6. RSD: The Truth About Success 2 -- Execution, Learning From Failure, Not Being A Lazy Slug Video Notes
There are many areas you will need to develop in your life.
Menial, repetitive, daily tasks that improve you 0.0001% per day, and that add up over time.
For every public victory you have, you have a private victory.
Study success: surround yourself with successful people.
Who you surround yourself with, makes you who you are.
Have a team who you can mastermind with and focus with. Strategically place yourself around the right people.
Surround yourself with people doing what it is you want to be doing.
Do whatever it takes to get around the right kinds of people.
Do whatever it takes to model success, and to learn from success.
It is insane that people do not read.
Millions of dollars of wisdom is contained in books.
People who have been through a life time of struggle and lessons, offer the very best pearls of what they have learned, and will sit down for one to two years with other writers to help them to write a book so that in a week you can learn what they learned.
When someone is writing something, they are coming to you from a place of high consciousness and offering to you their best.
Always have a larger vision for yourself.
Learn from watching failure.
Jim Collins (business writer)
Good to Great
Built to Last
Great by Choice
Businesses that succeed have a rational paranoia about failure.
Success is challenging to get, and fleeting once you have attained it.
NEVER take success for granted.
Success is earned, and re-earned.
The world is a dynamic place. The world is changing. If you’re not changing along with it, you’re probably being left behind.
Have a blue collar work eithic straight to the bone. Drop the sense of entitlement. Entitlement comes from doing the work and earning it.
Be humble. Go out and execute.
People who don’t want to work and contribute value are disgusting.
Giving into the biological inclination to minimize time and effort is disgusting.
Big signs of failure: people who did not have a rational paranoia about failure, and people who believe everything will be ok.
On one level, you want to have faith and you want to believe that everything happens for a reason, and that everything will turn out ok. On another level you need to have a paranoia of failure.
Anyone who has ever undertaken a big goal, requires a concerted effort and focus to make a little bit of progress everyday, had to have a lot of faith. You have to have faith that the things that seems bad are happening for a reason and that everything is going to turn out ok.
Have a lot of faith that everything is working out for the best, and that the obstacles along the way are there to teach you something.
Have faith that as long as you stick to the process and you really trust the process, everything will turn out for the best.
When your brain encounters frustrations and veers off track, keep bring it back to a place of faith, that the universe works in certain ways, there’s certain laws of cause and effect and that if your roll with that, it’s going to take you to a good place. If you hold that belief, it’s amazing what can happen.
However, the belief that everything will work out can be taken too far at times as well.
The belief has to be combined with taking action and a rational paranoia of failure.
You will fail if you do not take action.
Failure is the default, if you don’t have a little rational paranoia.
Failure is the default!!!
Most of your friends are probably failures, who have bullshit little lives that they rationalize.
Success is about focusing on what you want, not on what you don’t want.
Success is about punching through the wall, not at the wall.
People who are failures, perpetually focus on what they don’t want.
Success is a narrow road. Walk the line of success with a more focused set of behaviors, and constantly be course correcting.
Learn from where you messed up. Take the lesson, and course correct, over and over.
Every game the Lakers lost, they would always talk about the little lessons they got from the loss, and how they had the ultimate vision of the championship. Apply this to life.
Examine each day. Look at the processes that got results. Look at what didn’t go so well. Be introspective.
Consider how well you stuck to the processes each day that you know garner results.
Never beat yourself up for the results, but beat yourself up for the failure to: learn the processes, refine the processes, and stick to the processes that you know produce results.
Hone in what works and what doesn’t.
Look at your failures. Take the lesson. Internalize it. Carry it out with you the following day.
Drink green vegetable juice every day.
Book: The Ultramind Solution by Mark Hyman
When you eliminate processed foods from your diet, and take in a lot of greens, take omega 3’s, and eat lean and clean protein, your thinking is much clearer.
When your mind is even keeled and focused, you’re grounded and functioning much better.
Getting free dinners from guys is one of the dumbest things girls can do.
Nothing good in life ever comes from cheating or misrepresenting yourself.
*It stops the process of becoming a mature adult. If you actually became a mature adult, the rewards are so much more profound.
Most people are severely handicapped by laziness and wanting free handouts.
Work hard and get what you deserve from doing the work.
Because many women get accustomed to taking the freebies and handouts that are offered to them, they become accustomed to not doing the work required to earn their own things in life, and consequently lose the ability over time to focus their minds in ways required of them to get anything done in life.
They take the freebies from the stable guys, and sleep with the fun guys aka douches. Then they hit their 30s, thinking they’ll be in their 20s forever. The fun guys don’t want them as much any more, so they go for young guys in their early 20s, who only want them because their easy. They keeps getting passed around, but eventually goes to marry the stable guy, with whom they’re bored and dream of still being with the fun guy.
The right way to take years off your appearance: diet and exercise.
Book: Younger You by Eric Braverman.
Basic premise: internal plastic surgery.
Laziness ruins peoples lives.
Human beings within them have the desire to minimize time and energy spent, and to maximize the value they get in return.
Once you do start working hard regularly, and you find the joy in what you’re doing, you realize that it’s not that hard to do. It’s actually pretty easy.
The hardest part in beating laziness is the initial shift in gears. Once you get over the initial bump in the road of getting started, and get your routine down, it’s not that hard. It’s the initial shell-shock of not being used to the change.
Laziness ruins people’s lives. Once the laziness kicks in, people will do whatever it takes and tell whatever lies to themselves they need in order to remain lazy.
The right way to get ahead is work smart and strategically, and work very hard.
The price of laziness and the reason they don’t get ahead is because they have to lie to themselves to preserve their behavior.
*Laziness is fundamentally an addiction. It is an addiction to a chilled out state of being, where you don’t have to think too hard.
*Reticular Activation System and our ability to rationalize behavior is so pervasive and so powerful, that the brain will rationalize almost anything that it thinks is in its best interest.
*If a person gets to the point where they have become addicted to laziness, what typically is going to happen is their RAS is going to activate in such a way where they’re going to justify the laziness.
*What is really scary about this is that people rationalize laziness with a set of lies to themselves, but then what happens is in order to build on a foundation based on lies, they tell more and more lies, and it becomes a web.
Once a person has gotten addicted to the emotion of laziness, the emotion has entered into their body and it wants to self-perpetuate.
Emotions are addictive. For example: a pain body.
Once a person gets into the emotion of laziness and they desperately want to sustain it, they will typically not come out if it, and they actually become lost.
They fall too far off the path as a result of too much rationalization and too much lying to themselves about what they’re doing and why they’re doing what they’re doing.
The only way that they can come back is if they’re forced out of it. When it is too painful to preserve the laziness and the lies, that they have to come out of it.
The scariest thing about being lazy, is that it literally makes people go crazy.
Hard work brings you back to reality again and again.
When you take on projects, you are confronted with reality, because in order to make them happen and in order to succeed, you have to operate from the most objective place possible.
When you take action, you’re forced to see how reality is.
A lazy person has the ability of creating lies upon lies in their head, and they lose their way.
A person who is not lazy is continually being brought back to reality again and again.
By continually being brought back to reality again and again, they’re more clear thinking.
They're humbled by reality.
People that get success fast are typically very arrogant about it and they think they can repeat that success again and again.
People who gain success slowly are very confident in their ability to gain success again and again.
People who are very successful and had to work very hard to be, have a humble appreciation of the challenge of getting success.
Successful people are typically a combination of really confident and really humble.
They understand that success is hard, and fleeting once you have achieved it.
They understand the success needs to be earned and re-earned everyday.
By walking the journey, you keep falling off and coming back.
Having purpose brings you back to reality.
Diamonds are hard because they’ve had pressure put on them.
By breaking yourself down, and putting yourself into more difficult situations, you can make progress.
You can accomplish almost anything with long term progress and patience.
Some people are soft. Their emotions and thoughts are all over the place, and they are easily manipulated and swayed. This is not necessarily a genetic problem in their brain, but rather they’ve just been lazy for a long time, not challenged themselves, and not consumed good information.
To go from being soft to being hard:
-Find something you like in life to step up in.
-Keep learning from your mistakes.
-Take in good information.
-Be around good influences.
-Be an avid reader.
-When you run into problems and challenges, look for solutions.
-Saturate yourself with good information.
-Re-addict yourself to uplifting types of information, that is coming from a higher place of mental focus.
-Learn from writers, the greats in various fields, and people who are inspired and motivated.
If you don’t push yourself mentally, and read, and challenge yourself, and fill your mind with good information, you will turn stupid.
Once you have gone off the edge and become addicted to laziness, you’re gone.
People who have gone too far off the path have essentially lost their brain’s ability to work.
Downward spirals are a self-perpetuating cycle of patheticness.
In upward spirals you live your life in such a way to support you in your purpose.
Book: Nelson Mandela’s autobiography.
Read good books.
When you read good books you: evolve, become calm, get knowledge and perspective on the world, see how great successful people handle different scenarios.
Reading helps you better to see the bigger picture in life, and develop a better vision.
As you evolve and become a better person, you are also able to befriend better people.
Once you start to attract better people into your life, your standards evolve and become higher as well.
Success is a self-sustaining thing.
Failure is a self-sustaining thing.
Advice for a fuck-up/ loser/ failure: Claw your way out.
A person who’s a failure, to get out of that pattern is going to have to be fully committed to the death. Moving forward one little increment at a time. The people who do this become successful.
When bad things happen along the way on your personal development journey, suck it up. Those things are putting the evolutionary pressure on you needed for you to evolve.
A person who is on their purpose and on their path in life interprets bad things happening to them as happening for a reason, and uses these experiences for learning and growth, and to help him along the path.
Any bad thing that ever happens to you, use it to learn.
People who do not have a larger purpose in life interpret bad things and painful situations happening to them from a victim mindset.
Every second you spend in victim mentality, is a wasted moment of your life.
Sometimes life and situations aren’t fair, but if you keep working hard things will get better.
Life inherently has some level of pain in it.
Accept that the negative aspects of your life are what they are, and work your way out.
Full self-responsibility.
The real happiness in life is who you become as a person. It’s the values you embody and the pride that comes from that, and your rational ability to think and experience a clear state of mind. And to experience real happiness, not the delusional happiness of sustaining an addiction.
Success is a light at the end of a tunnel, and to be successful you have to walk a narrow road and have a more focused set of behaviors than most people.
Video link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JRVNQonYdNU
