5 things you need to stop doing if you are struggling with infertility
5 things you need to stop doing if you are struggling with infertility
Stop feeling sorry for yourself
There’s a reason that people in poverty-level income situations live less than one year beyond retirement age, and it has nothing to do with money. The most important thing you can do during this time is make sure you get out and enjoy life.
Don’t worry about paying bills or maintaining your career – take care of you! Go see a friend who will listen to you talk about how you are doing. Spend time with family and friends who love you.
Put effort into your appearance by getting a massage, having hair done at home, buying new clothes, etc. Do things that feel good to you.
If you work outside the house, spend time planning fun activities for your kids so they know you’re happy and not worried about them. If you're already married, stop seeing other guys and be honest about what you want from a relationship.
Maybe you just need some time alone or maybe you want to meet someone else. What matters is whether you're investing your time and energy in yourself or wasting away sitting around waiting for something to happen.
Stop holding your head down
It is very common to feel embarrassed or depressed during this time in your life. Your feelings are completely normal, but keeping them inside will only make it harder to move forward.
You should never feel bad about telling someone you love them. But tell people that you trust them and want them to know how much you care.
Also, stop making excuses for why you can’t meet their needs. You may be trying to avoid pain or difficulty, but there is no gain without cost.
When we put up walls to protect others from hurt, they end up hurting us too. We need to be able to talk and share our problems, especially with those closest to us.
Stop playing the blame game. If something isn’t working, then change it. Don’t keep doing the same things over and over again and expect different results.
The best way to improve your situation is by learning from experience. The more experiences you have having children, the better you will get at it.
Stop holding your feelings inside
Even though you may be tempted to hold your emotions in, that isn’t helping you move forward. When you feel them, let yourself cry, scream, or just get it out of your system.
However, keep in mind that this is YOUR journey. If you are feeling something, letting go can help you process and move past it.
You will not necessarily have to fully “unfeel” things to progress. However, being able to cope with your emotions will make going through any more steps easier.
Letting your thoughts about what happened drain you will only make getting there harder.
Stop focusing on your problems
It’s impossible to feel like everything is going to be okay when you are struggling with infertility. When our worries seem endless, it can feel hard to keep hope alive.
However, doing too much thinking about how bad things are may actually make them worse.
Research suggests that people who worry needlessly often get sick more easily. If we focus on what we don’t have or what others take from us, we lose sight of what we do have – ourselves and each other.
When there is no solution, you must learn to appreciate what you already have. And when you understand what you already have, you will stop looking for what you don’t have.
You will experience peace of mind and happiness, which in turn will help you fight stress and disease. These qualities are essential for your health and wellness.
Appreciating what you have helps build confidence in the future, and improving your confidence levels makes you feel better. Feeling happier and healthier then you did before definitely improves your chances of getting pregnant.
Stop trying to prove others wrong
There’s a reason that people call you “crazy” when you are going through infertility – it is because everyone is too focused on how they feel about the situation, not what they can do about it.
Everyone feels like there should be something better for them than this, but no one wants to look at the reality of the situation.
You want to continue to try until your wife gets pregnant without any help? That’s fine! But don’t tell me you’re still working hard just so other people will think you’re more successful than them!
Don’t lie about the fact that you’ve had sex; only pretend that you haven’t.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself
There is no reason that you should feel badly about your situation. Yes, it might make you feel bad to know that others are going through what you are, but you shouldn’t let this affect your life.
You must keep positive in order to be a good parent. Don’t worry about negative people or things too much. It is their problem, not yours.
Your job as a parent is to be happy and put them first. If you have other children, make sure they experience all the fun times with their siblings and parents.
If you only have one child, try to enjoy him or her alone sometimes. Take out some books and games when he or she goes to school so you can spend time with friends and family.
Stop holding your head down
It’s pretty normal to feel depressed, lost, or confused at some points in this process. On top of that, you are also dealing with your own health and hormones which don’t help matters.
But it is crucial that you keep moving forward, even when you aren’t feeling so hot. Moving forward means trying new things, being honest with yourself about where you stand, and trusting that you will find joy in the small things you do.
You won’t enjoy these little pleasures as much if you spend all your time looking over your shoulder waiting for the worst to happen. But move forward you must, or you will stay stuck at the same place forever.
I know from experience that life-changing events can really throw us for a loop. My first marriage ended because of my infertility, and I didn’t realize how deep my feelings were for my husband until they were too late.
By then, he had moved on heavily and was very hard to convince to try again. I am happy to say that we were able to have another baby after many years together, but it was not easy.
Stop holding your feelings inside
It’s impossible to move forward with your health until you address your feelings about infertility. Whether you are already struggling or not, keeping your emotions locked up is doing you harm.
Your body has its own internal defense system that works hard to keep you healthy. When you hold things in, this system is unable to defend yourself against the emotional pain that comes from experiencing unrequited fertility treatments.
That means that certain hormones that help regulate mood remain elevated longer, leading to increased anxiety. More directly, by locking up your emotions, you are preventing something called deactivation--a process that helps you let go of emotions and focus on parenting.
Stop focusing on your problems
It’s easy to get stuck in a pattern of thinking about all the things that are going wrong for you.
This way you don’t focus on other things or people that matter to you, like finding a baby after infertility treatment.
You can make any situation worse by constantly thinking about what is bothering you and worrying about how life would be without it getting better.
When you start to worry, you begin to doubt yourself and feel less confident about parenting. This creates even more stress and anxiety out here as well as inside you.
It also can cause you to behave differently around parents and change your lifestyle so you spend less time with them and others which may be bad for your health.
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