I want to explain why I may as well have stayed where I was since I got back. This letter is for your eyes alone.
We both know that our lives have rarely if ever been even with one another. In the beginning you were the outcast and I was the golden child, and that started changing when we both signed on with the First. You gradually got better. I got worse. It hasn’t stopped.
I don’t write that because I’m jealous. I hope you understand that. I am really, genuinely happy for you. You’ve come further than I could have imagined and I’m proud beyond words to be your sister, if you even still consider me as such. I wouldn’t blame you if you didn’t, and not just because I’ve never been around like I should’ve been. Should be, I guess.
Maybe you don’t care to read it, but I need someone to tell. I was glad to go, when I did. Life in the First wasn’t like I’d thought it would be, and I never knew how to reconcile with anything that happened under that banner. Things had been easy up until that point—anything I wanted I had or knew how to get, and if I did everything right I was rewarded appropriately. I had to learn as I went that it doesn’t always work out that way. Not that I never fucked up. Everyone knows I fucked up. A lot.
In some ways I’m still stuck on that, years later. That was the life I wanted. I didn’t have any sort of backup plan because I never imagined needing one. But I wasted it by being a child in a woman’s place and trying to apply beliefs that simply did not work in spite of my stubborn idealizations. So, yeah, when I knew it was over, it came as something of a relief, if only because I was too weak to live with the laundry list of poor decisions I’d made.
Then I came back. My first plan was to get away again. Nobody should come back from where I was and I had no business opening up old wounds. But again my weakness got the better of me—Valder caught wind of my return, and…our long-suffered love came to fruition. I should have turned away from that and gone back, but I couldn’t. I wanted it too much. So I told myself Kormir pulled me up for a reason, that I was back to serve some kind of divine purpose, and using that as justification I tangled my life up with Calontir’s as well.
And then you. When I started this second segment of my life I said I was going to be a better sister to you, but that hasn’t happened. I don’t need to write that. I’ve always been entirely too self-interested. I’ve rarely looked beyond the scope of my own nose. I’m sorry, Zarek. You seem like you’re doing just fine without me, though if I’ve caused you any injury, I’ll hope you can accept my apology and understand if you can’t. I guess it’s fortunate that you don’t really need me anymore. I’m glad for that. I don’t want the power to inflict more pain on you.
Things went well at first. I had stability—a family of my own, enough time for myself, and a job that wasn’t too demanding. I’ve come to realize that I was and have probably always been what kept me from being happy. I got restless. I’ve been restless since the First. I got restless and left everything, signed on with another flag, and put countries between myself and the people I love. It was wonderful to begin with. I felt like I was finally in the right place. But now I’m feeling that distance, and I don’t know how to close it anymore.
When I realized how I’ve isolated myself the feeling that maybe everyone was better off without me set in. I quit seeing and hearing from anyone I know and it reinforced that belief. Not even Tavares writes me anymore, and why should he? Rationally I know that it’s my responsibility to reach out when I’m lonely, but emotions are infamously irrational.
I live with a constant ache. It never goes away, even when I sleep. It’s so strong and it’s been with me so long that I don’t know how much more of it I can really stand. I stay drunk these days—which is really the latest summary of why I don’t come around anymore—and I’ve been looking around for something stronger than alcohol to medicate myself. That I might end up overdosed in a rented room seems like a fitting end for the parade of stupidity my life has been. I think about that too, but not that often. I won’t be surprised if it gets more frequent.
This letter will probably read like a selfish sob story. I don’t have the talent, the guile, or the energy to change that. Maybe you’ll know it for what it is.
I love you. I hope you’re well. Give my love to the family. Don’t forget.