Thought Chronicles

Saintly Queen Zene Earthly Nonchalance

[yourbigsisnissi]

What do you think the difference between real love, infatuation or attachment is? I am reminiscing about my most recent relationship and I highly highly doubt I was in love and for some reason I keep thinking it was just intense infatuation and bc I had issues of my own I attached myself so hard to the relationship I had no idea who I was outside of the relationship. I’m way past it now but I’d like clarity so I can move forward into new romantic relationships for the right reasons, such as love

I believe that love grows as a relationship grows. Infatuation is short, intense, irrational. Love is peaceful, long lasting, it makes sense. Infatuation is unstable, love is a foundation to build off of.

[yourbigsisnissi]

Does it mean you’re officially with someone if y’all have been talking for over a year and have said I love you but haven’t asked each other out? Does the rules of a relationship still apply?

You’re not in a committed relationship unless you both enter into a committed relationship together. If you’re not in a committed relationship, you’re just two friends. If you have expectations like you’re in a committed relationship, you’re wrong. And if you want a relationship, then be in a relationship. Idk why you would apply relationship rules to a non relationship instead of just being in a relationship.

[shobe-sandwitch]

idk who needs to hear this, but your wants are not outrageous. you want love? you want attention? you want peace? you want comfort? you deserve it. you're not asking for too much.

[sportyandricho]

[6lacksoul]

[whitepeopletwitter]

[neogohann]

[bromo-mctwotterjock-deactivated]

New weight loss secret. Personal trainers HATE him for it.

[sheabutterbitch]

Some cops are good people! I've met one! The job is important but we need far better regulations so the bad people don't get in! Some cops are bad people! They need to be in jail!

How’s that boot taste?

[yourbigsisnissi]

There are no good cops. Because a good person wouldn’t apply to be a cop in this racist system we have. How can you call someone “good” who literally makes money enforcing a racist criminal justice system.

FOH

[godzilla-reads]

Classic Black Literature

I’m an avid fan of classic literature, but I feel like in the world of academia, people are very euro/white-centric and forget many amazing black authors of classic books, so here’s a small list!

“Beloved” by Toni Morrison

“Invisible Man” by Ralph Ellison

“Native Son” by Richard Wright

“Go Tell it on the Mountain” by James Baldwin

“The Color Purple” by Alice Walker

“Not Without Laughter” by Langston Hughes

“Cane” by Jean Toomer

“Their Eyes Were Watching God” by Zora Neale Hurston

“Sister Outsider” by Audre Lorde

“The Autobiography of an Ex-Colored Man” by James Weldon Johnson

“Through the Ivory Gate” by Rita Dove

“A Raisin in the Sun” by Lorraine Hansberry

“Passing” by Nella Larsen

“Amiable with Big Teeth” by Claude McKay

“Imperium in Imperio” by Sutton Griggs

“The Street” by Ann Petry

“The Count of Monte Cristo” by Alexandre Dumas

“Narrative of Sojourner Truth” by Sojourner Truth

“The Curse of Caste” by Julia C. Collins

“Jazz” by Toni Morrison

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[yourbigsisnissi]

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[yourbigsisnissi]

Amen

[dailymedialab-deactivated202304]

𝐵𝑜𝒹𝓎𝑅𝑜𝓎𝒶𝓁𝓉𝓎

[cosmonautroger]

[sethnocentric]

Via Queduong

[rweu]

[luxet]

Unusual Asks

Spotify, SoundCloud, or Pandora? 

is your room messy or clean?

what color are your eyes?

do you like your name? why?

what is your relationship status? 

describe your personality in 3 words or less

what color hair do you have?

what kind of car do you drive? color?

where do you shop?

how would you describe your style?

favorite social media account

what size bed do you have? 

any siblings?

if you can live anywhere in the world where would it be? why?

favorite snapchat filter? 

favorite makeup brand(s)

how many times a week do you shower?

favorite tv show?

shoe size?

how tall are you?

sandals or sneakers? 

do you go to the gym? 

describe your dream date

how much money do you have in your wallet at the moment?

what color socks are you wearing? 

how many pillows do you sleep with?

do you have a job? what do you do? 

how many friends do you have? 

whats the worst thing you have ever done? 

whats your favorite candle scent? 

3 favorite boy names

3 favorite girl names

favorite actor? 

favorite actress? 

who is your celebrity crush?

favorite movie? 

do you read a lot? whats your favorite book? 

money or brains? 

do you have a nickname? what is it? 

how many times have you been to the hospital?

top 10 favorite songs

do you take any medications daily? 

what is your skin type? (oily, dry, etc)

what is your biggest fear? 

how many kids do you want? 

whats your go to hair style?

what type of house do you live in? (big, small, etc) 

who is your role model? 

what was the last compliment you received?

what was the last text you sent?

how old were you when you found out santa wasn’t real?

what is your dream car? 

opinion on smoking?

do you go to college? 

what is your dream job? 

would you rather live in rural areas or the suburbs? 

do you take shampoo and conditioner bottles from hotels? 

do you have freckles? 

do you smile for pictures?

how many pictures do you have on your phone? 

have you ever peed in the woods? 

do you still watch cartoons? 

do you prefer chicken nuggets from Wendy’s or McDonalds?

Favorite dipping sauce? 

what do you wear to bed? 

have you ever won a spelling bee?

 what are your hobbies?

can you draw? 

do you play an instrument?

what was the last concert you saw? 

tea or coffee?

Starbucks or Dunkin Donuts?

do you want to get married?

what is your crush’s first and last initial?

are you going to change your last name when you get married? 

what color looks best on you? 

do you miss anyone right now? 

do you sleep with your door open or closed?

do you believe in ghosts?

what is your biggest pet peeve? 

last person you called`

favorite ice cream flavor? 

regular oreos or golden oreos? 

chocolate or rainbow sprinkles? 

what shirt are you wearing? 

what is your phone background?

are you outgoing or shy?

do you like it when people play with your hair?

do you like your neighbors? 

do you wash your face? at night? in the morning?

have you ever been high? 

have you ever been drunk? 

last thing you ate? 

favorite lyrics right now

summer or winter? 

day or night? 

dark, milk, or white chocolate? 

favorite month? 

what is your zodiac sign

 who was the last person you cried in front of? 

[yourbigsisnissi]

Do u think that some people are just naturally more hard working and ambitious than others? Sometimes i feel like i dont have it in me to be career oriented and chase my goals. Even tho i have lots of career goals, i just have no energy or motivation to chase them. I want that money and good job but i do absolutely nothing to achieve them. Idk if i’m just lazy or need counseling.. but i was hoping you can provide some insight on how to be more motivated to complete goals

i mean, i read this and all i can think is that capitalism sucks. because we live in a society where so much of our identity is tied to our career. so if you don’t have career goals or some big lofty goal, then you begin to doubt your worth, capability, or wonder if you need counseling.

the fact that we have to work, sucks. the fact that in order to be seen as valuable and productive, we must have a job, sucks. i don’t think not being a person who is consumed by their career goals means you’re lazy or there is something wrong with you. i think you’re hitting that wall where you’re questioning why so much of who you are must be intertwined with what job you have.

i personally hit that wall as well, and i realized that i didn’t want being a lawyer to be the most interesting thing about me. i went to law school thinking i would be a big corporate attorney. i came out a bleeding heart public defender. and even now i’m in a competitive field within that space, and i don’t have that desire to be the best at my job. i want to do good work and i want my work to matter. but i used to wonder why i wasn’t sitting around trying to be as competitive as my co workers

and i realized the issue was capitalism, making me feel like i had to compete for value, and earn my worth through career achievement

so now i’m in a place where i want to do good work that does good work for society, but i want more in life than just career success. so yes, while i have had more trials than many of my colleagues, and i’m a better attorney than many of my colleagues, my desire isn’t to grab for power or status. 

i just want to be happy. and having career ambition doesn’t always have to be a part of that narrative. i can have ambition for other parts of my life. i can desire to be the best wife i can be, the best daughter i can be, the best friend i can be. those can be huge amazing goals too. 

so that’s my long answer to say you may be ambitious about the things that matter to you. and maybe you have career goals generally, but you’re not passionate about them because your interests are elsewhere. and that doesn’t mean you’re lazy or there’s something wrong with you. it may mean there’s an issue with a society that defines your worth by what you can produce.