you are dearly loved

a place for selfshippers and fictos who have heard all too many times how unlovable they are. rest. your f/os love you so much my friends.

[yumehealingtime]

Welcome. Take a small break here. 💙

This is a blog run by @jpeg-indulgence that focuses on selfshippers and fictos who are victims of emotional/verbal abuse. Please note that I am not trying to be a therapist or any kind of expert, I am only here to give comfort as someone who has experienced this in the past. PLEASE READ THE DNI AT THE BOTTOM BEFORE FOLLOWING.

Please, enjoy your time and feel right at home. 💙🫶 Various rules and explanations under cut.

Here are the dos and donts of the ask box

DO

🤍 Talk about hurtful things people said to you in the past and if you'd like, how it affected you, so I can send a response of how that would make your f/o feel (please make sure you name your f/o AND their source!)

🩵 Use anon if you feel better doing so. It is completely fine and even encouraged if you feel nervous about interacting here 🫶

🤍 Ask for specific reassurance about something said to you that you feel insecure about (example, if someone told you that you were too talkative, and made you insecure about it, send an ask and I'll tell you how your f/o does not believe that in the SLIGHTEST)

🩵 Send your own imagines and reassurances for others to read via asks

🤍 Talk openly about how your f/o helped you heal from your trauma

DON'T

🤍 Vaguepost about others in the community

🩵 Compare trauma

🤍 Get into infights with other anons

🩵 Use this blog as a tool for hurting others inadvertently. If I find out you used my posts as a way of getting back at someone, I will block you.

Now, here's what you can expect here

-Imagines and posts specifically catered to victims of cruel words that made you doubt how lovable you truly are

-Reblog games and positivity projects

-Asks and requests

-Occasional letter writing

Letter requests are currently: CLOSED

DNI

PROSHIPPERS, DARKSHIPPERS, AND ANY VARIATION.

As I am a ficto who is deeply in love with Vergil from Devil May Cry, I'd like to ask that doubles kindly dni. You are still very deserving of love, though. 🫶💙

People who have f/os that are rapists, pedophiles, or anything similar.

Please note that there are some characters that some of my good friends have as f/os, so certain asks I may not respond to for their comfort. Again, you are still very loved, whether or not I respond. 🫶

Please enjoy it here! 🩵🤍

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Your f/o never guilts you for or mocks your interests. Even if they don't "get' it, the fact that it makes you happy makes them willing to listen for ages.

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some words from your f/o 💙

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post I just saw got me thinking about this

Reblog if your f/o has saved your life

feel free to share how in the tags if you feel comfortable doing so

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post I just saw got me thinking about this

Reblog if your f/o has saved your life

feel free to share how in the tags if you feel comfortable doing so

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f/o that sees you trying to hide your sadness and lets you know that you're safe. You don't have to pretend to be okay for them. Their love for you is not based on only your best moments. You are not evil for feeling.

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Your f/o purposefully making your home as nice as possible for your return. They know about the days where you were scared to go home, and so long as they're by your side, they'll make sure you never experience that fear again.

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Your f/o never shames you for not "accomplishing more". They know that sometimes the littlest victories are the most meaningful ones.

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Your f/o would never ever want to, or even stomach the thought of upsetting or hurting you, especially not on purpose. Rude insults, making you feel bad, shaming you, anything else? No. Never. Never ever. They want you to feel loved, safe, happy with them.

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If your f/o caught you apologizing over nothing, they'd remind you that you've never given them anything to be sorry for. Meeting you has been the greatest gift of their life.

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With this new blog, I feel the need to lay my soul bare here. Because. Man.

This is me talking about Ted, and just how much he's truly done for me as an f/o and character. People will often act like fiction can't affect a person's life but I think my life would be so different without him and this haunting short story.

Back before I f/o'd him, I was in a relationship I wasn't happy in and my mental health was shit. The relationship wasn't toxic or anything, just... Incompatible. But I stayed thinking that I couldn't do better, worrying that I couldn't go back to being just friends with this guy, and this whole concept of sunk cost fallacy. Not only that but I was living with a family member who acted like I was only around to keep as a trophy. It was awful. Hell.

The guy I was with, he introduced me to "I Have No Mouth and I Must Scream." And at first, I literally dgaf about it. I just thought that concept would be cool for an rp (which is why he showed it to me). But that was also cause I only knew the game.

Years later, an animatic came out for the radio drama. I watched it and was *amazed*. It was so gut wrenching. And you know who featured in it? Ted. It made me go back and read the actual short story, then I followed up with the radio drama. And Jesus fuck.

I didn't count it as love at first. I kept calling Ted a "comfort character." Because he was; he brought me so much comfort. Reading that short story, getting to actually see into his mind and see his thoughts. It was as if someone looked into *my* mind and wrote out what I constantly thought about. Paranoia is such an awful thing to deal with. It's literally ruined parts of my life. And I've never seen it portrayed the same way Harlan Ellison portrays Ted.

That's what made me fall in love with him. I found someone who understood. That also dealt with the same issues I was going through at the time, and it encouraged me to get better and seek professional help again. He gave me comfort when I moved out of that family member's house and into my current living space.

I started tentatively writing a self insert just so I could better explore myself through the lens of the story. I wrote her in love with Ted (again, still in denial this was a selfship thing). I would ramble about him to anyone who'd listen, and even came up with a whole first date for us under the guise of "Well if I ever got a chance to sit and talk to him." It wasn't until I got the courage to write a short fanfic about him and I that it switched from feeling comforted by him to loving him.

Then, I learned about selfship on Tumblr, and I dove right in with him in mind. I indulged in the idea of building an actual story around him and my insert's relationship. I put so much care into it, for months, that I stopped participating in my irl relationship. And when I finally noticed what I was doing after a few months, I broke it off. Because I realized I didn't *have* to be miserable dating someone I didn't love romantically anymore. That I could do better, even if better was a fictional guy.

This is all to say, Ted's someone who means so much to me. And it hurts the most to know how demonized he is in the fandom, all due to his own mental issues. It almost feels like, insulting him is insulting me, as we share issues? I had to leave it, block mutuals, and block the tag. Sucks, but it had to be done. Especially once other Ted doubles started making me feel like I was competing 😭 (that's what taught me what nonsharing was lol. I hope they're doing well and having fun, but damn I do not wanna be involved).

I don't know. For anyone out there, if there's a character who gives you as much comfort as Ted gives me, don't be ashamed of it. That sort of love can change your life around whether people wanna accept it or not. He changed mine, and I'm better for it.

Cold Days ftw bro LOL.

- @dreamspace24

This was a very beautiful read 🩵 I'm so sorry about what you went through with both your relationship and family members, but I'm so glad that due to Ted, you realized that it can be better. I think that it's very easy to get caught up in the "I'm SUPPOSED to do this with my life" and sometimes all it takes is the right character to remind you that you're allowed to do what makes you happy.

That last part is so true. "Can change your life around whether people wanna accept it or not" ough, so unbelievably accurate.

Ted loves you very much, and he wants you to know that you've made him feel so safe and at home in your relationship. He's never felt this comforted. He hopes he can help you feel the same. 🩵

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Your f/o would NEVER interpret what you say in an awful light. You say something too dry? They know there's plenty of feeling behind it. You say something very emotionally? They know just how much it means to you. You answer too quickly, or accidentally interrupt, or struggle to decide on something? They understand. They're happy that you just feel comfortable being yourself around them.

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Your f/o stared in shock as you told them what they'd said to you before. You? Something like that?

They slowly take your face in their hands as they tell you plainly. The person in front of them isn't anything they'd been told they were before. Those horrible words were nothing more than a reflection of the person speaking them.

The person in front of them was their partner. The one who made them laugh. Made them feel safe. Made them feel like they were free to be themselves. Made them truly happy.

And the idea that you would ever think that you were anything less just because someone decided to take out their anger on you?

It makes them feel sick. Not their beloved. Not you.