Two German universities conducted research that showed social media causes us to feel sadness, loneliness, and jealousy.
The study, by Humboldt University and Darmstadtâs Technical University involving 600 people, examined the links between Facebook use and feelings of sadness and jealousy.
According to the researchers, people try to cope envy by giving the appearance that their life is perfect, often causing more feelings of inadequacy and sadness in themselves and others. And the downward spiral grows.
Weâve all done thisâpost a picture of the one kid who is wearing clothes and smiling without spaghetti smeared on her face, while strategically cropping out the other two that are, well, over there. As one mom told us, sheâs a âstrategic angler.â
So, does Facebook = sadness? Not at all. Whatâs the difference then between feeling happy vs. sad?
When we see the real life of friends and family, we can breathe a deep sigh of relief because weâre all in this together.
Your kids destroyed the playroom again? Mine too!
Your guest room is still unpainted after 9 months of renovations? Mine too!
Youâve got a junk drawer with soy sauce packets that are more than a year old? Who doesn't?!Â
What if, instead of hiding the messy parts of life, we celebrated them? And what if celebrating them actually helped our friends? What if sharing our real home made it a little easier to ask for a helping hand without feeling ashamed that we canât do it all?
What do you really love about your home?Â
February is the month of love and we want to challenge you to show the real you, your real home. What is that you really love about your home? Maybe itâs that cozy chair in the corner that really doesnât match anything, but your kids LOVE crawling up and snuggling with you on. Maybe itâs the bath crayon art left over in the tub after bath time, maybe itâs the dirty dishes in the sink - the aftermath of having friends over for dinner. The thing is, the âmessyâ parts are often a sign of you, just living your life.Â
So, this Valentineâs Day we want to encourage you to really love your home, the good, the bad and the sometimes chaotic. Because, at the end of the day, it is true what they say - what makes a house a home is love.Â