminist theory.

now put on your thinking caps and listen for a minute

radical feminism was coined in the late 1960s by women like the new york radical women and redstockings. they focused on dismantling male supremacy as a political system, not on moral purity or punishing individual women for how they survive under it.

many of these feminists dated men or were married, their feminism wasn't defined by their private relationships but by their commitment to systemic critique and resistance. separatism was one strand of thought, primarily pushed by lesbian feminists who were exhausted by male violence, but it was never a baseline requirement. In fact, groups like redstockings rejected bioessentialism ("We do not need to change ourselves, but to change men." - Redstockings Manifesto), they didn’t believe men were born oppressive, but socialized through patriarchy.

Dworkin was even critical of female separatism, here is a passage of an interview On The Issues Magazine in the 1980s where she shows skepticism about separatism as a universal or mandatory strategy and prefers to focus on broader social change:

Interviewer: A lot of radical lesbian/feminist political argument against heterosexuality is that it is impossible to have any equity in heterosexual relationships because of the power differentials between men and women. There is an attempt through lesbian sexual politics to find equality in sexuality. Do you personally think that’s possible?

AD: It’s not my way of approaching it. I have never felt that lesbians per se were exempt from any of the power hierarchies that men and women also experience. I think that being powerless is not good for people, it hurts and damages them. So when you put two people who are powerless together, you don’t necessarily get more equality except that they’ve both been hurt. Sometimes you get strength, and sometimes you get political conviction and commitment. Sometimes for the women themselves there is a tremendous sense of freedom and integrity but this is no panacea. You solve the problem out in the world or you don’t solve it at all. People may find many personal islands in their own lives where they can experience some kind of reciprocity, and mutuality. I think some women find it with some men but it’s very hard because in the real world inequality exists.

Interviewer: So the separatist argument is not for you.

AD: It’s never been a convincing argument. I really do see it as the ultimate personal solution and in that sense I reject it. I think that there has to be a complete change in gender. I don’t think gender is real, I think gender is constructed. I am about ultimately redistributing power, and the redistribution of power means taking masculinity away from men. So when men say “feminists want to castrate us”, in a sense they’re right. We see the artifice of gender and radical equality demands the kind of institutional change that will ultimately destroy gender. That’s what I hope, that’s what I work for.

so no, again, dating a man doesn’t disqualify you from being a radical feminist. radical feminism is about aligning with its values: naming male power, fighting for women’s liberation, and analyzing the roots of oppression. It’s not about living in perfect political conditions or purging yourself of anything tainted by patriarchy, because we all live under it. and I absolutely refuse to shoulder the burden of perfection. after all I'm still an individual that is seperate from the ideology. not all of my choices are automatically feminist just by the nature of me identifying as a radfem.

radical feminism critiques patriarchy, it doesn't label men as some innate evil species. that’s not feminism, that’s bioessentialism - which radical feminism opposes. patriarchy is a social structure, not something in male DNA. if it were "all men" by nature, then we’d be saying patriarchy is unchangeable, which defeats the entire point of liberation. here exactly is the point where we leap into blackpill territory again and that's exactly the point: you’re not quoting radical feminism. you’re quoting blackpill tumblr rhetoric.

there’s a major difference between strategic separatism like korea’s 4B movement and the kind of separatism often promoted on Tumblr. The 4B movement, which stands for "no dating, no sex, no marriage, no childbearing" is practiced by Korean women as a direct political response to deeply entrenched patriarchy, misogyny, and gender-based violence. It’s not about personal moral purity or hating men as a class - it’s about collective refusal to participate in systems that exploit and endanger women. the women in 4B aren’t just abstaining for abstinence's sake - they’re rejecting institutions (like marriage) that in Korea come with real economic and legal penalties for women. and crucially, many 4B women also organize, educate, and advocate, they have material goals beyond abstention, which they hope to achieve, so they can have better lives.

meanwhile, Tumblr separatism often lacks this structural focus or even goals. It becomes a kind of personal purity ritual, "don’t date men, don’t talk to men, don't interact with men, or you’re not a real feminist." there’s rarely a broader political project behind it. it’s mostly about individual abstaining, framed as resistance, but without any strategy to dismantle or change the structures that harm women. it ends up being fatalistic, assuming men can’t change, patriarchy is eternal, and women can only survive by hiding. that’s not feminism, that’s surrendering. separatism without goals becomes a cage, not a movement.

saying "good men are only good because they’re better than bad men" isn’t insightful, it’s just shifting the goalposts until no man can ever be considered decent. and that’s not analysis, that’s again... fatalism.

if your feminism requires shaming women for having relationships or demanding we all go full hermit mode to be "valid" you’ve missed the point. we live in patriarchy. being a radfem doesn’t mean running away and trying to escape, it means understanding it, resisting it, and trying to change it.

stop trying to gatekeep a movement you clearly haven’t studied. pick up a book yourself. or multiple, at that.

[womanblogging]

i agree with this post and i think op has laid it out very well. one thing I’d add is that, in my personal opinion and belief system, separatism as a lifestyle is also ultimately a non-viable strategy for equality between men and women. i feel like the Dworkin quote starts to touch on this as well. major feminist gains have come from brave, trailblazing women slowly infiltrating male dominated spaces (the workforce, various fields and industries, sports, hobbies, etc). i recently read The Science of Racism, and the conclusion of the book was essentially that the only way to actually, effectively eliminate racism is continued integration, and it’s led me to believe this applies to sexism as well. there was another article floating around radblr not too long ago about a female wrestler (i think?) who wanted to play the sport so badly she fought to join the boys team at her school, and it inspired other women and ultimately led to the creation of a women’s team. in my view, that is the only meaningful way forward. and separatism as a lifestyle does not address that.

[bushpropaganda]

found this revolutionary paper that analyzes every single case of transgender violence across 25 years in Britain, using data from Trans Day of Remembrance. it is the first study that has ever counted trans perpetrators, and the researchers found that trans people were more often perpetrators of violence than victims of it in Britain.

this paper is very comprehensive and has a ton of sources if you wanna do further research on this topic. i recommend reading it and forming your own conclusion.

[strange-boss-deactivated2023071]

LMAO op turned off reblogs but this interaction is so funny to me

[womanblogging]

i did not send this ask but this post is so funny to me lol. first of all i also thought this was a radfem adjacent account lol and secondly everyone in the notes is acting like this is an insane ask to send when its fairly mundane bc none of these ppl realize that its more likely than they think that many of their mutuals are crypto 😭

[pinkbutterflymigration]

If gender socialization isn't real why can I clock so effectively?

And this isn't some kind of smug "gotcha" or a mean way of calling trans people ugly or whatever else, it is a legitimate question. I can tell with surprising accuracy who is trans and who isn't and even in what "direction" online without ever even seeing pictures. Not EVERY single time, but 9/10 times for sure. I can tell who's a trans man solely based on how they write online, I can tell who's a trans woman based solely on their art styles, and vice versa.

If gender socialization isn't real then why do trans men and trans women have certain qualities in their personalities that occur frequently enough that many people (I'm not the only one) can tell without ever even seeing them? I honestly don't see any way you can not believe in gender socialization without believing in bioessentialism.

[wellitsinteresting]

this is what we mean when we say that now it’s literally impossible to talk about female oppression

[sichorean]

Professor calls to abolish terms like 'gay' that 'harms' trans people

Brandon Robinson, an associate professor at UC Riverside, believes that removing the gendered terms would allow people to be from societal c

same old homophobic conversion therapy bullshit from a "they/them" male

[yuckthemyums]

What have we been saying lol

[womanblogging]

this is the inevitable conclusion of trans rhetoric. if you genuinely believe in trans ideology then you should take no issue with this statement. that’s the funny thing. following their logic, this guy is right. its very interesting/funny seeing TRAs fall over themselves trying to rationalize how they can meaningfully be gay or lesbian, which is often crucial to their sense of identity in addition to being trans, without getting into the “genital preference” debate, when they do not believe in sex.

if you believe that being a man or woman (or “neither”) is a fluid identity, then terms like lesbian and gay are meaningless. radfems have been critical of this for ages, because stripping these terms of their meaning is erasure. but it seems to me that the major reasons this perspective hasn’t gained further traction in the trans community is because 1) homosexual trans people, while still entrenched in the ideology, know that being gay is an intrinsic part of themselves 2) heterosexual trans people need these terms to have meaning because falsely calling themselves gay is a cornerstone of their manufactured identities

[vintage-bentley]

The entitlement of people who expect you to not only actively make an effort to use pronouns for them that aren’t instinctual, but to also use more than one in the same sentence for them. I always assumed that the she/theys and he/theys just wanted you to use either or, but no, many expect you to actively use both. Sorry but it’s so incredibly self absorbed to expect people to put that much effort into simply talking about you lmao

[violasses]

"incel on estrogen" "amab socialization" "transwomen have male privilege" some of y'all really want to be nazis and it shows

[xxactlyperfect]

quick, define nazism and how this correlates

[neopetdestroyer]

Trigger warning: male violence, sexual assault

Original post found: HERE warning, has video of the assault. Post remade without video.

[sentient-noodle]

ofcourse isff is back on her "but think of the poor rapist" bullshit.

[vampiricvenus]

This is literally just Christian ethics with animal ears...

[bloodandtheory]

Wow a pedophile male is a rape apologist. Shocking, who could have seen that coming

[detransition]

from hotflanks

Thoughts on living with authenticity and striving to truly know oneself. I am speaking only of my own experiences in the hopes that it will resonate with someon who needs to hear this; I am not speaking out against anyone else's personal decisions. We all do what we have to do to get by, and it's all love. If you want to talk, let's have a convo in the comments to be open and truly authentic to the world.

thinking of detransition? you are not alone

[bloodandtheory]

There's 2 sides of radblr

The women that helped me get an abortion when I needed one a few years back and women who harassed me for being in a position to need one in the first place

Be the first option. A woman shouldn't have to tell you she was raped for you to support her through an abortion, especially in a feminist space

[littlewildmother]

Nothing wrong w not wanting kids but absolutely smth wrong with using bizarre sexualized language to describe children and their mothers. Fucking freaks I stg.

[littlewildmother]

Like yes I think youre a bad person if you call kids crotch goblins or cock pets or creampies or whatever the fuck else weird nasty ass shit you’re doing. Touch some fucking grass. Think about the fact that you are referring to a living breathing child who has done nothing but (checks notes) been born with this nasty ass sexualized language and for what. Because you’re mad at men?

[womanblogging]

The thing I continue to not understand from TRAs is that, if sports are all about biological advantages and should just be co-ed anyway, why is it a problem for trans women to participate in men’s sports? If sex or gender segregating sports is wrong or bad in the first place then just play with the boys.

[trickstercarlos]

seeing trans women out in public is like warm sunlight washing over me it genuinely brightens my mood

[heteropositivity69]

I thought it's impossible to tell?