the validation station

Welcome! This is a safe place for fictionkin, otherkin, therian, and systems! We want to make this a place filled with positivity- if you're feelin' down, have any questions, or are just looking to find someone or vent, feel free to shoot us a message!! Check out our navigation if you're lookin' for anything in particular!

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be careful!!

hey guys! there’s a blog that recently started up called @/all-kin-hate and i just wanted you all to be careful and to know just in case! block if needed, and certainly stay safe!

we’re here for you all if anything happens!

~ mod moss

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Heya, could I possibly get some positivity for a Russell (from end roll) who feels awful for what he did but doesn't miss anyone, and keeps getting memories of screaming apologies at the tops of his lungs, covered in viscera. I've also been having issues with dissociation and panic attacks lately and wish I could just...switch my emotions off.. like I did when I was Russell... I try to make myself feel comfy by looking at stuff from my source but it's all so gloomy... - Russell

hey russell!

being out of a certain timeline can definitely bring on a lot of guilt over past actions, especially when you’ve got a new perspective now. it’s more than alright not to miss people- i know that a lot of the times, people in the fictionkin community can be solely oriented on finding canonmates that they miss, and it can feel kind of invalidating when that’s just not you.

those memories can be really, really rough- i think the best way to handle those feelings of guilt and those recurring memories would be to write out an apology. write about what you’ve done, what you feel guilty about, what you’d change- and post it somewhere. you don’t have to put it on tumblr or any sort of social media, you can even use a disappearing site like this one where you can just write it all out and let it disappear. it’s really cleansing and can feel really freeing when you have bad memories and guilt weighing you down.

being able to disconnect from your emotions can seem like and feel like a fantastic solution- trust me, i sure as heck want to all the time- but it’s not the best way to handle what’s really going on. it’s easier, yes- and i definitely get missing that ability- but it’s really  important to try to get down to the source of what’s bothering you.

it sounds cheesy, but being really introspective so you can try to get to the root of what’s actually going on can really improve your life.

as far as dissociating goes, i’d really recommend trying to find something that grounds you- an object that you can hold in your hand and feel that you can focus on when you start to disassociate. pebbles, pendants, and pieces of cloth work wonders for that!! wishing you the best in everything,

-mod mason

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can i get some positivity for dusttale sans? (it's an au of undertale in case you didn't know) been feelin' really down recently.

 heya there, sans!

firstly, this took two months-ish to answer, and i’m so so sorry about that! i know we keep saying that we’ll be on top of answering asks and stuff, and then something always comes up, and i’m really, really sorry about how long this took to get back to you.

but, sans- your life has been rough, and you’ve been trying to follow your instincts and do what you think is right for so long, trying to make sure that everyone you love and care about is safe. things can get out of hand sometimes when you’re trying to do the right thing. you’ve made some mistakes, but you’ve always tried to protect those you care about, even if you went about it kind of wrong.

life can be hard, and trying to make the right choice in a bad situation can be awfully tough, but you’ve done your best, which is what I think really matters.

oodles of love and support going your way!

-mod mason

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update

hey, guys!

i’m so, so sorry that we haven’t been looking at applications or answering the rest of the asks in our inbox lately.

personally, i’ve been having some severe health issues and haven’t had the time between trying to take care of myself and school to do any blog or network things, and i’m so so sorry about that!

however, we aren’t looking for new mods to join us, i’m sorry. we’ve talked about this before, and at this point, mod moss and i want to keep this blog between the two of us to avoid confrontation and a bunch of other personal reasons.

thank you guys for your patience and support! i’m gonna answer applications and stuff tonight, as our first priority, and then start answering asks.

-mod mason

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Positivity for a prince gumball who feels really really bad about hurting Marshall lee

hey there, prince gumball!

firstly, i’m proud of you for admitting that you hurt them. that’s a really important thing, and it takes a lot of guts to do. i’m not sure specifically what happened in your timeline, but i think that if you apologize to marshall lee, you can hopefully work things out with them.

how to adjust if you’ve wronged someone can be very hard and confusing, but the most important thing is to talk it through with whoever you’ve hurt. hopefully, they’ll forgive you and you can continue to be their friend and work through whatever’s going on. i have faith in you! i really, really hope that you can work things out, and if you can’t make things work with your marshall lee, i can confidently say that you’ll have people who will still support you and love you.

as long as you’ve learned from your mistakes and are moving past them, that’s all that really matters, i’d say.

good luck, and best of wishes!

-mod mason

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severunavailable mentioned you in a post

Direct@ you-kin-do-it Can I have the

most definitely! for those of you who’ve already looked at our network information pages, go ahead and apply with this link!

https://bitty2.typeform.com/to/uQaTVL

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cineboy replied to your post “mod update- network”

i never got a message... ouch

if you never got a message, then you might have given us the wrong skype information, or we’re waiting on a confirmation for kin differences! feel free to send us an ask and we can talk about that privately.

-mod mason

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Heyoo, could i get some positivity for a Len Kagamine please? My anxiety has been Really bad lately and would love some positive affirmation,, thank you so much!! 💛

hey, len!

i definitely understand anxiety, it can be a really rough thing to try and deal with! 

you’re so strong for having dealt with your anxiety for so long, even if it can get in the way of what you’d like to do sometimes! you can do this, len! keep your hopes up, we believe in you.

-mod mason

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mod update- network

hello, everyone!

quick update about the network!

firstly, i’m so sorry for taking so long to get back to some of you who applied to the network- i said it’d be about three days, but because of finals it’s turned into about five :’c

that being said! those of you who have applied to the network, please make sure to check your skype for a message from someone with the username peaches (that’s me!) to add you into the group chat! thank you all so, so much for your patience!

if you haven’t yet, but would like to apply for the network, please take a gander over at the network page here and check out all the links ! thank you guys so, so much- we can’t wait to get to know you all!

-mod mason

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May I get some positivity for a Carl Grimes who's confused and scared about his mental state? Thank you

hey there carl! mod moss and i had no idea how to answer this, seeing as that we’re very very unfamiliar with the walking dead, so we ended up asking our good friend to help out answering this ask. from the little bit that she told us about you, we’re very, very proud of you and are here if you need anything.

Carl Grimes, you by far are one of the bravest members of your group. 

You had to go through so much shit, but you pull yourself up every time. Being a kid in the apocalypse is tough enough, but losing, and thinking you’ve lost, family is super hard to deal with. Even your dad couldn’t handle it for a period, and who was the one who took care of him? You, all by yourself. 

If you weren’t confused and starting to break, that’s almost inhuman. Even Darryl had more of a breakdown at one point then you ever had. Just keep your head above water as best you can, and look forward to the people that you love, and love you. So many people are so inspired by you, including your dad. We all support you, and believe in you. 

I believe in you… You’re awesome!-Alex

we believe in you! wishing you all the best,

-mod mason

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Can I have some positivity for Tim Wright (Masky) from Marble Hornets? I found my friends in this life, and I'm honestly really fucked up about losing them again like in our canon. My friends won't die again... right?

hey there, tim! i’m so sorry this answer is so late, neither mod is very familiar with marble hornets, so we ended up enlisting a friend to help out. even if i’m personally not super familiar your source material, i can assure you that what happened in your timeline won’t repeat itself again.

Hi, Tim! I can promise you're not gonna lose them again. You're incredibly brave for making it through that stuff back then, and I'm glad you've found them again. There's nothing following you or haunting you or anything like that anymore. They won't die! Your friends are completely safe now.

-Kendall (I’m just helping for this!)

wishing you all the best,

-mod mason

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justaconfusedlittlepotato replied to your post “you-kin-do-it network !”

Ah, this would be so cool to join, but I don't have a skype, and I don't have access to Rabb.it either ;n;

oh no,, i’m very sorry to hear that! if you’d like to make a skype, you’re more than welcome to- the group is all messaging at this point, if calls would make you uncomfy- but if not, you’re more than welcome to join in on any events that you’d be able to! we’ll post links to what we’re doing and such when that comes up. 

-mod mason

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stardust-sweater replied to your post “you-kin-do-it network !”

Could you guys also make a Discord for it? I'm not very comfortable with using Skype

I’m sorry, but neither mod is very familiar with/would want to run a network through discord, i’m very sorry! you’d still be more than welcome to join in on event nights and such if you’d like- but the network chat itself will be just on skype!

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you-kin-do-it network !

hello, all! here’s the big official network post!! exciting!

the mods here at you-kin-do-it have been so happy with all the love and support in the kin community (the kinmunity, if you will!) and wanted to make a network where people can make more kinfriends, meet people from their timelines if possible, and vent if they need to. anyone between thirteen and twenty-five are welcome to join!

more details under the cut

purpose of the network: to make friends in the kin community, and have a positive, safe place for people to mingle!

who’s able to apply: anyone who is fictionkin/otherkin! therian/otherhearted people are more than welcome as well.

what we’ll do: we’ll have three separate skype chats! one for just chatting- the general chat, one for planning events- the event chat, and one for venting- the vent chat! rules and specifics for each chat will be adressed when people are added to the network!

events we’ll have: hopefully we’ll have a movie night/rabb.it hosted by one of the mods each month, where we just watch movies together and chat! online games, get-to-know-you games, all that fun stuff! we’ll be more than open to suggestions for events, as well!

general rules: if you have a problem with someone in the network, please tell one of the mods. do not say anything in the group chat- we will handle it in a way that’s respectful to everyone involved. no matter your believes, do not invalidate anyone in the group chat, and do not start fights! if you’d like to debate an opinion or something, please keep that private between those who are involved. we want this to be a safe place!

ok, that was a lot. to apply: check out the kin page to make sure you don’t share kintypes on that list, and then fill out this application form!

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Hello! I an very confused. My friend is saying I am a system because I am glitch kin. I don't know what a system is and my friend can't explain either. Could I please get some help?

hello there! first of all, i’m so sorry this took so long to answer, oh dear.

i very much think that your friend is mistaken, and might not know what a system really is. here’s a link to the psychology today definition of DID- something that causes systems- i can give you a brief explanation too!

a system is when, simply put, there are multiple personalities/people in one body. there are completely separate entities in one person’s body- being glitchkin doesn’t affect if you’re a system or not.

 i’m sorry i can’t explain this much better right now, aa! i hope this helps though ! if you have any more specific questions, we’ll certainly be here to help! if you’re not sure specifically what a system is, i think that googling “diisociative identity disorder” and “what is a system” or something like that is more helpful and accurate than we can be- we’re nowhere near professionals! hopefully you can get this all settled. 

-mod mason

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can i get a positivity thing for a black dragon who can't go to the caves and forests because they don't really live in that area? (in the city, we may have trees but not enough)

hi there! i just answered an ask along the same lines and i feel that the same applies to you, so i hope that you don’t mind me pasting it here!

hey there anon! im so so sorry that the situation is like that, but i definitely get the longing to go into a forest too for different reasons but i still dont have access. feeling homesick is a horrible feeling, but im sure that there are things you could do to make you feel more at home! i know that there are blogs that post self care for kintypes, some post items, others post playlists- theres a lot of stuff you could look into!i personally recommend mynoise.net! there are several different natural sounds that you can play (like a running stream, birds chirping, i believe there was a forest walk one?) to help you feel more at ease and at home! also if you’re able, you can get things that make your room at home feel more like your home as your kintype! decor or blankets or things that make you feel at ease can all help!i really hope the best for you and i hope that soon you can go to the woods! best of wishes!

~Mod Moss

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Can I get some positivity for a wolf who can't go into the forest because I love in a druggy/crime ridden area, and the woods are dangerous? Even tho the woods call and cry to me I can't go in... all I want is to feel at home again...

hey there anon! im so so sorry that the situation is like that, but i definitely get the longing to go into a forest too for different reasons but i still dont have access. feeling homesick is a horrible feeling, but im sure that there are things you could do to make you feel more at home! i know that there are blogs that post self care for kintypes, some post items, others post playlists- theres a lot of stuff you could look into!i personally recommend mynoise.net! there are several different natural sounds that you can play (like a running stream, birds chirping, i believe there was a forest walk one?) to help you feel more at ease and at home! also if you’re able, you can get things that make your room at home feel more like your home as a wolf! decor or blankets or things that make you feel at ease can all help!i really hope the best for you and i hope that soon you can go to the woods! best of wishes!

~Mod Moss