queer and not going anywhere 🌈

topics include: lgbtqia+, gender non-conformity, polyamory and non-monogamy, sex education and sexual health

[wonderingwhereiam]

Resources:

Mental health resources

International LGBTQIA+ resources

International list of LGBTQIA+ helplines

More international LGBTQIA+ resoruces

Map of informed consent gender clinics *US

Lesbian, sapphic and wlw:

Am I a lesbian?

What does sapphic mean?

Safe sex and health for wlw and wsw

The D-slur

Butch / Femme

His and herstory of butch and femme

In defense of nonbinary lesbianism

Gay men, mlm and men who have sex with men:

I think I might be gay

Gay men and masculinity

The F-slur

Trans men becoming attracted to men

STI info for men who have sex with men

Straight but in love with a man?

Straight men who have sex with men

Bi, pansexual and other multisexualities:

Bi 101

The bisexual manifesto

Difference between bisexual and pansexual

What does pansexual mean?

Pansexual? Omnisexual? Polysexual?

Gender identity, expression and transition:

How do I know I'm trans?

You don't need gender dysphoria to be trans

Nonbinary but not trans?

Not cis. Not trans. Genderqueer.

Information on hormone replacement therapy

Explaination of gender and trans terminology

A book on trans history

Queer and questioning:

About the term "queer"

The queer nation manifesto

Questioning

Questioning and other resources

Intersex:

What is intersex?

Asexuality:

What is asexuality?

Asexuals and sex

Labels:

The split attraction model

Sexuality beyond L, G, B and Q

Unlabeled people and pomosexuality

Labels or no labels?

Nonmonogamy and polyamory:

General polyamory resources

Nonmonogamy and polyamory

Safe sex with multiple partners

Red flags in polyamorous partners

Is polyamory part of the LGBT+?

Normativity:

Heteronormativity and cisnormativity

Allonormativity and amatonormativity

Compulsive heterosexuality

Current LGBTQIA+ issues:

Puberty blockers

Should minors be allowed to transition?

Trans people in sports

LGBTQ+ "panic" defense

Conversion therapy

Countries that criminalize LGBTQIA+

LGBTQIA+ rights and equality by state (US)

Executive orders targeting transgender people (US)

Misc:

No police at pride

Being an LGBTQIA+ ally

How to support your transitioning partner

Is not wanting to have sex with trans people transphobic?

Falling in love with someone at odds with your sexuality

LGBTQIA+ and intersectionality

HISTORY AND OTHER RESOURCES

[333dotexe]

i am so tired of grief

[333dotexe]

no more dead friends no more dead trans girls i am begging the fucking universe no more

[333dotexe]

why the fuck does this happen

[333dotexe]

[wonderingwhereiam]

Btw if you are lgbtqia+ or an ally you should be supporting people with life long STIs!!!

[briarpatch-kids]

I want to remind people that catching an STI is a values neutral event that literally just means you have a social life and got unlucky when you got lucky. There is no judgement to make beyond "damn that sucks bro."

You should absolutely have safe sex, continue to get regular testing, and use PPE, but condoms aren't 100% effective and intimacy comes with risk. I can't believe we're having this conversation in 2026 how did our culture fall as far as slut shaming someone for nearly dying of an STI and being open about his story so others know it's possible.

[itscoldinwonderland]

I have HSV1 and HSV2, that means I have oral herpes and genital herpes. Despite those names herpes blisters can actually show up anywhere on the body, despite which type you have! I've had them on my chest before!

Idk how I got herpes. I was very sexually active as a teenager... But...

More than half the world population has HSV1

A cold sore is HSV1!!!

It is often contracted in childhood simply by a family member who has HSV kissing a child, or sharing drinks.

HSV can only be passed on to another person if you have an active outbreak.

Some people, like my aunt who has HSV1, only get one outbreak and never get anymore.

If you do have an active outbreak on your genitals, such as blisters (for example in the vagina it can feel like a fissure or a cut inside of you and make sex painful), refrain from gentil contact sex or wear a condom but know they are not 100%.

If you have an active outbreak on your mouth do not kiss anyone, or perform oral sex without a condom, remembering they are not 100%.

If you do have a STD, despite what protection you use, it is good to inform your partner beforehand. You'd be surprised too, many people don't care, or are just willing to use protection. Do be weary of people who fetishize people with STIs.....

Having a life long sti does not make you gross, it does not make you unlovable, it does not make you unable to find sexual partners!

[cyberglittter]

tokyo pride 2026

[bacteriumphage]

Pride worms!

[this-is-trans-joy]

My parents have been calling me "their oldest" for about 6 years now, and always correct people who try and gender me! They describe my gender to people as "its just who they are. Thats all that matters". And even to students as teachers! In a deep red us state! Me being known as i am is so important and it means a lot from them

This is trans joy!!!

[our-boyflux-experience]

Men's Mental Health Awareness Month

Before the month of June ends, I'd like to let all my fellow men out there know that you are seen. As a man with his own fair share of mental health issues and illnesses, I think it's important to be supportive of our fellow guys who may be carrying burdens that they feel they can't express. Whether you're cis or trans, queer or straight, allo or ace/aro: you are loved. You are loved, you are valid, you are wanted, you are important, your emotions are not a burden, you don't have to bottle things up all the time, you're allowed to cry, you're allowed to ask for help, you don't have to go through anything alone for the sake of looking "strong" or masculine.

If any non-men see this, please remind the men in your life that you appreciate them and that you're there for them, you never know if one of them needs to hear it. Much love and have a great day <3

[onerandomglitch]

Happy Pride and Men's Mental Health Awareness Month!

[workingclasshistory]

On this day, 17 June 1926 Eve’s Hangout, a New York underground queer and radical cafe run by Eve Adams, was raided by police. Adams was born Chawa Zloczower in Poland to a Jewish family in 1891. A lesbian bar, it was host to a number of meetings, poetry nights, and a safe haven for radicals in Greenwich village. The proprietor, Adams, cut a scandalous figure having open lesbian relationships and eschewing what at the time was traditional women's wear. She was a well known associate of anarchists and had made her living in the US through collecting subscriptions to anarchist and socialist papers. The cafe would be targetted by landlords and police and was eventually raided on June 17. Adams was arrested and many queer and radical texts were destroyed including Adams' own Lesbian Love. She would be found guilty for "obscenity" and deported. She then lived in France where she would continue to sell radical publications and fall in love with Jewish cabaret singer Hella Olstein. Adams and Olstein were both arrested in Nice in 1943 and sent to Auschwitz where they were murdered. This is one of hundreds of stories featured in our book, Be Gay, Do Crime: Everyday Acts of Queer Resistance and Rebellion, available with global shipping: https://shop.workingclasshistory.com/products/be-gay-do-crime-everyday-acts-of-queer-resistance-and-rebellion

[fluffyplushiesworld]

Happy Pride Month Tumblr ✨

[lordgolden]

oh god I got a picture of the moon you tumblr bitches are gonna LOVE

[lordgolden]

LOOK AT HER!!!! CRESCENT MOON DURING A BEAUTIFUL SUNSET!!!! SHE’S BISEXUAL!!!!!!

[colourpickedpride]

The Bisexual and Transgender pride flags colour picked from literally the most beautiful image of the moon ever

[thebutchmessiah]

More photos from the Dirt Dyke Dive, Leeds’ pop-up dyke bar @ Wharf Chambers, May 2026

[homoidiotic]

Trans activist Jamison Green's passport photos before and after HRT. Left he's age 32 (1980) Right age 41 (1989) after being on testosterone for one year (x)

(read his autobiography here for free)

[homoidiotic]

updated the link to his autobiography because it was broken! here's some more pictures of him (first is mid 90s, second 2013 and last 2024)

there's an interview with him from 2017 along with some information about his life and activism. and he was interviewed on a podcast here. he's not super well known but has been a really important trans activist for decades

[cock-holliday]

Sometimes wild attraction shit happens when you learn to separate masc/fem from man/woman. I’ve known queer women find the femininity in a man attractive. I’ve known gay men get so hot and bothered by the masculinity of a woman.

There was once a guy who was not really my type but then he did drag and was suddenly wildly attractive to me. And since I’m bisexual it doesn’t give me a crisis when someone is suddenly hot to me in an unconventional way. I used to think this was particularly a bi experience.

Then I’ve met plenty of gay men and lesbians who are also chill about that sort of thing. Sometimes life is like that “oops made out with a twink in Brighton who turned out to be a lesbian who thought I was a lesbian” and sometimes it’s like “hey, I’m not normally into men but this guy has got something hot going on.”

[whatmountains]

TRANS WOMEN: HERE'S SOME SHIT YOUR DOCTOR WONT TELL YOU ABOUT HRT

1. Progesterone: not for everyone, but for many people it may increase sex drive and WILL make your boobs bigger. Also effects mood in ways that many find positive (but some find negative). Most doctors won’t prescribe this to you unless you ask. Most trans girls I know swear by it.

2. Injectible estrogen: is more effective than pill or patch form. Get on it if you can bear needles bc you will see more effects more quickly.

3. Estradiol Cypionate: There is currently a shortage of injectible estradiol valerate. There is no shortage of estradiol cypionate. Functionally they do the same shit.

4. Bicalutamide: This is an anti-androgen that has almost none of the side-effects of spironolactone or finasteride. The girls I know who are on it are evangelical about it.

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@euryale-dreams

[joyeuse-noelle]

Are there HRT medications that don’t increase blood clot risk? I’m already at risk because of my blood pressure, and my doctor won’t prescribe HRT that increases clot risk while I’m on the medication - and I may never not be on the medication.

[euryale-dreams-deactivated20201]

Absolutely.

The concerns surrounding venous thromboembolic events as a side-effect of hormone replacement therapy can mostly be traced back to one particular study known as the Women’s Health Initiative. This study was an enormous undertaking which, unfortunately, demonstrated significant adverse effects of the hormone therapies studied. As a result of this the use of hormone replacement therapy in postmenopausal cis women was dramatically reduced as the medical community began to question whether or not the therapy caused more harm than good.

Naturally, trans women have been suffering from this fall-out ever since.

What physicians seem to fail to recognize is that the study examined a very specific hormone regimen which was, arguably, outmoded at the time the study was conducted: It examined the use of conjugated equine estrogen (Premarin) with or without the use of medroxyprogesterone acetate. Neither of these drugs is regularly used for the treatment of transgender women.

The estrogen most commonly used to treat transgender women nowadays is 17β-estradiol either in pill form or in the form of a sticky patch that you apply to your skin. Esters of estrogen (e.g. estradiol valerate) are also sometimes used either in a pill form or as an intramuscular injection.

Transdermal estradiol patches are the gold standard when it comes to treating women who are at high risk of a venous thromboembolic event. It simply does not increase the risk of developing a venous thromboembolism. The only thing you should keep in mind is that patches are not always well tolerated because of the lifestyle changes required to keep them from falling off and the fact that they tend to irritate the skin.

Fortunately, oral 17β-estradiol appears to be safe, regardless of the increased risk. At least one large study has shown that the use of oral estradiol in trans women is not associated with venous thromboembolic events. An individual woman’s risk would need to be substantial in order to contraindicate the use of oral estradiol.

For those who have significant risk of venous thromboembolism because they have had a previous thromboembolic event, because they are paralyzed, or because of some other factor it is good to know the relative risk between oral and transdermal estrogen. The latest research indicates that the use of transdermal estrogen lowers your risk of a thromboembolism to 80% of what your risk would be using oral estrogens.

It’s difficult to find hard numbers regarding the relative risk of venous thromboembolic events with regards to hypertension. The best I could find after an hour or so of searching was this study regarding VTE in lung cancer patients. Hypertension increased the risk by a factor of 1.8.

However, to put that into perspective being of African descent increases your relative risk for deep vein thrombosis by a factor of 1.3 when compared to Europeans. Europeans are, themselves, at increased risk when compared to Asians and Pacific Islanders by a considerable margin: a four-fold increase.

I should point out that being ‘male’ is also a risk factor for developing a thromboembolism and hormones are likely to be a contributing factor. Also, menopause is another serious risk factor. Given this information it is likely that the use of transdermal estradiol will lower your risk of thromboembolic events significantly.

As far as the anti-androgen is concerned: The primary use for spironolactone for cisgender people is as an antihypertensive.

Even if the risk of thromboembolism was truly significant with modern hormone replacement therapy it wouldn’t justify what your doctor is doing to you. The fact is that mortality in the transgender community from suicide–caused in part due to the lack of access to hormone therapy–is substantial. The quality of life lost when a trans woman is denied hormone therapy is substantial. The fact that your doctor does not appear to be taking this into consideration when they weigh the risk of thromboembolism against not receiving necessary medical care is deeply concerning.

I strongly recommend that you seek a doctor who is more sensitive to your medical needs as a transgender woman.

Edit: Fixed a minor, but embarrassing, error.

[whatmountains]

oh wow this is so helpful & good info

[blackthorn-and-iron-deactivated]

Everyone who cares about transfem people please reblog this

[thetolerantleft-deactivated2017]

this was really fucking helpful

[blkwlw]

I know a lot of trans women dont have acess to information like this and its very helpful.

[makingqueerhistory]

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