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@wynter-wynter ?

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@thedudehesubs well my new dog, Lucky, does need a place to sleep..

Some days I just..

Being a dominant, it’s all par for the course that I like control and to a certain degree, responsibility, at all times.

Today I didn’t even want the responsibility of picking my own music on Spotify, so the radio is on, and someone else can worry about the music while I study.

I guess everyone needs a day off from the Domme-job!

#real life #female domme #study motivation #control #responsibility #day off #i still love kink #gentle female domination

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Dommes be like

Look at this precious creature. Such a beautiful, innocent, perfect creation. I just want to hold it and cuddle it and kiss it and pet it and love it. I shall protect it. It will know that in my arms no one will ever harm it.

*evil grin blossoms across her face*

That is to say, nobody but me.

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Subtle acts of service (29/07/18)

@thedudehesubs and I went to a party yesterday. I spent the entire drive down to his cursing the fact I’d put my umbrella in the boot of my car and it was raining, torrentially.

I’d spent a far bit of time blow-drying my hair straight earlier that day and I have the type of hair that will go curly at the sight of a raindrop. So I had resigned myself to having to dash to the boot, grab my case and run to his front door to get in and then do my hair again.

I wasn’t surprised to see him in my rear-view mirror as I parked up, he usually helps with my bags. What I wasn’t expecting was him to have an umbrella, open my door and keep me covered until I was in the flat.

It wasn’t flashy, it wasn’t showy, it wasn’t sexual. It showed consideration and concern. And that, ladies and gentlemen, is service.

#male submission #female domme #gentle female domination #gfd #domme #submission #serve #considerate #care

New corset for @eldudesubs to clean with his tongue

#me #female domme #male submission #gfd #leather #buckles #corset #black leather #mistress

Trying to explain

That an emergency shop late at night included a sparkly unicorn notebook to @eldudesubs and he justs gets it

help

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Men in uniform

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Thought of the day 24/07/18

Just a little thought about how attractive I find @eldudesubs (because he’s a pretty boy) but also how much I also just want to talk all day to him about anything and everything ❤️

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Perfect tag in the middle of a busy day lover x

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Boy all it takes is 5 minutes under ‘newest posts’ in the gfd tag to understand why femdoms are outnumbered by sub guys 10 to 1 in this community. Every other post is a guy asking for literally any femdom to hit them up and claim them, as if that’s not route one to exploitation and manipulation. I can understand when it’s inexperience to the workings of a bdsm community, but like, let me finish off this way:

BDSM relationships are built off mutual respect. Even ones that involve degradation and disrespect as an aspect of play. Confusing such aspects of play with the normality of a day to day relationship is what makes people feel used and objectified. Just because the act of femdom is empowering, doesn’t mean you’re not exploiting women and putting off women by sitting in tags and begging for one to claim you. It’s a fundamental misunderstanding of respect in bdsm.

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I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. RELATIONSHIPS DON’T START BECAUSE OF SOME HMU POST. THEY DON’T START BECAUSE OF DICK PICS. THEY DON’T START BECAUSE OF A REQUEST FOR NUDES. How can you expect to create a healthy, long lasting relationship without actually knowing the person you’re talking to? Tumblr messaging is rarely ever the place for these things to start.

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It’s not even just new posts. You look at any domme making a post about wanting to do x or y to “a guy”, and a vast majority of the reblogs are dudes adding “I’m a guy who is also into x. Please pick me!”.

It’s at the point where I rarely ever see a post reblogged without some random comment from a sub on it, trying to self insert into a girls fantasy about no one specific. Shits hella gross.

It seems like the thought process is “Wow. She made a post about wanting to do something to a guy. I AM A GUY WOW. I AM ALSO INTO X KINK. SHE MUST BE TALKING ABOUT ME.” Like, damn, dude. I get that you want attention. Begging for it and trying to make posts about you when they’re just general posts is so incredibly dumb and pointless. It just makes you look like a thirsty dude who doesn’t care about girls or their personalities. It seems like most of you only care about whatever sexual fantasy you want fulfilled, and if a girl somehow has that fantasy in mind as well, you instantly want attention from her.

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Aaaaaaaaall of this. If you’re a male sub reading this and you genuinely want a female dominant, I met my dominant, the love of my life by talking to her about religion, about politics, about niche bits of history we both loved. We talked for weeks before we discussed kink in any detail, over a month before we met, let alone played.

The thing is, even if you meet a Domme by just talking kink, maybe if you’re an attractive guy and you meet someone based off kink and kink alone, that’s all you’ll have. If that’s all you want, that’s fine.

But tonight I heard about my Dominant’s day, and told her about work, and we discussed cute dogs together, and how we’d walk our dog holding hands (Soppy cunts, I know). There wasn’t a single kink mention, and it would have been incongruous. And that, to me, is a far more wholesome dynamic across the spectrum.

The fact that tomorrow she’ll come over and I’ll worship her feet in silence till she tells me otherwise is by the by.

Because I met my dominant as a friend and an interesting person first, she is first and foremost my friend and interesting person to me. The fact she is my lover, my Dominant, my living Terror and my Queen is a little beside the point. She is my 7am bed head as well as my 10pm PVC bitch. I am her 4am koala talking to myself as well as her gagged emasculated slave. And that’s what (in my humble opinion) a good D/s relationship looks like.

So Tl;Dr treat dominants as people, not kink dispensers. Christ. You’ll get so much more out of the interaction.

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My boy is all of the articulate

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Any time

I would kiss my Dominant’s feet.

I consider it a genuine honour. I know that sounds like such a “I’m a worm” content but honestly, it is one of the most enjoyable things I am allowed to do.