How to heal?
1. Healing is being patient with yourself. It is going easy on yourself and not constantly questioning why you feel the way you do.
2. Healing is not giving in to every desire and urge. The urge to call them up. The desire to see their pictures. The urge to eat the whole jar of nutella.
3. Healing is being with yourself. It is acknowledging your thoughts and feelings and dealing with them rather than indulging in destructive coping mechanisms.
4. But healing is also knowing that sometimes you have to acknowledge the presence of a particular thought or feeling and then simply move on realizing that it’s a trap, it doesn’t exist, it’s not an actual problem or cause of worry but just something your insecurities and anxiety have inflated.
5. Healing is accepting that them being happy or not honestly has nothing on your life or how happy you can be. That because they chose to leave and never looked back, there is no correlation between your lives. Them being happy without you may hurt at first but in the long run it really has no relation to your life and is definitely not a restriction to you leading a happy life too. They are doing their thing, you can do yours.
6. Healing is not being rigid. Yes, you thought you would visit that place or watch that movie with him but now he is gone. Or you wanted to look a certain way or be a certain someone by the time you were 25. Let go of that idea. Embrace who you are now. Enjoy the beauty of that movie and place anyway. How fun is a predictable story or the spoilers of a book anyway? Enjoy the plot twists of your life. They do come with redemption.
7. Healing is being able to enjoy the little things again. It’s not being bored with every book you read or any TV show you watch or not noticing the grin on that child’s face dirty with chocolate ice cream. Healing is being mindful again.
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