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I wish you can hug me and say everything’s going to be okay

Girl we are fucked

Hi there we're a group of queer housemates. We're looking for a new roomie to share some of the rent. You'll live in the infinitely expanding labyrinth of madness that used to be the basement. Rent is $7,000 a month which we feel is very generous because of the square footage you would have (infinite).

hangsawoman

therapist: and what do we say when we feel like this?

me: no live organism can continue to exist sanely under conditions of absolute reality

therapist: no

catcatalpa

1920 hamlet is so cute🥹……

antiqueanimals

"Freak Antlers of Whitetail"

Lives of Game Animals, Volume 3. 1927. Written and illustrated by Ernest Thompson Seton.

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elfagito

every friend group has a corpse in it. if you think yours doesn't, YOU'RE the corpse.

decompose1

i dislike the weird jump to blame suicide victims for their suicides and call them selfish. suicide is very frequently in some way a social murder. i think instead of blaming someone who was in such a dark place that they saw no other way out we should maybe be blaming the people who threw gas on the fire, such as those with a lot of power to make that person's life that bad or those who abused them into it. is that really that unreasonable

lady-of-vitreous-sight

put simply, saying 'nods nods' is jsut very important for the progressive development of society.

woosh-floosh-art

We need to bring Kurimanju to America, I think he would love our cuisine

threedollarsdotcom

think of a girl. now think of another girl. now think of another girl. now another. thats not enough. more. more. more girls. no thats not enough. more girls

nerviswitch

World BDSM day seems like a good time to remind you:

If the idea of being cuddled and kissed and doted on after a scene makes you want to crawl out of your skin, that doesn't mean you don't need aftercare, it might just mean that what aftercare looks like for you is being left alone for a little while.

Aftercare isn't one-size-fits-all. Maybe you need a snack. Maybe you want to watch a youtube video. Maybe you just need to have a calm conversation to debrief about the scene you just had. Or maybe you do want to snuggle.

Do what works for you, because doing aftercare you hate because you think that's what it's supposed to look like or skipping any aftercare to avoid a particular kind isn't going to work out well for anyone in the long run.

Also, while I'm here:

check on your dominants. They need aftercare just as much as subs do but we so often see aftercare framed as "dom-comforts-sub" that folks forget about that.

While I'm at it, safewording isn't just for the sub either, and it doesn't make you less of a dom to use it. In fact:

Safewording when you need to makes you a good play partner.

Any reason you feel like safewording is a good enough reason.

You aren't boring or less fun to play with for knowing your limits or having a lot of them. The fun part happens inside the bounds, and knowing where those lines are can only help you have a better scene.

anomaloc4ris

avpdvoidspace

Having a traumatic childhood means you cannot talk even objectively about your basic foundational experiences without it being "venting", even if you're not actually venting. You just straight up have a huge chunk of your life you can't talk about, full stop, without it being trauma dumping.

And it not being socially acceptable to talk about your own childhood is super alienating. Sometimes people want to know why, and any answer you can give them is going to be off putting.

It's to the point I get irritated when something I said is framed as venting when I'm literally just talking about my life experiences, doing my best to keep emotion out of it.

savouryduck

when I was in high school, I overheard two older students talking about a friend of theirs.

One of them said something like, "it doesn't bother me that [Friend] was in residential mental health treatment, I just wish they wouldn't talk about it ALL the time".

The other replied, "Well, that was all of last year for them. So when they say 'when I was in treatment,' it's like when you say 'last year'."

I try to remember that any time someone says something that sounds Shocking to me. sometimes one person's scary special crisis is another person's last year.

wherethewildcatsare

If you want to be accepting of mental illness, you need to accept the fact that some people's everyday lives are going to be terrifying to you. That doesn't mean they don't get to talk about it. Stop forcing hurt, isolated people to become even MORE hurt and isolated because you can't fathom toughening up a bit.